Why can’t I feel attraction to men I date anymore?

[BrightBubblyKat]

If I’m not feeling chemistry, should I give up on that particular man?

[caring__1]

Early on in a relationship people either look to see whether compatibility exists or they present a facade to be something they're not in order to be accepted. To reduce your frustration, take a deep look at yourself to determine what is important and what will doom a relationship. Once you know these things, check them out in your potential partner before you invest in a relationship. If you start by stating what you are seeking, potential partners often just say "Me too," whether it is true or not. Ask them to describe their patterns rather than tell them what works for you.

Also, look to see if the qualities you seek actually take you where you want to go. For instance, I've always found myself drawn to small-built women, yet it's very hard to find small-built women who feel good about themselves and what they bring to a relationship. No one enjoys being in a relationship with someone who refuses to see value in what they bring to the relationship. I've had to adjust what I see as attractive to not have to deal with this common insecurity. Are you also seeking something that doesn't really work for you? Maybe you're drawn to guys with money, yet resent they're always working and not giving you quality time. Prioritize your ultimate end goal rather than the pretty path you believe should take you there.

No one's saying you need to date people who don't fit what you are seeking. If the package being presented doesn't work for you, don't waste your time or expect them to change for you. Life is much more enjoyable alone than settling just to be in a relationship. Don't keep attempting to force that square peg into the round hole. Open your eyes, take your time, and find a round peg that fits.

[AliSulayman]

After thirty, you become wiser and pay attention more to the tinniest details. You search for settling and peace of mind. Which makes it very hard to maintain the chemistry in a relationship. You feel you don’t have power to invest more in relationships and you want someone who meets your expectation and require less maintainance.

[DextroShade]

Sounds like you have had enough partners to damage your ability to pair-bond. You should give up on finding "chemistry" and tingles and find a man you can work with or just buy a dog and die alone.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if the chemistry is not their, then why stick around?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yep. Nothing physical equals a friendship.

[Jennz6]

Try a girl, that’s what I do