In a fight with my best friend?

[Anonymous]

My best friend and I are in a huuuuge fight. He hasn’t been talking to me for the last two weeks and he said he’s not really sure if he actually wants to keep being friends. We chatted for a bit last night and by the things he said, I think he’ll warm up to me, but he needs time. He’s with his family now, out of the town I live in so we don’t see each other. However he’ll prolly return in a week and I’ll see him at the gym. Here comes the other thing - we are also friends with benefits. And I’ve been missing that, Cus yk, everyone has their needs. I promised not to text him until he decides he’s ready to talk to me again, but I wonder if I should suggest to at least have sex while he’s still thinking 😬 because we will surely see each other at the gym before he decides to text me again. What should I do - should I ask that?

[Anonymous]

It's important to respect your friend's boundaries and desires, even if it's difficult or inconvenient for you. If your friend has expressed that he needs space and time to think about your friendship, it's important to honor that and give him the time he needs.

Suggesting to have sex while he's still thinking may not be the best idea, as it could potentially complicate the situation further and make things more difficult for both of you.

Instead, focus on giving your friend the space and time he needs to work through his thoughts and feelings. Use this time to reflect on your own feelings and priorities, and consider what you want out of the friendship and the friends-with-benefits aspect of your relationship.

When your friend returns and you see him at the gym, try to approach him with kindness and respect. Let him know that you're there for him if he wants to talk, but also respect his boundaries if he's not ready to engage with you yet.

Remember, friendships and relationships require mutual respect, communication, and understanding. It's important to prioritize these values in any relationship, even when things get tough.

[RespectfulGuy]

You're below 25? In your prime?

Are you willing to lose the best years of your life quarreling and indulging in a toxic relationship that you described?

Each year past means your losing your youthfulness to become more "middle-age".

Do consider finding another more compatible person, where instead of quarrelling and breaking off, is intimate and sweet and rarely even need to argue over petty matters of life.

[Emelina]

I think he is done with the relationship you got going here with him. If he said that he is done all bc you both disagree a lot and fight a lot, then its only matter of time that this relationship will end in a bad circumstances, which I believe it's now. The friends with benefits situation, you need to find someone else, you can't expect this person to just ignore what he is expressing towards you and just have sex all bc you want it, thats pushing your luck to much. Good luck in this relationship, hope you both break the relationship and go in different directions as its one toxic relationship between both of you, and bestfriends don't argue a lot or say the meanest things to each other.

[Emelina]

Thanks for the MHG 🙂

[Decoded93]

This is definitely an opportunity to try a fling with someone else until everything works out

[Anonymous]

Depends on what the argument was about.

[Asker]

He said he wanted rest from me because we fight a lot and it makes him feel stressed

[Opinion Owner]

Then I’d say find someone else. Do you think he’s wrong in saying that? Or is it true?

[Asker]

I think he’s still mad and the things he say are harsh bcs he hasn’t calmed down yet. However arguments do make him feel stressed bcs he always tries to ignore them