Has dating and finding love really become that horrible for others?

[SarahS98]

Even my husband confirms it has and I'm now wondering if there is some truth to what others and he are saying.

My husband used a couple analogies of what he felt it was like finding me. He says it was the same as if finding the Amazon river (pink colored) dolphin, a currently endangered species that can one day become extinct in the wild or discovering the lost hidden diamond in large piles of coals and debris.

Seriously? Has it become that bad for others? Being a normal loyal person is hard to find? Is there some truth to all this? It can't be that bad for others or is it that horrible?

[Anonymous]

Well, let me tell you, the dating game these days is like navigating a minefield of sexual frustration and unfulfilled desires. It's like trying to find a needle in a haystack, only the needle is a throbbing, pulsating member of pure ecstasy and the haystack is a sea of limp, lifeless disappointments. It's enough to make even the most hardened of cocks quiver with fear and trepidation. And don't even get me started on finding true love - it's like trying to spot a unicorn in a field of horny, rutting beasts. It's a rare and elusive creature that can only be captured through sheer force of will and a willingness to explore the darkest corners of one's own deepest desires.

Your husband's analogies may seem extreme, but they're not far off from the truth. Finding a normal, loyal person these days is like finding a diamond in a sea of shit - it's a rare and precious commodity that is highly sought after but incredibly hard to come by. It's like trying to catch a glimpse of the Loch Ness Monster or Bigfoot - you know they exist, but actually finding them is a whole other story. But hey, don't give up hope - there are still plenty of horny devils out there just waiting to be tamed. It's all about taking a chance and exploring the depths of your own desires. Who knows, you may just find that Amazon River dolphin or hidden diamond in the process.

[SarahS98]

I like the unicorn and Loch Ness Monster analogies too. He also found it even more rare that I was still a virgin (then a couple months shy of my 21st b-day) when we met in 2019. I missed the old-fashioned concepts about love several people don't do anymore and always wanted to do things in the right manner.
I was so close to making it to the wedding but I gave in to him during our engagement right after we visited my parents on Christmas and returned home.

[OlderAndWiser]

The internet encourages others to whine and complain, and the butthurt crowd reinforces each other's beliefs. Dating has never been easy; you can't just post an ad and then interview a number of applicants. It was always required some effort. But if you date without a butthurt attitude, most people find a suitable partner.

[SarahS98]

I think so too. It shouldn't be hard. For instance, when we met he knew very well I was waiting till marriage (well I lost it to him during our engagement, lol) and didn't move in with him until getting engaged. I was clearly from the start what my expectations and goals were. I was dating to get married and have kids in my good fertile years, not to be a girlfriend for too long.

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe it depends how specific you want to be and how hard you are willing to fight to find the person that is right for you and how hard they will fight to be with you. If you want any guy - not hard to find. If he wants any girl - not too hard to find. If you want a specific type of person, it's harder depending how specific you want to get and if he wants a specific type of person, it's harder depending on how specific he wants to get.

[SarahS98]

This is correct. If I wanted to find a hook-up, any man would've lined up for that offer. If I wanted just a boyfriend to have sex and live together but no proposal, any man would've lined up for that offer too.
Nope. In my case I was looking for a husband, to have kids while still in my 20's and waiting till marriage. Very few lined up for that and out of the few, is my husband whom I met by random chance at a supermarket.

[SarahS98]

Though in the end, I gave in to him during our engagement, a couple months shy of the wedding, oh well.

[Molly1997]

I’m wondering the same thing. My boyfriend also makes it sound I’m some Diamond in the ruff all the time

[SarahS98]

Great to hear that. Keep being the diamond he loves. I think some people just try too much.

[xColinx]

I think people *try* too hard at finding the perfect relationship, FINDING love, etc.

Of course you gotta put yourself out there and be somewhat vulnerable, but beyond that the relationship stuff should just organically *happen* rather than someone going on a mission to find it.

But peeps try to find it through dating sites and stuff like that, then wonder why the thing they're basically trying to artificially manufacture isn't producing a good outcome / natural fit.

[SarahS98]

I think dating sites are pathetic. No one would've found me there. I've never created an online dating profile. He found me by random chance at a supermarket. I was suppose to go to an arts museum with a female friend and she stood me up so my planned changed. Good thing.

[xColinx]

That's super random and lucky and... yeah, that's how life works!

[Anonymous]

It's only horrible because people are looking online.

[SarahS98]

Exactly. I've never made an online profile ever. I met my now husband at a supermarket by random chance. I was suppose to go to an arts museum with my female friend and she stood me up and the rest is history.

[Opinion Owner]

I could write a book on why online dating doesn't work. The biggest reason is that it requires very little effort.

[Anonymous]

Dating & finding love looser game

[SarahS98]

I think what's wrong with people is when they create online dating profiles and go with the desperate mentality of searching for their soulmate right there. We met at a supermarket by random chance. I was suppose to go to the museum with a female friend and she stood me up.

[yuviii2012]

Yes a lot

[SarahS98]

I think online dating sites are ruining it for people. They're searching too much instead of just going outside and let things happen naturally.