Is it normal to say "I don't like you, I could've gotten someone better " to your partner during arguments?

[Anonymous]

He's the one who's constantly worried I don't love him or thinks I'm looking for better. Always taunts me saying. I go to work and come back immediately. he can take my phone anytime to check. I don't look for better. i just pray all the time for the time he'll become normal and trust me and we'll live happily ever after. But he says hurtful things during arguments. And all arguments stem from me spending too much time at work. i have a 9-5 office. I have to stay that time period even if I don't have work at hand all the time. But just cause our home is close he wants me to come whenever he wants to see me. and I do come home in breaks.

But if I mention anything about his loans or ask who'd u borrow money from again he freaks out saying I'm invading his privacy because I heard him shouting at someone on the phone because they were asking for money

How do I stop the arguments? He blames everything on my job. He says because I'm educated and have a good job I'm too proud. I'm not.

I don't take pride in anything. I have horrible inferiority complex.

[provokeesmokee]

No, that isn't normal.

You should tell him "then I break up with you. Go find that better someone, I will, too."

Then leave and never look back.

He's trying to manipulate you with that line. Don't let him.

Dump him, instead. He'll pull a shocked pikachu face and it will be glorious. Call his bluff. Dump him.

[Asker]

Manipulate me into doing or saying what?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say what's "normal". We live in a pretty f***ed up world. I will say this, words are like bullets and you can't take a bullet back after it's been fired.

If a woman said that to me I'd say, "I don't know if you mean that or whether you're saying it out of anger. But if you said it out of anger then you did it deliberately to hurt me. Mission accomplished. But know that after you saying that know I can never see you the same way again".

There are some things you just never say, even in anger.

[BoopBoopBeep]

He's controlling and insecure, and on top of that sucks with money. Go get a real man.

[Anonymous]

NO. So so so very toxic. Both on his end, and yours. Stop expecting him to magically change into your perfect man. He’s shown you his true colours and his red flag behaviour, you’re only wasting your time by sticking around. You’re obviously not compatible, so you expecting him to suddenly change who he is, is very unrealistic and a toxic mindset on your end. Leave!

[Anemone978]

He actually sounds dangerous.. I bet he will never be normal and live a happy life. If you watch men that murder their wife's they sound like him 😅

[catiecatie]

No! It’s one thing to think it, but to say it out loud! I guess maybe then put the plan into action. Fine then do better! 😂

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Controlling behavior and suspicious loan sharking...
You can probably do better

[Travis_Skyles]

That's not normal nor acceptable. You should not put up with such treatment. If he thinks he can do better let him go and find that "better" partner and find yourself a better partner yourself.

[fantasticass]

You need to leave him. He is abusive.. Men like this are psychopaths. Leave while you can.

[justabuddy]

Be very carefully what you say during an argument. Wounds may heal, but they always leave a scar.

[In_Trance]

No. Not normal at all. That's grounds for divorce

[Malwi93]

Then tell

him to get that