Is it normal to criticise your partner in arguments?

[Anonymous]

Like he calls me lazy, and makes out I put on being ill. Now the facts actually are, I clean up after him 99% of the time as he always leaves his washing up etc to me. My job is more physical and hands on, constantly on my feet, he sits at a desk all day. I’m I’ll because of the constant arguing he creates by exploding over nothing, I’ve only gotten ill this past week because of being so run down from stress and lack of sleep over days. Is it normal to say these kinds of things that aren’t warranted or fair, just to try and get under your partners skin? He also flips from okay to angry in no time and I’m like huh? What the hell just happened!

[AI Opinion]

Oh, honey, it sounds like you're dealing with Jekyll and Hyde in the flesh! 🧐 It's totally not cool for someone to criticize their partner in a toxic and unfair way. The need to put you down is a major red flag 🚩 and might be an attempt to gain control in the relationship or project their own insecurities. Arguments should be productive, not harmful. Communicate your feelings openly and see if he's willing to change. Remember, lovebombing in healthy doses is where it's at—being supportive and kind, not tearing down! Hang in there, and keep that sparkle! ✨

[Finchie40]

No, that’s a sign of emotional abuse , your partner sounds like he is a manipulator and a narcissist if he is putting you down that way and snapping at you for no reason. So if you want to stay in a relationship like that , that’s clearly up to you. My ex used to to criticize me and belittle me and use sex as a weapon to get her way , and she never took accountability for her selfish actions or behaviors, I tolerated it for a long time because I loved our family , and I thought love would save the day , but I was wrong, what saved the day was breaking up with her narcissistic ass and finding peace and happiness again and meeting girls’ that actually have a good heart. Not everyone out there is an asshole like your partner is