Do you use sarcasm with your partner during arguments?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Unlike my girlfriend, who has anger outbursts and long rants or physical contact when she's angry, I rarely get angry at her but mostly limit myself to sarcasm and dry jokes.
Sometimes she doesn't get them, and if she does she just gets pissed off.
What about you?

[smg99]

It will create more divisions in relationships and drive couples apart. I have had this happen.
Yes I was like your girlfriend long ago but I learnt that it’s physically exhausting. I wasted days in resentment and fueled anger.
Ok a part still remains but i have had so many people be sarcastic. It’s better not to drive in that to an already fragile individual, because you are caring I say and you don’t want to lose her so you ask.

[Pinay_ako]

Sometimes it helps in changing the mood from mean to funny. No lie. If your partner gets your humor, it will lighten the mood and end up making up or out

[fulfilling]

I do that all the time and we end up laughing.

[Pinay_ako]

@fulfilling true that. Then angry make up "you know what" happens next

[fulfilling]

I like the "what happens next" part lol.

[Pinay_ako]

@fulfilling me too haha

[runningbare00]

I use sarcasm very often in my daily life. Yes, I do use it with my partner when she's being unreasonable or just argumentive. Sometimes she catches the joke and laughs at me

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, sometimes I piss off my girlfriend, too! :) :) :)

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[shimmeryns]

Hmmm I'm a little concern reading many of your questions lately. You need to *communicate* with your girlfriend and make the relationship work. Venting things out online won't help change anything for the better.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

At least people here pretend to listen, she doesn't even bother as long as everything is "perfect" for her.

[shimmeryns]

Red flag there. I don't think you are happy with your relationship.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I'm really not. Things are improving, but too slowly - on some things she understands and improve, not so much on others.

[StingRayxoxo]

Only if I'm really appalled by something but I try really hard not to get sarcastic.

[Apple1996]

Always, also if I think something funny I have to say it, even during a fight

[PrincessGrail]

I don't use sarcasm much at all.

[pugshavecutebutts]

I think it’s inappropriate to make jokes during fights or arguments, just because that’s when a person is the most vulnerable with their emotions. My boyfriend likes to make dry jokes and sarcastic comments at me when we fight, and nothing makes me more upset. I feel invalidated and shut out. However your girlfriend should NOT be hurting you when she’s angry. That’s fucked up

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

We are just different when we get angry.
She can't keep herself from slapping or hitting or dragging me, I just give her the cold shouldef if I'm angry enough.

[Anonymous]

I'm just going to be honest, you post a lot of questions about your partner, mainly bad ones like her being mean to you, or undermining you, or just plain arguing. Just in my opinion, sounds like your relationship has some real problems that would probably be better fixed in person rather than asking people about it online. Just saying 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I vent here what I can't say irl

[AlienParasite]

My guy and I use sarcasm and dry jokes as a regular way to communicate regardless of our mood. He probably jokes more than I do. And yeah, it expands to arguments, and sometimes the dry jokes come excessively dry (in both directions). Plus sarcastic jokes might become specially annoying if I'm asking something serious that's worrying me and the answer I get is a joke, and this last situation isn't usually in both directions.

[MissKittyz]

Nope, never. I think that's extremely rude and usually just makes the other person more pissed off instead of trying to resolve the argument. My boyfriend does it sometimes and tries to copy my voice to mock me and I hate that shit so much. Makes me even more angry.

[GraveDoll]

I do this too. It seem to lighten the mood some... sometimes. Not all the time. I hate yellers and it the quickest way to get me to shut down.

If the person gives reason for my voice to get past a normal sound , It really best for that person to leave me alone.

I mostly do silence. it just safer.

[Browneye57]

It's like an actual tactic for addressing shit-tests - the 'agree and amplify'.
When they ask some stupid question as a shit test, that is simply ridiculous, you agree, then ramp it up to the beyond-ridiculous, 'till it's obvious how ridiculous it is.
Women are really good at ridiculous - it's built in. It's always about the FEELZ. LOL

[DizzyDesii]

I absolutely hate sarcasm. Absolutely hate it. I never catch on and often get offended. Its not a smart move with me

[Anonymous]

Nah, when she mad and doesn’t want to talk to me. I just act like the biggest goofball, if I’m at her house, I usually go into her bra drawer and put one on my head and scream with a Batman voice, “I am not the hero this girl deserves, but I am the hero this girls needs!” And she’ll laugh and then just tell me what’s wrong after enough jumping around, and doing dumb things.

[JackSmy]

So probably not a caring, understanding, and healthy thing to do?
When arguing, sarcasm is seldom well-received, even by women from states like Minnesota, where 'Sarcasm' is a State thing!

[HOAAH]

No i do not use sarcasm. I tell him how i feel, then i tell him my solution to the problem and solve it myself. If you want something done right... learn to do it yourself m

[Anonymous]

Do you even like your girlfriend? Do you ever have one good thing to say about her?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I just vent here what I can't irl

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe try to tell her some of these things. Otherwise you're going to become a ticking time bomb and explode with everything that's bothering you

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

You are right that I'm complaining too much and being too passive aggressive with her lately.
We talk about this - on some things she understands and improve, not so much on others.

In this period things are improving but there are still tensions, generally on my part.
She's getting everything she wants so for her it's "all perfect".

[Burdened-Pilgrim]

I probably would sarcasm runs in my family. Of course it'd just be in good fun not to actually take a jab at them.

[MrNameless]

Sarcasm is used as a put down. You're adding more fuel to the fire and further making the issue difficult to resolve.

[jgokgotit]

Nope. I never use sarcasm when mad because my tone of voice does not change enough for people to tell when I'm mad and when I'm joking.

[Kas19]

Hmm I don't know. I think I'm too heated in the moment to notice if I've been sarcastic. I think that sarcasm can make it worse though.

[FrenchGirl2]

I speak sarcasm fluently. It can either make the argument worse, make it funny or have a good line when you leave