Just moved out of my boyfriends apartment. How soon can I break up with him?

[Anonymous]

I moved out last weekend. We lived together for a few months and I just fell out of love and gained feelings for someone else from my past. The relationship felt dead. It’s been a week I’m pretty much all moved in to my new apartment. Is it fine to end things right away, like this weekend?

[Finchie40]

Just be honest about it , when you have to lie or keep secrets from someone you choose to commit to that makes you a selfish person , that only really cares about yourself , if you feel like your soon to be ex is going to hurt you and go ballistic on you then it’s probably best to write him a letter instead of blind siding him and catching him off guard. So by you telling him honestly why you left him for someone else is the right thing to do , cuz it will give him an answer as to why you left him and make ot easier for him to move on as well. Most relationships fail because people do not know how to remove selfishness for each other , they usually think what is best for them without factoring in on how their partner feels , when you just assume things are bad they might not be bad to your partner period , By you latching onto someone else does make you a selfish person but of you are honest about ot then honestly that’s the right thing to do ,

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life the only way to move is forward & being that you moved out of your boyfriend’s apartment & moved into your own sounds like you two broke up already but not officially. Have a heart to heart with your boyfriend & I guarantee he will understand if he’s smart enough. Call him on the phone & say we lived together for a few months & we have been together for yada, yada, yada & at this time being that I moved out & have a place of my own I think it’s best if we part ways at this time & thank you for the time we were together & your understanding in this matter.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Sounds like a corporate email saying he didn't get the job lol

[WanderingLoveWizard]

That's not to say I don't like it though

[Static_In_The_Attic]

@WanderingLoveWizard It does sound like a corporate email & hopefully he tells her to go pound sand first.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Lol, exactly

[Asker]

@WanderingLoveWizard 😆😆 lol

[Enlightenme21]

Break up now, there is no better time or moment then when you have already decided you want to end the relationship.

Its more cruel to not end things when your relationship is over for you.

Don't be deceptive and control his reality, he deserves to move on too and deal with the break up.

[Emelina]

Well, go and break up with him if one isn't happy in the relationship then ended asap so that way you both can move on forward and the less heart break. Hope for both of you the best in life. Cheers

[AviatorTom]

You broke up when you moved out.

[Sexiestjohnson]

I think I love the fact that no one judged you for loving a person, and falling in love with another while in relationship with him.


Nonetheless, I'd seriously think deeper before entering another love nest. It feels like you are not yet aware of the Plato dimensions of love.

[Asker]

I think you can’t help this and it’s the process of dating and finding your one

[Sexiestjohnson]

It will be Okay as long as it is devoid of benefits. Once benefits are attached, moving from one tree to another is kinda cruel. Sex complicates things.

[MrWolf]

With this things it's better to honest and open about it as soon as you can. Save both yourselves the trouble 😵‍💫 down the road.

The longer you wait the worse it will be.

[xColinx]

Dragging it out doesn't seem like it would be helpful for either one of you.

[Asker]

So it’s not mean to end it right away?

[xColinx]

Ehh... breakups are tough. I don't know the full circumstances that led up till now, so I can't really say what's mean or not, but I don't think the *mean-ness* factor is gonna change much whether you break things off now vs. a month from now or whatever.

[xColinx]

Does he know the other guy you're now interested in?

[Singing_Hollow]

The longer you wait, the harder its going to be. Just tell him so he has time to heal and move on. dont drag things out for no reason

[On_cloud_wine]

Wow good job. Usually all I hear is I broke up wth my boyfriend but I still live with him

[BoopBoopBeep]

I mean if he didn't get the hint when you moved out...

Assume he's an idiot and didn't get the hint, but... yeah I mean now we're just going through the formality

[chrissykerdock]

make sure you do it over the phone and not in person... you can never tell a guy may not take it well and he may hit you for it.

[Asker]

That’s why I waited until I moved out

[Light_beam]

coward?

[chrissykerdock]

@Light_beam no guys can get violent not worth dieing for no man has respect for women they really don't they can careless if they get hurt or die.

[BoopBoopBeep]

if you're actually worried that a breakup is going to bring about violence you were with the wrong man to begin with.

[Asker]

@BoopBoopBeep being with the wrong man is the reason to break up so

[BoopBoopBeep]

yeah absolutely, but every "wrong man" isn't potentially going to kill you... i'd say what was it about the psychos that attract you to them if it keep happening

[BrookeAZ90]

I'd have assumed moving out was ending it? I don't know why bother waiting.

[Asker]

For me, it was always temporary so he has no idea

[Becky316]

My advice is you can, but don't move in with another guy till your ready to maybe have a longer-term relationship with them

[OfMiceandMen]

Was he there when you packed up and left? If so, isn't it kind of obvious that you are done...

[serious_miss419]

If it’s over and the relationship is ending.. then it’s over.
No need to drag on the break up.
If it’s over, break up.
If there’s room to mend things, then don’t break up.
What’s the confusing part?

[provokeesmokee]

You didn't end it before you moved out? Lol, what does he think you've been doing, a deep clean?

😂

[ShesRad80]

just rip the band aid off and break up sooner is better then later. spare him some of his feelings, no need dragging it out.

[msc545]

For the sake of closure, you should end things as soon as possible and in an unequivocal way.

Be kind.

[Christoff92]

Well. You already moved out so that's automatically a break up. Because if a live in boyfriend would someday lead to marriage.

But moving out leads to breaking those ties. Again it's a automatically break up 🙂

[exitseven]

Sure, just rip off the bandaid. He probably knows what's coming anyway. It is customary to offer goodbye sex.

[Anonymous]

Considering you are already sleeping with another man now is OK but if you want it to appear otherwise two to three months after breaking up b4 dating another guy in public.

[integrale77]

If moving out isn't breaking up then I don't know what is!

[DizzyDesii]

Yea just end it to avoid further wasting his time

[Adam1978]

Yes, I don't see how you can move out without breakup.

[alice55]

If you moved out of the house you basically already ended things...

[Anonymous]

Lol you really need to know when to breakup w him? I mean you moving out pretty much says so.

[runnerboy]

I'm sure he knows it is over. Best to get it done and move on. Do your best to end it on a positive note if possible

[Anonymous]

Lol you moved out... in the word's of Bill Engvall "here's your sign".

If your SO doesn't get it's already happened/happening. Then I don't really think it makes a difference at this point whether or not you tell him. 😆😆😆

[TacosRAwesome]

I'm pretty sure that if you moved out of the apartment and he's not stupid he's aware that the relationship is basically dead.

[Drumlin2001]

As soon as possible. Why would you prolong it? It's cruel.

[Anonymous]

As long as your honest with every man you are with that you are committed to your own feelings rather than them.

[RealMarek]

If you want to break up with someone, there is nothing stopping you.

[Ms_Facesitter]

As soon as you want it to be. Never wait if you don't want to stay.

[shortster]

Sure, you are under no obligation to continue the relationship. Plus moving out is just about a defacto break up.

[RingOfFire]

Yes... why wait. It is not helpful to either or you.

[Unit1]

You already "broke up" with him but you never told him. It's called ghosting.

[LiamJHayden]

If you base relationships upon "feelings" they are very likely to fail.

[Light_beam]

a cheater? a coward? you fell in love with a guy and you didn't talk to him about it.. you moved out BEFORE you talk to him? how disgusting is that !!

[whistlingwh0res]

What are you talking about? You already moved on?

[Actor3]

The same time as you move out. Unless he is violent fo it by post.

[nolabels]

It sounds to me like you already ended it.

[slatyb]

Immediately. Seriously?

[RavVid]

I would have thought moving out was breaking up

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Monkeybranching.

[DrKrieger]

Why lead him on with false hope? Just end it

[Sasha0426]

Why didn’t you do that before moving out?

[Light_beam]

becauase she is a cowrad and disrespectful.. she likes sneaking out and secret life instead of standing up for what she had decieded

[Asker]

@Light_beam because I feared his reaction

[Asker]

Men can become violent and destroy my things

[KrakenAttackin]

Sounds like you have already ended things.

[LivingExample]

“Moved out” was the “break up!”

[najekim]

You ended it when you moved out.

[justabuddy]

I kind of think you already have.

[Jmmmfi4]

I'm so glad I'm single

[FunkyMonkee]

Why wait?

[Wise4myage]

Today?

[legalboxers]

you just did

[Luckycharms12]

Clear it's over

[In_Trance]

right now

[Hotboy_booblover]

Before immediately

[riverrat3]

Noww

[GoingDownSouth]

immediately