Why do exes want to stay in your head despite being with someone else?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

Depending on who broke up with who first , but no matter what an ex is an ex for a reason , if someone truly valued you and loved you they wouldn’t be your ex period , People that hold on to their exes are people that shouldn’t be getting involved with someone else period , they only care about themselves and realize what they had with you was better than what they left you for in the first place , Most of my ex girlfriends has tried getting back with me , after they choose to be selfish and cheated on me , with someone else , they eventually realized what they had with me was way better then what they thought they would receive from their new person. Basically , you don’t know what you have until it’s gone , little did my ex girlfriends realize that I don’t take an ex back period , they had their chance and they blew it , My advice to you is to tell your exes to go Fuck themselves and to leave you alone , if they truly valued you they wouldn’t be your ex period. Kick them to the curb where they belong

[Asker]

So basically to summarise what you’re saying is they want me back? I’m not too sure of that yet.

[Asker]

Why does it depend on who broke up with who, I’m struggling to find the answer to my question in your response…can you elaborate please…

[Finchie40]

If you broke up with them first , and then they moved on to someone else , and then they are still contacting you, then they are just trying to make you feel jealous of your decision and yes they more than likely still have feelings for you , If they broke up with you first and moved on to someone else and they are still contacting you , it means they are trying to get you to miss them and make you jealous

[Finchie40]

In what way are your exes still in your head? Are they reaching out to you? , Are they checking in on you? Do they see how you are doing? If that’s the case then they clearly aren’t over you , if they are still reaching out to you period, They might be holding on to the good things you shared together while overlooking the bad things that occurred to make you split up in the first place , whatever the reason for the break up, only you can put a stop to it by ignoring them and acting like they don’t exist and moving on with your life , in my opinion that will be the smartest thing for you to do so they get the hint that you want nothing to do with them anymore and get them out of your head period. People that try to stay friend’s with their exes are only hurting themselves by holding on to someone that didn’t want to hold on to you, if they truly valued you they wouldn’t be your ex in the first place , exempt them from your life and it will be easier to get them out of your head

[Asker]

I have been avoiding contacting him and interacting no with him on social media, he contacts me and likes some of my posts on the odd occasion, but mostly just watches my stories as soon as I post them most of the time. I don’t initiate anything, just respond politely to remain amicable. I asked if we should end things and he agreed so it seemed mutual.

[Asker]

I think he thinks I’ll be his back burner. What a stupid way to think.

[Alex8736]

Because you moved on and their insecure brain expected you to go running back to them. When moving forward it's best to close the past keeping it out of sight out of mind

[Asker]

But he’s with someone who seems lovely and like she’d make him happy.

[Alex8736]

Maybe just to get a reaction but if you unfollow him and stay private you will be the one stuck in his head

[Asker]

I ignore him already now, he watches all of my stories while I rarely watch his.

[Anonymous]

Simply because of keeping their options open.

It's not uncommon for a guy to sleep with his ex again even though he has another girlfriend.

It's not uncommon for a girl to keep an ex on the back burner in case the new boyfriend doesn't work out.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because they want to still have some power over you

[Asker]

Why though? To boost their ego?

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s one reason. It really shouldn’t be an issue if you block them and never talk to an ex right?

[Asker]

I need to get an idea of the reason before I take action, I’m thinking ahead and wanting to make sure it’s the right decision. I don’t do regrets.

[BarryLiverstone]

What’s the decision?

[DiegoO]

What exes are you talking about

[Asker]

What do you mean? You don’t know them.

[normandi]

Nostalgia

[Asker]

So pointless.