Is my boyfriend emotionally cheating on me?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend saw a group photo and found my colleague looking better than me and he asked me her name and later on when I said that a colleague of mine is resigning so he asked me if it’s the same girl and also he asked me where is she going or joining and how is she doing and I feel that my boyfriend has a crush on her. Does this mean I should break up with my boyfriend? I asked him why he wanna know about her he said just like that - is my boyfriend toxic? Does this indicate that in future he is likely to cheat on me with someone better? Now we both have shared with each other our Instagram password and Recently from my Instagram, he opened her chat which u had unopened since past 3-4 days. It means he is checking her Instagram out for seeing her photos etc. So I’m really annoyed now. Does this indicate that my boyfriend does not really love me?

Yes

No

[ohsheeT]

Okay a couple things here if your boyfriend talks to you that way that's a red flag if you stop worrying about all the things that are going through your head and listen to his words he will tell you exactly what he's going to do you just have to be quiet and listen and clear all the clutter out of your head that's the first thing

The second thing you say does that mean my boyfriend's going to cheat on me with somebody better

What are you talking about.

If the girl knowingly goes out with him it doesn't mean that she's better than you it means that she is 100 times worse than you.

And of course if he does it without breaking up with you first he's just a pig I kind of feel he's that way anyway

But I can already tell you that you are the type of person that once you get it in your head it's just going to play over and over and over you either need to chill and let things happen or get out of the relationship because you don't need to be living your life always wondering each and every day what he's doing cuz that's just going to drain you it's going to make you older before your time it's going to make your heart tainted and it's just going to be bad for you so how much do you really like this guy honestly down deep I think you've already told yourself that a few times I don't think he's even that good of a guy for you I don't even know him but I think you said the same thing to yourself but you just don't want to be honest.

[Finchie40]

It’s definitely disrespectful , and an indication that your boyfriend doesn’t really value you , you have every right to be concerned and you have every right to reconsider your relationship with him because the truth is , how would he feel if you were checking out one of his co workers? So that to me is something I would really reconsider if a girlfriend was doing that to me. Your boyfriend is a selfish person that is only thinking of himself that shouldn’t be in a committed relationship if he doesn’t no what it means to be in a relationship and yes it’s an indication that he could possibly cheat on you if he Comes across someone he feels is better than you , me personally would kick that type of person to the curb where they belong

[beautyjoyfover200]

That is annoying I would hate for you to constantly ask me about another girl even if we’re just talking or friends. Like why the sudden interest sir. But can’t accuse of him cheating if nothing happen, it’s okay to look at other people accounts if it’s public because it’s the internet for everyone to see. Keep an eye out though don’t need to waste time.


Also I don’t know what you look like but don’t ever down yourself or compare to someone else. I know it can be hard sometimes but your absolutely beautiful in your own light.

[Boomchakalaca]

I never heard of emotionally cheating. Interesting, his behavior is inappropriate and disrespectful af. Similar to what my boyfriend does actually. Why does he wanna know about a stranger so bad. Talking about her a lot would annoy me. I don't know how close ur boyfriend is with this chick but id probably hit her up to c if he’s been seeing her.

[Asker]

So we have shared with each other our insta fb messenger password and I can see his WhatsApp web from my laptop so I don’t see him doing anything and he doesn’t know my colleague who look better than me

But

He opened my insta and saw her messages that I had unread since 3-4 days

[Asker]

So it’s evident that he checked her out on my insta

[Asker]

And I’m too annoyed coz I know that he is attracted to her more than me

[Asker]

Which makes me think that would he cheat on me behind his back or flirt with someone..

[Asker]

Or is he emotionally cheating on me

[Boomchakalaca]

I would never share passwords and joint accounts with my boyfriend bc of privacy reasons. The only way to know for sure is if he actually DOES cheat. Actions speak louder then words. As tempting it may be to break things off. U should talk to him about how u feel and if he won't fix that then there is ur answer!

[Asker]

How should he fix this? So I have blocked that girl on his and mine insta and fb 😂 is that right thing to do?

[Asker]

This way he won’t know where she is etc and since I can see his WhatsApp web he don’t have her number thank god

[Asker]

And I always shun or shush him whenever he asks me about her

[Boomchakalaca]

It seems that u r putting in the work for him to avoid her. He is a grown ass man (i hope) he should be doing these things for u, u shoukdnt hav to. Let him make his own decisions and choices bc the sooner u know the better

[Asker]

He said me that he would never block anyone as it’s too rude and rough

[Boomchakalaca]

If u want to talk more privately , u r free to dm me.

[Asker]

He said me he would block only if the girl is too much behind him

[Asker]

Ok cool

[Asker]

I dm-Ed you

[genericname85]

in my opinion, even the world "emotional cheating" is the desparate attemt to find a problem where there is no problem and create drama out of nothing, which women seem very eager to create for some reason. as if happiness was a plage you're trying to avoid.

look. if he's loyal and he treats you right, what more do you want? what sort of morbid sick freak is this strive to controll their partners thoughts? yeah he will find other girls more attractive than you. that is 100% the case. you can rest asure of that. but that's the point of loyalty. staying with your partner despite having appealing alternatives.

if your partner never had any sexaul or romantic thoughts about other women, he would not be "loyal". he would just be stuck with you cause there are no other options. loyalty is created by options.

[molonski2]

Beautifully said , I cannot improve on that ! Perfect examples.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

If he doesn't treat you like you're the only girl in the world, you can do better. Plain and simple.
There will always be someone more attractive than you, that doesn't matter.
What matters is whether or not he acknowledges their existence, especially in your presence.
There are guys who wouldn't think of doing that

[Asker]

Hmm point

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Point, set and match

[knallpilz]

It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't really love you. It definitely means he isn't taking the relationship seriously, though. He's being a dickhead, and you absolutely have the right to tell him to cut it out. You just don't do that kind of crap, when you're with someone. That's highly disrespectful.
If he really likes her so much, he can call it quits and go after her.

[TheorionMage]

You BOTH are at that non-commital age of "Mr. & Miss Good-Enough-Til-Better-Comes-Along" despite what you BOTH may openly espouse... a form of 'friends with benefits'.

BEFORE you deny this... to what degree would YOU be willing to commit to RIGHT NOW? Binding commitment vs. FULL bodily autonomy as YOU see fit circumstances permitting~

[ManOnFire]

A boyfriend should not be showing that much interest in his girlfriend's colleague. Asking you all these kinds of questions about her, and without shame or consideration for you. Then he goes and read's a message from her that I assume was meant for you.

That's not a good situation. He sounds like he's wanting to cheat, yeah.

[MementoMori777]

he's definitely not being a good boyfriend by doing this, seems uncalled for and i think if you want to take precautions and breakup then do so but i hope you know he might run to her i you do, its a shitty situation no cap

[Anonymous]

In all honesty, you picked him as a boyfriend so having him around makes you okay with having this issue come up. You chose to take on bumps and hurdles with a partner. So work it out, give it all you got, and accept the outcome. Weather it be good or bad.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, that is exactly what he is doing.

[jjj101010]

So he told u he found her more attractive than u?

[Asker]

I can clearly see it

[Asker]

She is more attractive than me

[Asker]

I also find myself less attractive than her

[jjj101010]

It’s hard to judge urself against someone. Happy to chat if u want, drop me a message or follow

[Anonymous]

the answer is glaringly obvious.

[msc545]

Ask him, not us.