What can I send my ex fiancé’s mother?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She recently traveled to her hometown in North China, and picked me fruits with her own hands and sent them to me. I want to make her happy too. I am outside in the shopping mall but don’t know what to buy, I asked her and she’s not telling.

She’s a 53 year old very simple lady, mostly staying at home.

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10 mo

I wonder how did I deserve such love from her.

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10 mo

Now that she learned I’ll be moving, she offered to come over and help me take my stuff to a new place. That would be such a huge help. Everything I had in China for 5 years, I have in this apartment.

[glennos89]

It's really nice that she is still being so nice to you. That says a lot about her personality 🤗

Maybe you can try to remember what kind of things she has in her house in order to figure out what you can send her that she will appreciate.

Or just ask your ex fiance for advise if you are still in contact with him 🤔

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t talk with my ex fiance anymore

[glennos89]

Does he know you are still in contact with his mother?

I also had a great relationship with the parents of my ex, at least during the time we became friends after our breakup. But once that friendship came to a point of not working out anymore her parents also started treating me like shit for no reason at all.

The fact that his mother is still being straight with you even when you don't have contact with her son anymore is pretty rare

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He knows and is thankful to me.

[glennos89]

The rest of the world can learn something from the way you should threat eachother even after breaking up ❤️💪

[andreasderjuengere]

Make her something - with your own hands as well. You may have a practical talent? It can be simple enough and does not need to be ''prestigious''.

Same as her, you'll gift her some of your own time that you spent on getting the gift.

[Fabiana1]

no. Everyone is an independent person, we belong to ourselves first, we have thoughts, we have personality, rather than giving all of us to each other. We can have reservations, such as the privacy you don't want to say, and those who have secrets are mature, aren't they? Sometimes it's better not to say it.

[sheikalana]

Get here a lovely bouquet of flowers women love flowers. Either that or a house plant.

[msc545]

Some sort of keepsake might be nice or some artwork of some kind but past that I'm not sure

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s a nice idea, thank you 💖

[SnowedIn]

Would she like a book? Send her a book.

Or perhaps some sort of sweater or shawl for cold winters?

Or some rare tea.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She is not much of a reader, she’s a simple lady, has never studied hard or read any books. But she has a very high emotional intelligence and I can say she’s a very open-minded and intelligent person.

[SnowedIn]

That's fair. So maybe not the book.

But a sweater or shawl?

I don't know if this is done in China but a picture frame?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have a very nice picture of her son and mine. It’s a painting, using our actual picture, he has his eyes closed and is leaning on me. I can make a copy of that picture and send her. It’s so beautiful even we broke up my mom still keeps that picture in a guest room as a perfect symbol of love.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But no… I don’t want to somehow remind our relationship

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I want to have a separate relationship with his mom.

[SnowedIn]

I think something warm for the winter.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Great idea! Thank you. But it’s summer here

[SnowedIn]

Lol fair. But it will be winter and she'll pull it out and think fondly of you

[mommymommymommy]

You shouldn't be sending anything to an ex or his family. HE IS AN EX

[Shy_Steve]

You could take her out for Dinner after She helps you pack and shout her a nice meal.

[Sparkie460]

Send her a nice bouquet of flowers with a hand written thank you note

[Christoff92]

Yes. The act of kindness doesn't necessarily need anything in return 😊

[justabuddy]

Flowers, tea, a book, some fruits, it's summer so a hat.

[justabuddy]

That's a nice lady.

[Flower7]

A gift card would be safe.

[Lliam]

A beautiful vase or sculpture?

[rebeliouse]

flowers and meat

[rebeliouse]

veg and tea

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Flowers is a good idea!

[EaterPeter]

A thank you note with flowers