Boyfriends family member paid for everyone except me?

Question

I went out with my boyfriend , his sister and her boyfriend. We had ice creams. My boyfriends sisters boyfriend told my boyfriend he’ll pay for him and his girlfriends ice cream whilst waiting in line. I had to pay for my own ice cream. I felt quite awkward. I by no means want a hand out, but this felt quite rude. Am I overreacting here?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

. That is rude , The sister’s boyfriend should of paid for you as well, since he was offering to pay for everyone else , so by him excluding you was pretty rotten thing to do on top of that , your boyfriend should of stepped up and said don’t worry baby I got you , So not only is the sister’s boyfriend is in the wrong , your boyfriend is as well. Sadly to say that right there shows your boyfriend’s true character , and sadly it will only get worse if you choose to stay with someone like that , When someone can easily exclude you from things that shows their true character as what kind of person they truly are , a person that only cares about themselves , they don’t know how to value someone else but themselves, when someone truly loves you and cares about you , they don’t exclude you period , never settle for someone that excludes you and treats you like a convenience, you will only be wasting your time thinking that person is going To change for You but sadly they don’t , Your boyfriend should honestly feel like a total piece of shit for not including you what so ever you have every right to tell him how you felt and you have every right to dump his ass as well, Your choice

Ali4Sy · Accepted Answer

Sure you are not overreacting...

But maybe your boyfriend didn't think in a right way at that time maybe he got confused when his sister's boyfriend told him that and did not know how to refuse...

I think you have to talk with him about that and tell him about your feeling when this happened... I'm sure he'll understand that.. and do something in the next time to support you.. he'll be attentive more for your feeling, So the most important thing is to tell him..

And If you need my second advice you can show your boyfriend's sister's boyfriend his value in the next time.. just pay for everyone and look at him and tell him that you pay for him ( I think this will diminish him in front of his girlfriend.. and he will feel cheap and ashamed) just do this for one time 😈

beautyjoyfover200 · Accepted Answer

That’s sooo odd?
Why didn’t your boyfriend stood up for you or tell the other guy no because your with him either he or you will pay together or separate.
You need to talk to your boyfriend about that, like that was not cool and embarrassing on his part that he is not a man at all

Starlove4 · Accepted Answer

Your boyfriend should’ve paid point blank period. I never go anywhere and pay for food my man pays. It’s your boyfriend’s fault !

DannyUk2017 · Answer

You't boyfriend kinda felt like a "queen" been paid for, but he "forgot" about you which is not Fair Towards you, He should have stop him and say: You pay for your girlfriend, and i'll pay for mine. But that wasn't the case, which kinda made your boyfriend look Weak in ur face, but He didn't seen it that way...🤔

ProbablyClueless · Answer

This strikes me as odd too. I'm not really sure what the right way to handle a situation like that is... maybe he thought that your boyfriend would cover your bill?

And how do you even ask what the deal is? Maybe talk with your boyfriend and see how he wants handle the situation.

Mangospacho · Answer

It might come off like you’re being petty, but that is weird and kind of suspicious that they were leaving you out like that. I’m surprised your boyfriend didn’t stand up for you and at least mentioned “hey, you forgot my girlfriend” or something innocuous like that. Even the boyfriend just letting you pay for yourself is highly sus because the whole reason you’re there is because you’re with HIS FAMILY not because you wanted to get ice cream.

Anonymous · Answer

Its a rude move, but he technically knows them already and is trying to reciprocate. The fault lies with your boyfriend not paying for you if it was his idea to bring you along, but if the whole situation was a shock to him too, he may have not known what to do himself.

I would blame his sister's boyfriend for leaving you out. Jealousy or disapproval may be a motivator, but we'll never know.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Decorum would persuade your boyfriend to quickly pay for yours and not let it go on long enough to create awkwardness, but his family members are under no obligation to pay for you.

slatyb · Answer

Extremely rude. You were deliberatey excluded. Tell your boyfriend how you felt. If you don't feel safe trip tell him that, you need a new boyfriend.

SolitarySolace · Answer

You're not considered family to them until you're married. You could leave him immediately after having been paid for and they would believe you used them all.

Sparkie460 · Answer

No you're not overreacting. That was very rude. If nobody paid for you, your boyfriend should have at least picked up the check. That was very unthoughtful of him

Staximus · Answer

Your bum boyfriend is the one who should have paid for your ice cream. What a shit bag.

BlackJeep · Answer

That's not cool. You are not overreacting and your boyfriend should've stepped up

Christoff92 · Answer

Some people are stingy like that. That's how the world works now and these days.

LazerBean · Answer

Yeah that's pretty weird.

Wise4myage · Answer

Why didn't your boyfriend pay for you?

Anonymous · Answer

He is a dick for sure

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