My boyfriend makes me pay for everything?

I pay for every date, every meal, etc. I pay for both of us.
We're in the same boat financially (moderately well off college students.)
I asked him if we could pay for our own portions or maybe take turns paying and he gave me some shit about feminism. He still refuses to help out. What should I do?


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  • Your such a gentlewoman. Omg, see you're showing that you really care. You're a "real" woman that knows how to treat a man. Well girls usually pay. Ask him to split the bill. He probably wouldn't mind, but you probably wouldn't be getting a second date.

    Think about your situation and read the bullsh*t i just typed. Understand it, and remember it for future reference.

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    • You're preaching to the wrong choir. I don't expect men to pay for my shit, just their own.
      Try again.

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    • And please do believe me I am in the same boat as you , my boyfriend does the same shit !

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  • He clearly doesn't care about you hun. If he cared, he would have treated you differently, in a special way. He would take care of your needs. I dont say guts should pay all. But a true gentleman at least tries to impress his girlfriend. He wouldn't give u bs about feminism or care about such a subject. This guy is using you/playing you. If I were you I would dump him immediately. Show some selfrespect. You deserve way better than this selfish, greedy prick. I hope you take my advice.

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What Guys Said 14

  • Anything about feminism would only make sense if you were asking him to always pay for you, which you're not. You want to at least split, right? Seems perfectly reasonable. I'd go with only one of two choises if I were you:
    1) Talk to him about it (again) saying it's hard for you and potentially dump him, if it's not something you're comfortable doing.
    2) Stop putting out and give him the same shit about feminism he gave you.

    I'd go with #2 :)

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  • Lol sounds like it's not fun when the roles are reversed, huh? XD

    Honestly, if he's not willing to pitch in and pay his part, he may be using you, so time to find someone else.

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    • Agree. The thing is, why doesn't this shit happen to girls who actually use men like that lol. I've never used a guy.

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    • True true. I think there should be a stigma against anyone who uses people for money. Not just girls.
      I had another responder basically tell me it's ok because a majority of girls do it too. But whatever

    • There is a stigma against guys who use girls for money, just look at the replies on here, except for one or two the rest say it's wrong. You wouldn't get these replies if the genders were reversed.

  • tell him to step up or f.. k off- very simple

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  • dump him if he doesn't start chipping in it sounds like he's playing u

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  • That is a first for me. My previous relationship was the other way around. My girlfriend expected me to pay for EVERYTHING which is to some degree understandable since men are supposed to pay for dates etc. But once we made official, I expected her to at least pay her part sometime or even threat me to dinner. She did not. I ended up in the same situation as you are now. I stopped paying for her and it became an "issue" for her. She later dumped me for a much older and richer guy.
    If I were in your shoes, I would ask him to pay for his share. If he does not, I would break up with him since he acting kind of a gold digger. Also, feminism entails women paying for their part but not for both people. Hope this helps.

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  • What a cheapazz

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  • In that case he better be putting out.

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  • He most likely won't budge on this, so u either stop seeing him or continue to see him understanding the arrangement.

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  • Yes he should pay for his own share of stuff if he can't afford to pay for the whole meal , you got your self together he is slacker.

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  • fuck him break up with him

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  • if u want sharing its okay
    if u want him to pay all than no

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    • Like I said in my original comment, I want sharing.

  • Sounds like a gold digger

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  • he just eats your money
    i mean he just spends your money then, he is not good boyfriend
    i wish i had a girl, so i could pay for her meals too..
    if i have enough money ofc

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  • LOL. Sounds like he found a keeper. Not sure you did though...

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What Girls Said 27

  • So he makes you pay for everything because feminism? He sounds like an entitled prick who blames feminists And women for every time he doesn't get his way. Dump him, your his girlfriend not his sugar momma.

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  • He should pay for himself, so just don't pay for him anymore.

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  • The idea of a relationship is to work as a team to build a healthy bond with your partner. If you dont want to pay for everything and he refuses to make an effort i would question his intentions.

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  • He sounds like a douchebag, so unreasonable. If he's just going to make you pay for everything and not even split the bill then don't take him out anymore lol

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  • tell him your broke for the week and can only afford your half of the meal. or dont go out with him see what happens. its shitty when girls mooch, and it's equally as shitty when guys mooch.

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  • Dump him. Gotta be equal. He obviously likes taking advantage of you.

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  • break up

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  • Refuse to pay. Don't go out on dates anymore.

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  • Cut that one loose!

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  • if this is real then he's a free loader and dump him. My s/o and I split everything. Sometimes I pay sometimes he does.

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  • Dump the parasite's sorry ass.

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  • 🎶Dump him🎶

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  • Sounds like he'a using you for food srs lol.

    I would start telling the server to slit the bill, and you only pay for your portion of the meal, and give him his bill. How is that feminism? If he still refuse to pay for his own portion than he would break up withhis ass.

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  • What you should do is DUMP HIS ASS!!!

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  • He's a prick. Why are you still dating him?

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  • He is using you, he's just a male gold digger and an irrational one at that. Break up with him.

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  • Doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend tbh

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  • you should break up with him. he abuses you in a way. i can understand that sometimes he's out of cash but come on, everything has its borders. you deserve much better.

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  • time to get a new boyfriend

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  • If this is occurring now in your relationship and your not happy , you need to speak to him about it or break it off. Can't imagine what the would grow into in the future , you may end up unhappy

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  • Dump him. He's a using beta ass.

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  • refuse to pay until he pays his own half

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  • Dump him! A relationship only works if both of the parts takes part in it in anyway.

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  • Tell him to fuck off

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  • this is not OK.

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  • Refuse to pay for him from now on.

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  • Sounds like a dick to me.
    Tell him you can't afford to always be paying for him also.
    And if he gets mad or has something to say than maybe he is just using you.
    He should be decent enough to split the bill.

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