What would you do if your partner told you this to make you jealous “I have thought about doing it with other guys/girls”?

[Anonymous]

You would get shocked and you asked what? They said “doing everything”..

My girl said this to me around 1.5 years ago, we are in a happy relationship. But this shit sometimes still come to my mind when I get angry at her.

[EnnyT-S]

Are you certain it's to make you jealous? Let's be honest, in a monogamous relationship, we all imagine things like that from time to time. It's natural, and only wrong if we act upon those desires in a way that abuses someone.

The fantasy realm is private, and the fact your partner raised it could indicate a desire to provoke jealousy, or maybe they just want to share the fantasy with you to act it out (as in imagine it during sex). Be open and accepting of the things your partner shares with you. Let them know if it is something you wouldn't accept, or wouldn't do, but if it's a fantasy you could both engage in, it could strengthen your relationship.

[Asker]

Yes its normal to fantasize. But its weird to tell your partner straight like you've imagined it. Thats so disrespectful

[strateguy632]

i would echo, "no biggie , me too". then see her reaction.

[DaBiggestBird]

Possible replies:

”Well shame on you” “Well jeez, that hurts my feelings, did your mom tell you to say that?”