My heart is broken. I am in so much pain. Please dear God, I need advise. I have no family or friend support. Can you offer me some advise?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I work together. We have fought endlessly about my suspicion that he is cheating on me with a female coworker. I’m the past I caught him cheating once with someone different. This was 3 years ago. I have always feared that he is dating a colleague because he always sits with her. He has never made the effort to sit with me at work because “that’s my spot.” He will try and talk to me more and hang around me. But it feels like no matter how much he has denied it up and down, I can’t shake that their relationship is close. And they speak the same language so I don’t know half the things they talk about. Tonight he decided to leave work with her when u was schedule to work later. I looked at him and said don’t you dare as I saw her waiting from him down the hall. He looked at me crazy and told me that I am making a scene and then proceeds to walk down the hallway and leave with her. I am so broken. I am so so broken. Is this enough to assume he is cheating…

[YourFutureEx]

Even if he's not cheating (which is not true as he's definitely cheating), he's making you feel absolutely devestated, EVEN AFTER you told him to refrain from doing something that's making you feel terrible.

If these things are happening in front of your face, imagine (actually don't waste your precious time in imagining a single thing about him) what he might be doing behind your back!

You don't need to prove that he's cheating. We're not fighting a court case of adultery. You guys are dating and you should be together as long as you make each other feel safe and expect a secure future with each other, neither of which is happening.

Do yourself a favour and breakup. The longer you'll take, the harder it'll be to recover from the pain and get a new better partner. It'll hurt, but come on, you're an independent woman. You're strong enough to recover from this mess and find someone better and secure a better future for your upcoming family. The world has plenty of great guys and if the comparison is with him, then the options will increase twofold than that.

If you still have doubts, ask yourself if you're happy? Cause you deserve to be happy, you deserve better.

[MementoMori777]

Just break up with him, he's clearly not giving you attention you need and he isn't caring about your feelings, that's enough of a reason for a breakup, I'm sorry about it all and I'm sure you are heartbroken but I can assure you that when you find a good man, you won't regret breaking up with him, you'll be okay and you don't need him anon, you aren't happy and being happy in a relationship is important, at this point this guy is just in the way of you finding someone that will actually keep you happy.

[ShesRad80]

he's not good for you, just walk away from it, i dont have family either all passed, but you can get through this i promise. walk away and start fresh leave him where he belongs, in the past

[Smashingdoozy]

Doesn't matter if he is or not. He is knowingly making you insecure and that isn't ok

[madhatters4]

it sounds like he's cheating but we can't say for sure but regardless he certainly isn't putting you first and is doing nothing to help you feel comfortable... i think he's cheating but even if he isn't he is not treating you or your relationship the way it should be treated. it may be hard but i think you should end things OR demand a change in his behavior to make it crystal clear that he puts you first over another woman

[BoopBoopBeep]

He has never made the effort to sit with me at work because “that’s my spot.”

I didn't need to read anything after that. Such a lame excuse. Yes he's cheating on you. Walk away.

[jshm2]

You are being drama and need to get your shit together. Ditch him as he is clearly not caring much about you. But you also need to sort yourself out.

[Staximus]

My advice is you tell him to go kick rocks. In the future, don't date or be in relationships with people you work with.

[Ben487]

impossible to say whether he is cheating or not. You have to do more detective work.

[Agape93]

Yeah he's cheating. Ditch his ass.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, get some self respect.

[normandi]

Listen to your heart