Girls, how would you view a guy who's only ever liked just ONE girl?

[Anonymous]

He avoids/ignores every other gal regardless if they loath him or not

[kylee2437]

What’s so special about her that he doesn’t try to realistically date others?

[Asker]

It was by chance/luck

[kylee2437]

I don’t think liking someone is by chance or luck, I think you should have a reason to like someone otherwise it’s just your mind letting you hang onto someone that may not be a fit for you.

[Asker]

She was the one to make all the flirting & what not

[Asker]

She enticed him & showed a lot of signs but she rejected him in the end purposely

[kylee2437]

So there’s your answer. Trust me , I had someone in my life like this, but when it comes down to it, you have to accept the facts and try to eliminate your feelings. Your feelings are telling you to hold onto a version of someone that never existed but you imagined in your head. I know it hurts, but moving on away from this person will help you avoid believing she’s the only person for you

[Asker]

She was 30

I was 18

[kylee2437]

So she manipulated you. You have to move on unfortunately. Sorry you were abused by this woman.

[Asker]

Manipulated?

[EricSummer]

You did not ask guys, but this is obviously pathetic. The guy should seek professional help. If it involves bereavement I apologize for the blunt words, but even then he needs professional help if it lasts too long.

It is different if a guy stays with his first love who also loves him back. That's beautiful and a person does not need more than one love in life if they already found one.

[Asker]

What if said guy wasn't ever looking for any kinds of relationship or friendship but things just happened?

Said guy never thought anyone would ever see him in a sexual way? So when the 1st person sees him like that he's taken back?

[EricSummer]

He needs to move on. Maybe this encounter showed him that he can be attractive to some women.

[Asker]

He was 19

She was 31

[EricSummer]

He is still young, so he can move on. What difference does her age make there?

[Asker]

She was his therapist

[EricSummer]

Ah, this is ironic. I said he needs professional help, but that obviously backfired. Maybe get a male therapist?

[Asker]

Professional help? Over a woman playing with him?

Just curious how men would view this type of behavior of a young guy going through a situation like this

[EricSummer]

It is not acceptable for a therapist to have sexual relations with a client. I think she breached the rules of her profession there. Otherwise I think it is not legally relevant as the guy was of legal age of consent.

It is not clear to me why this experience would keep him from liking a different girl now.

He likely needs therapy now to get over the traumatic experience. Maybe a male therapist could be a safer choice there, even though the unprofessional behavior of one woman should not count against other female therapists, either.

[Asker]

Low self esteem

Views himself as very unattractive

Therapist was the only one person giving him "that type of attention"

Closest to someone "caring" about him

[WhitneySnow]

Why?

[Asker]

Long story

[WhitneySnow]

Ok..