What is your idea/definition of love?

[ManOnFire]

What do you think constitutes true/real love in a relationship?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Unconditional acceptance,

deepest loyalty,

when you are more loyal to your love than that of your selfish wishes.

A choice, we make everyday, to choose that person over others, even if there are others who might be better, refusing to choose anyone but him, making him your best choice, seeing him with the eyes of love,

loving his little flaws,

supporting him through hell,

being your raw flawed self with him and feeling lucky, how could he love you, when you are so flawed.

Wanting to give 10 times more than you take.

Caring for him even when he has no idea it was you, who was being his guardian angel.

Selflessness. When the happiness of that person is equally important as yours.

Making him feel like he rules the world, because you chose him, so he has every right to be spoiled by the best of love that there exists,

loving his body, like you love your own.

listening to him for hours when he talks about something you have zero interest in, but still listening happily because you want him to always feel heard and always remember that doesn’t matter what he has to say, you’ll always hear him and will do your best to accept and understand him, as flawed as he is.

and lastly, love is a motivation, to live yet another day, to survive, to pursue happiness and never stop fighting, to dig the hell when you know he’s there. So that he knows, he’s never alone,

face his worst fears for him and celebrate his greatest achievements,

support him to be who he always dreamed to be,

and lastly, not wanting to die earlier than him, not because you want to live longer, no… but because you want him to know he’s loved and cared for in his most intimate moment of life, at his final destination you want him to feel the peace of having his head in your arms.

And what happens to you later, you don’t care, as long as you know that it’s not him who’ll struggle the hell of a loneliness. You might die of a heart attack a moment later, but he doesn’t need to know, what matters to you is that you gave him the most peaceful and a painless last breath. You gave him what you promised, happiness, peace, and love till the very end.

That’s weird, but I think wishing that is the ultimate selfless love.

[ManOnFire]

"listening to him for hours when he talks about something you have zero interest in" - This is something I always worry about when I talk to a female, trying not to go on and on about something that I can tell isn't really a big deal to her.

[Dysney1023]

When you are suffering but care more about the other person’s state of mind and well being. I feel like love encompasses selflessness and deep deep profound feelings that even your therapist can’t uncover. Love can be rational but it also can be quite irrational. It’s a state of mind as well as a feeling. There are many forms of it, familial, romantic and platonic. Love doesn’t strangle but sometimes it hurts. It feels like heaven and hell mixed together. ^_^ that’s my definition of it.

[Anonymous]

It’s a deep conviction and a since of loyalty for someone. Many people mistake it as a “feeling” (no offense young ladies but you are notorious for that) but it’s not. That’s infatuation and not the same thing not love.

The true test is if you know the person would be happier without you in there future and you accept it. Accepting something doesn’t mean you like it or are happy about it. But you understand why and accept it because you truly want what is best for this person.

I have truly felt this way about only one woman in my entire life. Sure I had the feeling of infatuation and crushes on a few women in my life. But with her it something much deeper.

I knew the break up was coming. I wasn’t ready to be in a committed relationship at the time. However I felt blindsided by her literally treating me like I was less than human when it happened (not exaggerating).

She feel into the wrong crowd (made friends with man hating radical feminists) and if definitely corrupted her. I saw on IG she took up smoking and got a tattoo in her 30s. Got fake breasts too. She’s still single but has fixated on all sorts of “finding yourself” bs delusion.

A part of me wants to take solace into seeing her make so many voluntarily non fulfilling and self destructive choices (considering what she said at the end). She destroyed her femininity.

But another part of is actually very sad. Despite how she treated me at end my feeling of deep love still remained. I don’t like seeing her make herself miserable given the poisonous environment she decided to embrace. I would like to call her trash but a the true love I have really never wanted to see her go down the route. She will likely be voluntarily lifelong unmarried and childless.

[ManOnFire]

Dang. That's deep. I know a woman who's similar that I used to date. Although I don't love her anymore, I still think it's sad that at her age she still lives a life of lies and can't grow.

[Opinion Owner]

It haunted me years and years bro. But I got to carry on.

Anyway I now fully believe that women mature quicker but they hit a LOWER CEILING with their emotional ceiling than men. Men might start out more immature but over time we surpass women in maturity. Decades later but it happens.

This “glass ceiling” feminists have complained about for so actually might really exist but it’s SELF imposed.

[ManOnFire]

I believe the opposite, that women mature slower than men. We've been taught to see women being emotional as a sign of maturing fast, when in actuality it's a lack of maturity and a lack of control over their feelings, to a point of being illogical about things. I'm not saying being emotional is immature per se, I'm saying that ALWAYS reacting to your emotions is not mature, as well as being given to silly emotions. Even if a man can't stop playing video games or goofing around, most men will still have the maturity to get into serious mode in a serious situation, regardless of his feelings.

[Opinion Owner]

Well it’s how you see teen girls acting vs teen boys. Both can be immature. But a teen boy might be like “hey we should blow off firecrackers” and the teen girl will be like “ah there is dry grass over there and it will start a fire”.

But then a middle aged woman will be like “oh there is nothing wrong with dressing a young boy up in pink to explore his gender” and an adult man will be like “that’s completely asinine and that’s screwing with the kid’s head”.

Women hit a hard ceiling because society gives them a lot more leeway room to act irrational and careless with their emotions when they are adults vs. how adult men are judged. Young boys might get away with a lot of immaturity but adult men are held to a much higher standard. We lose a lot more face when act overly emotional and/or immature.

[ManOnFire]

Mmmmm... I think there could be a bunch of different tandems to that scenario. A teen girl can be like "I'm so fucking mad at her, I'm gonna block her" while a teen boy is more rational and says "But she's supposed to be your friend, why would you block her?"

But extremely true on your last point. Men are definitely held to a higher standard and we get judged for reacting in ways a woman might. Which is why men find it harder to do and say certain things. It's sick the way people are.

[Opinion Owner]

From an evolutionary perspective girls matured faster then boys because for a long time in history they could of expected to be married and start having kids when they were still in their teens. Mother Nature had to mature them faster to prepare for motherhood.

But I swear there is something about middle aged women that drives me nuts. Especially “modern” and often childless middle aged women. They are like Benjamin buttons when it comes to logic and reasoning. They caused they get behind. The way they argue. It’s like they think they compensate for the loss of physical attention by acting irate and hysterical.

Some of the worst dating experiences I’ve had in my life was with women close to my own age. Call me “creepy” for wanting to date younger women all you want. But it’s not just an attraction thing. It’s an attitude thing.

I might be bitter about some things that have happened in my life now I’m in early middle age. But I do NOT take it out on other people. But many middle aged women think it’s okay to do that shit. That’s where the maturity limitation kicks in.

[Sonorous]

Through empirical observation, I have discerned essential parallels among the various manifestations of love. In the quest for an ideal definition, I refrain from imposing strict boundaries. Instead, I like to draw an analogy with gravitational force—a unifying, imperceptible phenomenon fostering connections between individuals, enriching the human experience.

[ManOnFire]

Jeezis, dude. It's not algebra.

[Sonorous]

my b cuz i meant its when u kiss dem and they dont call the cops

[Xia1994]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Sonorous]

[Robbey]

I don’t know that I could define it, but describing it, sure.
1. There’s the obvious: honesty, loyalty, and caring.
2. But there’s also wanting, deeply and intimately, to bond emotionally.
3. I’m a person who definitely needs some alone time, but if it’s too much, I really miss him.
4. After four pregnancies with my ex, I didn’t want more. But when my hubs and I married and shortly after I found out I was preggers, I was over the moon.
5. And my husband’s son with his ex, whom I’ve adopted, was only two when we got together, I didn’t give birth to him, but I am absolutely his mother and he’s my oldest boy. He’ll always have a mother who loves him. And that undoubtedly reflects how I feel about his father.
6. After, 10 years and 7 years of marriage, when he kisses me or touches me in an intimate way, I still just melt.
7. I thank God every day that I’m a woman, if I weren’t none of the above would have happened. That’s because of him. And I know that I make him feel very, very good about being a man.

So that’s how I see true (romantic/marital) love.

[CubsterShura]

A deliberate and conscious choice to be there for someone every single day and fully accepting and appreciating them for who they are and where they stand in your life.

I think this is the most accurate definition of love out there. Because sometimes we don't like the person we love (e. g. an annoying roommate but cannot ever imagine leaving their side after all these years of going through life together) and sometimes we don't love the person we like (e. g. a study buddy whom you admire for their discipline but you're not very emotionally connected to them).

[LostandFound__x]

I think it's when you help someone feel secure and reach their full potential, rather than having to constantly pull them down and upset them. So many relationships unfortunately come with that, and I realised it's not love if it makes you sad.

Another thing is, never letting that person down in the real sense. How amazing would it be to know that your person will always have your back and never betray you. That's also love.

[ManOnFire]

"How amazing would it be to know that your person will always have your back and never betray you." - This would mean a hell of a lot to me.

[Anonymous]

When you aren't afraid to talk about anything or say anything. You can always be 100% about your emotions, feelings, and thoughts. Knowing no matter what that person won't judge you, shame you or use it to their advantage. They will accept, appreciate, and love you no matter what.

(Not excusing toxic behavior like lying and cheating but like being for real with each other).

[ManOnFire]

I agree.

[rgii55447]

Love is not a feeling, it's not an action either, it's the connection from your Soul to that of another that motivates you to do what's best for them, not because of how it serves you, but because of who they are as themself, in their own existence, that you realize is more precious and valuable than the entire Universe combined.

[CrazyKittyStyx]

For me it’s mutual care and respect, being supportive and not always putting your own needs and wants first. You need to give and take, do what’s best for your partner sometimes and what’s best for you at others. It’s a partnership. Loyalty plays a massive part in it too, I want someone who gets me and has my back. I don’t need big gestures, I think Valentines Day is complete commercial bull.

[ManOnFire]

I hate Valentines Day too.

[Zatsuma]

Someone honest who values you for who you are, can show empathy, pays attention to your likes and dislikes. Communicates in the bedroom with ease and makes it a point to show you are a priority to them. Now and in the future.

[Anemone978]

When you both love each other deeply and feel fulfilled and don't want anyone else but your love.

[AngryCarl2]

I think it means putting someone else ahead of yourself.

[Libidononexistenteww]

Everything my boyfriend isn’t. He promises effort and all these things and does none

[Nikki1989]

Love goes beyond words. You have to feel it to know it.

[zero444440000]

caring about each other and lots of nice wholesome bed love making. there isn't much more to it other then "the" feeling you know? like you know if you felt it.

[TooHot2Care]

"love" . . . ? The fuck is that? Some kind of ice cream?

[JackCarter]

Serious concern , care and passion for each other!

[Hinaaaaa]

When you feel like Home🙃

[OddBeMe]

Not wanting to be around anyone else but that person all the time.

[exitseven]

When somebody loves you back.