Does this seem right?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for 12 years, talk of marriage, but hasn't Happened. He knows I want to get married, because I'm tierd of "shacking up" well last Christmas he bought nothing for me, valentines day, bought me a cheap present, my birthday a card that says "to my wife" well my feelings are hurt because he could of done something for my birthday, he works makes $70 hr. and I got a card that said wife. He says everyone at works thinks I'm his wife, but I'm not and I feel really bothered by this... do I have rights to feel hurt by this?

[slatyb]

You don't need permission to have feelings. You feel what you feel. He's not interested in marrying you. If he were, he would have. Your choice is to keep on keeping on or to end it and move on. You are not feeling loved. Are you willing to do this for another 20 years?

Have you told him how you feel? What happens? Have you considered seeing a counselor to help you move forward, either with him or without him?

[Blueeyes81]

Yes. Let him know in no uncertain terms how you feel. To a lot of guys that stuff doesn't matter so they think giving minimal effort vs no effort should suffice. Make it very clear to him that you expect more and feel neglected.

[Asker]

What about what the card said

[Blueeyes81]

If that's what you want tell him to make it happen, not make light of it just because people think you are already married. It's really up to you. He's comfortable so things won't change unless you make him see how important these things are to you. Guys can be pretty dense.

[EmmaMary]

12 years of this shite? You need your fucking head seeing to. smh

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[MementoMori777]

I can definitely see why you are, after 12 years that's a long time, one day you should bring up to him that the fact that you aren't really his wife, it effects you emotionally

[BlackJeep]

It's been 12 years. Why would he want to change things? He's not spending money on a ring after 12 years of this

[CallmeTheKnight]

12 years too late ma’am. He’s definitely not gonna marry you… he never was and never will. You see it for yourself