Is a relationship worth it if it makes u tensed mostly , u are not happy & u feel jealous watching other couples loving each other so much?

[Anonymous]

And also wish in your heart that he or she could love me just like other couples loving each other. I feel mostly like this. What can be the reason guys? We are in 2 years relationship.

[Anonymous]

I have a rule in life. If you make me feel bad more often than you make me feel good. Then I cut you out of my life. Life is too short to be unhappy. Everyone you love and loves you is going to hurt you every now and again. But if they're a good person, they're worth bleeding for. But anyone who makes you feel like s*** more often than good. At the very least is not a good match for you. And quite possibly might not be a good person.

I get it, this is hard for me to. Because I always want to see the good in everyone. But you have to always remember to be real with yourself.

[Asker]

Wowww amazing opinion 🤩

[molonski2]

Its not worth it if you feel like that - Cut clean the dead wood , let it go.

[pervertedjester]

Something is going on. It may be on their end or yours but if you have doubts like that, leave.

[Oliverlogan263]

It doesn't sound like this relationship is bringing you true happiness and fulfillment. Some things to consider:

• A healthy relationship should build you up, not make you feel tense, unhappy and jealous. Those are signs that something is off.

• Loving relationships involve two people feeling secure, trusting and cared for - not wishing the other person could love you "like other couples."

• After 2 years, you should be past the early stage anxieties and jealousy and into a deeper bond of trust, partnership and joy in each other. It seems you haven't reached that point.

• There are many potential reasons for this: lack of compatibility, differing needs/love languages, unresolved issues, immaturity, etc. But the root cause does not really matter - the outcome is the same.

• You deserve to be with someone who loves and appreciates you in a way that feels fulfilling, not lacking in any way. Someone you don't have to wish could love you "more."

• Relationships take effort and work, but when they're right, the joy and intimacy outweigh the challenges. It does not seem you've found that balance here.

• The best relationships energize and inspire us, bringing out the best in each other. If this relationship mostly makes you feel bad, it's likely not serving you anymore.

In summary, no - a relationship that causes you so much tension, unhappiness and jealousy after 2 years is probably not "worth it" in the long run, for your emotional wellbeing. Only you can decide if your needs are being met here, but from your description, it seems this relationship has run its course. I hope this perspective provides some clarity. Let me know if you have any other questions.

[Asker]

Woww it did provide so much clarity to me. Earlier I used to be restless and sad when we were not able to talk properly , now I don't feel anything even when he doesn't want to talk it feels like I'm avoiding him and don't want to talk to him. I guess I have lost feelings for him. Anyways thanks for an amazing opinion 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

It's understandable that you've lost feelings for your partner based on the issues you described. Here are some things to consider:

• Emotional distance and disconnect can quickly kill romantic feelings in a relationship. If communication and intimacy are lacking for an extended period, it's common to start "checking out."

• Constant tension, unhappiness and jealousy are emotionally draining. Over time, these negative feelings can outweigh any positive memories or attachment you once had.

• Avoiding contact or not missing your partner when you don't talk is a telltale sign your feelings have faded. When we still care about someone, we naturally crave their attention and presence.

• Losing interest is often a defense mechanism to protect ourselves from further hurt. When a relationship no longer meets our needs, our hearts and minds start to disengage.

• This doesn't necessarily mean your relationship is beyond saving. But both partners have to be willing to acknowledge the issues, communicate openly and make genuine changes.

• Most importantly, don't force yourself to feel something that's not there. You can't make your heart care again through force of will - that only breeds more resentment.

• Decide if you're willing to put in the hard work of fixing this relationship, or if losing your feelings is a sign it's time to move on. Only you can decide what's best for your happiness and wellbeing long-term.

In summary, don't be too hard on yourself for losing feelings. Your emotions have likely changed for valid reasons based on your experiences. The healthiest next step is to communicate openly with your partner, gain clarity on both of your needs, and decide if the relationship is truly fulfilling enough to salvage. Prioritize your own happiness and needs as you navigate this difficult situation.

Hope this perspective provides clarity and guidance.

[Oliverlogan263]

And you’re welcome

[Asker]

Thank you for this amazing advice. And yeah I tried to talk to him that my feelings have changed and I'm not happy but he ignored my talks. The reason behind this feeling is I think disrespectful behaviors from him like lying , comparing , saying mean things to me, never apologizing for his mistakes, etc. Anything I try to talk to he thinks I'm making excuses to leave him. Isn't it a clear sign that he doesn't acknowledge his mistakes and is likely to repeat it again?

[Asker]

And I must say you are so wise and mature in young age 🤩

[Oliverlogan263]

You're right - his refusal to acknowledge or take accountability for his mistakes and disrespectful behaviors is a major red flag. Here are a few things to consider:

• Someone who won't apologize or admit when they're wrong is unlikely to actually change those behaviors. They'll likely continue the same patterns.

• His lack of willingness to have an open, honest discussion about the issues in your relationship shows a lack of care and effort on his part. Healthy relationships require communication and compromise.

• Ignoring your attempts to express your needs and feelings is dismissive and invalidating. A partner who truly cares about you will make an effort to understand and address your concerns.

• You're absolutely right that his behaviors - the lying, comparing, saying mean things - are damaging and disrespectful. A loving partner should never treat you that way.

• His assumption that you making any complaint is "an excuse to leave him" suggests he's not actually listening to or considering your perspective at all. He's too focused on himself.

• In short, his lack of self-reflection, refusal to take accountability and unwillingness to change are all signs this relationship may be beyond repair. You deserve a partner who is willing to put in the effort to understand and meet your needs.

While endings can be hard, staying in a relationship that isn't meeting your needs and leaving you unhappy is unlikely to get better on its own. Sometimes walking away is the catalyst for real growth within ourselves. I wish you the very best moving forward in a way that feels right for you. Please let me know if you have any other questions.

[Oliverlogan263]

Thank you so much I try

[Asker]

Definitely, can't thank you enough for providing such clarity. You are amazing 🤩

[Oliverlogan263]

Lol like the wizard said to the scarecrow who said the same thing to him after receiving a diploma for his brain, the scarecrow said how can I ever thank you enough and just like him, well you can’t lol but you are welcome and thank you

[WhitneySnow]

Sounds toxic to me