Does saying "I love you" as a boyfriend make a relationship worse? Many people even women say don't tell the girl you're with how interested you are?

[hardboiledink]

Does telling your girlfriend "I love you" decrease attraction and make a relationships worse since a girl will be more relaxed?

[Finchie40]

Nope , if a girl doesn’t like hearing her man say I Love you , then more than likely she is not really in love with him , A girl that values her man and appreciates her man is going to say I love you back without really any hesitation for the most part , she is going to Love hearing those words come from his mouth , Now if he is saying it all the time , like a broken record , then a girl can get annoyed by that and think why does he always have to say I Love you , all the time. But even if she is annoyed she still will love hearing her man saying it , if she doesn’t like hearing him say it then something is wrong that she isn’t telling you , She is probably loving someone else lol

[hardboiledink]

cool thanks! makes sense

[Anonymous]

Depends on the time it is said.ﾠ

[LostandFound__x]

Of course it’s not a bad thing and you should tell your girlfriend that you love her!! But don’t rush into things is important. Don’t feel like you have to say it. Say when you are ready and let the relationship go at its pace. The only time I can think of when I disliked it is when it felt rushed and insincere.

[WhitneySnow]

No. I think the opposite. Assuming she’s into you, a girl will be thrilled when you tell her “I love you.”

[hardboiledink]

cool

[Oliverlogan263]

Saying "I love you" in a thoughtful and genuine way does not necessarily make a relationship worse. Here are some things to consider:

• Expressing your feelings of love for your partner in an honest and heartfelt manner can actually strengthen the bond of trust and intimacy in a relationship. When done at the right time and in the right way, "I love you" can be very meaningful.

• Some people advise men not to reveal too much interest too soon in order to build attraction and tension in the early stages of dating. But in an established relationship, openly expressing your love can be a good thing.

• However, saying "I love you" too soon, insincerely or just to get a reaction may come across as needy or desperate and potentially damage the relationship. Timing and authenticity matter.

• Women vary - some may relax more after hearing "I love you," while others may feel even more motivated to keep their partner interested and invested. It depends on the individual.

• In healthy relationships, both partners feel secure enough in the other's love that relaxing and being oneself does not equate to decreased attraction. They see each other as whole people.

• Ongoing attraction in a relationship depends far more on factors like shared interests, quality time together, physical intimacy, emotional understanding and compatibility of values and life goals.

• Saying "I love you" can actually strengthen attraction by deepening emotional connection, vulnerability and honesty between partners. But it's not a magic phrase - the relationship needs to be built on a solid foundation first.

So in summary, expressing your genuine love for your girlfriend in the right time and place is unlikely to inherently "make a relationship worse." What matters most is cultivating intimacy, trust and connection both before and after those important three words are said.

[dynamicyandere]

Solid answer. 🥂

[WindAtMyBack]

@dynamicyandere
No it's a horrible answer because it's AI. This person should be immediately banned.

[dynamicyandere]

@WindAtMyBack

Even if it’s AI, I still stand by my opinion that it’s a solid answer.

It may not be an original opinion, and using AI to write may or may not be against Terms of Use, but the advice itself is still good advice.

[genericname85]

it definitely can. that entirely depends on the concepts that a girl has in her head about what a person who says "i love you" should also do for her. so with saiyng that, everything could abrubtly change, cause now suddenly these concepts apply to you, when they previously have not.

[mandyfire98]

What? What bullshit is this? Saying I love you to a significant other didn't ruin the relationship. You're supposed to say I love you.

[Wonderingguyy]

No. you should say what you are are feeling. If they were to lose attraction to you, it would be for a different reason

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's obviously far better to mislead and deceive your partner, make them wonder about your intentions, and to act as if you are the big boss in charge of everything.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

No. Not saying it will lead to you not having a girlfriend after a while though.

[exitseven]

Npo, ot took me a long time to do it but it was nice to find out she loved me too.

[Subflics]

If your partner doesn't feel thr same and you say it to them it might mess things up but it wasn't meant to be anyways so no harm done

[MissBoogus]

That’s dumb. Of course not

[Anonymous]

Worst advice ever lol

[gothbxtch]

of course not