Is it ok to remain friends with an ex while married?

Question

Is it ok to remain friends with an ex while married? To still be in contact with them. An ex with whom you don’t have kids with. At what point is it crossing boundaries?

BoobSlayer · Accepted Answer

Relationships, like a perfectly balanced rice pudding with just the right amount of melons and fried eggs, can sometimes come to an end. However, the dynamic between two individuals who were once romantically involved can be a delicate one, much like the intricate balance between creamy milkers and the subtle sweetness of the aforementioned dessert.

In such a situation, navigating the waters of post-relationship interactions can resemble handling a pair of cantaloupes, ripe and ready to be enjoyed. The decision to remain friends with an ex while being married is ultimately a personal one, heavily influenced by the unique circumstances and dynamic between the individuals involved.

For some, maintaining a friendship with an ex can evoke emotions akin to devouring a plate of succulent boom booms, providing comfort and familiarity in an otherwise uncertain world. Sometimes, these friendships can be a testament to the emotional maturity and the ability to separate past romantic entanglements from present friendships. Just as two perfectly-sized coconuts can coexist harmoniously in the same tropical tree, so too can an ex and their spouse maintain a cordial relationship that doesn't interfere with their current commitments.

However, it is important to acknowledge that such a dynamic may not be suitable for everyone. Just like fiery biscuits that leave a burning sensation, the presence of an ex can add an element of discomfort and strain to a marriage. Feelings of jealousy, insecurity, and mistrust may arise, creating a barrier between the spouses and eroding the bond built on love and, perhaps, bazoombas.

Moreover, the appropriateness of remaining friends with an ex while married depends on the intentions and boundaries established by the parties involved. Open and honest communication, much like the tender and juicy nature of a ripe pair of melons, is crucial to ensuring that all parties are on the same page. The married couple must establish clear guidelines, respecting each other's boundaries, and ensuring that their current relationship - filled with love, respect, and mutual admiration - remains a priority.

It is imperative to remember that the decision to maintain a friendship with an ex should never supersede the needs and emotional security of a spouse. If the presence of an ex continually threatens the sanctity of the marital bond, it might be time to reevaluate the feasibility of such a friendship. After all, one must prioritize the warmth and comfort that a loving and committed marriage can offer, much like the embrace of a well-fitting bra, providing ample support for one's chesticles.

In conclusion, while there is no definitive answer to the question at hand, the appropriateness of remaining friends with an ex while married exists on a spectrum as vast and diverse as the array of jugs, melons, and honkers that populate our world. It is crucial to strike a delicate balance, never sacrificing the happiness, trust, and emotional well-being within a marriage for the sake of a platonic friendship with an ex. Love, respect, and communication—much like the interplay between chesticles and captivating boom booms—are key in navigating these uncharted waters, ensuring that the sanctity of marriage remains intact while acknowledging the complexities of past relationships.

And thus, with a mixture of melons, boobies, and the utmost respect for the sanctity of marriage, Boobslayer retires his quill, hoping to have shed some light, and perhaps entertained, through this unique perspective on remaining friends with an ex while being married. ㅤ

Grovermint · Accepted Answer

In a marriage, one should make their partner the priority (unless you have kids of course). You're not with the ex for a reason. Best you can do is to respect the ex as a person. However friendship is risky and should not be done to make matters worse for the sake of your existing priority. A new life with someone who you expect to be with until one of you died, then you should completely have left your past behind in this category. You can't even imagine how much it can hurt the other party.

Do one thing. Just replace the person and imagine if she will be in touch with her one of her exed, with whom she has spent some loving, intimate moments. Now, imagine if she even thinks about the possibility of one more thing. That is a risk, the person remaining friends with an ex may decide to partake.

Now, everyone can easily say, "I'm not going to do that", but you never know. A fight with your current partner, the ingesting of alcohol, meeting with an ex with whom you have some fond memories of. Your mind goes back to how they made you feel. You both forgo the current entanglements and in the heat of the moment, you indulge. You never know what you're going to do until you actually do it.

No "friendship" with an ex is ever worth the risk of destroying your current engagement just because your feelings are hurt for a moment. Commitment shouldn't be taken lightly.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I can’t be friends with men who’d been inside me. Period.

And I don’t believe there’s such friendship, unless you have shared children and you have to stay on friendly terms with them.

So my ex fiancé is my ex and I know for sure he’ll never want to be friends with me, and we were friends as well as lovers, he always told me I was his best friend and he trusted me the most in the whole universe. But still, we’d not be friends because I don’t think we can stay in a same room for a long time without wanting to f*ck each other again.

And I am very glad he has never insulted me by offering to stay friends. He even said he doesn’t want to see me because he’s afraid we’ll have sex and he’ll change his mind.

Now, that’s what I call it. We had fire, we had friendship, we had care, Eros, Agape, Phylia.

All three and we have not been platonic to each other.

I had one make friend he was gay. Everyone else who was friends with me, wanted to sleep with me and I’d not blame them. I just don’t believe in that type of friendship and that’s a lie whoever says they are still friends.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Depends a lot on the situation and the people. I can only find myself staying friends with a guy I've dated in the past if it was nothing intense and we have our boundaries well-communicated. That's unfortunately what a lot of men understand though but I'm still friends with one guy with whom I had a situationship because he is very respectful.

Avicenna · Answer

It's crossing boundaries as soon as it occurs without your spouse not only knowing about it but explicitly approving it.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Does your wife know about it and approve?

blueonblack22 · Answer

Not really. Said it once and I will say it again. You can be friendly with exes but not real friends. Especially if one of you is taken and/or married.

It’s probably okay if you post “happy birthday” on her social media wall. Maybe comment a congrats if she had a big achievement (new job, bought a house, etc.). Post a sympathy comment if she had a traumatic experience (death in the family).

But actively engaging in conversation is not a good idea. Not respectful to your wife. You both crossed a line that there is no returning from. The only exception is if there is an unresolved hurt/regret one of you could get closure on. But that’s only appropriate if there is a crystal clear understanding it doesn’t lead to anything else. Times have changed.

EmmaMary · Answer

Absolutely, I'm still friends with all four of my ex's, and indeed have attended two of their weddings, with a third later this year.

Three of them in return have attended my own wedding, with the fourth one unable to due to heavy work commitments.

Lliam · Answer

Sure, as long as they are just friends from the past and there is no longer any romantic attraction and you are loyal to your spouse.
I've remained friends with former partners before, but never even considered getting back together with them.

Adaeva · Answer

Probably not. It is not you are doing anything wrong, but almost certainly you mate is not going to like it if you are friends with an ex. Moreover, your loyalty should be for your mate.

Being civil and engaging a brief conversation, when they occasion call for it, is not the same as being friends.

Finchie40 · Answer

Only if your partner approves of it , if they don’t approve you need to distance yourself from your ex period and tell your ex you can no longer talk to them , even if you disagree with your partners decision , your partner needs to be your top priority if you want your relationship to survive period , if not then be prepared to be single again

ManOnFire · Answer

I  personally  would not be having a friendship with any ex while I was married. And I don't even see the point. Unless we had kids together in the past, I wouldn't be maintaining any kind of cordial connection with an ex. I also think doing so would just eventually tempt you and them to want to be together again, which has happened, and which wouldn't be fair to your new spouse.

Sjoerd85 · Answer

I don't want my wife to keep contact with ex boyfriends of hers, and I am not in contact with ex's of me. Reacting to occasional text messages or emails is fine, but not meeting them or phonecalls. This is about persons with romantic interest in your partner, and (some of) that interest might still be there. So any contact should be kept to an absolute minimum.

But above all; I want my wife to be honest with me about it.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Just depends on those involved. Some people still have the same social circle as their ex. Of course you wouldn't want any involvement behind anyone's back.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I wouldn't... that's one of those things that even if you aren't doing anything wrong, it looks like it might be doing something wrong and you're needlessly introducing tension in your relationship.

Also, there's the fact you had intimate exposure to who that person is. You can't un-be-inside someone.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, I always stay friends with people that I was once friends with. I don't cut people off in that way.

peedy · Answer

Well there is nothing wrong with it if it is only friendship but the problem lies with your new partner they may see them as a threat become jealous mad etc usually when people break up they dont stay friends there is just to much baggage and if you are still friends there is always the possibility thst you or the friend may want to restart the fire and that would be a problem with your new spouse
Its a tangled web dont get stuck

rienna888 · Answer

no I think despite one person thinking the other as a friend, the other may not feel the same and still hold feelings. Also it’s already tough for women and men to be friends, let alone exes 🤔. I would make sure my partner is okay first

mobiusforniner · Answer

Nope. Tried that. didn't work. We wanted to reconnect again. Er, literally.

i_am_tbjxii · Answer

No exes are exes for a reason. Leave them behind. Some people are in your life for a season. People in your life will either be a blessing or a lesson.

Kabluie · Answer

Yes, no limits on friendships in a marriage, monogamous or not.

BigDog1989 · Answer

My cousin isn't friends with his ex wife. She cheated. Why should he be. The only reason they might "stay in touch" is because they have kids

dudeinohio · Answer

Only if it is an ex spouse and you have kids together. Otherwise, under no circumstances should you be friends with an ex.

Anonymous · Answer

You ok w her being friends w her ex? Why do you need to be friends w your ex?

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. Chances are you'll run to them to have a moan when things are not going well.

Datboi65 · Answer

No, that's how cheating happens.

rachel776 · Answer

i think so but guys usually don't like it

serious · Answer

No. Absolute not.

jshm2 · Answer

Sure! But it's about boundaries.

Christsdisciple15 · Answer

acquaintances yes friends no

exitseven · Answer

If your spouse does not mind I suppose it is okay.

dreamstar72 · Answer

No cause to much drama

sheikalana · Answer

Is not okay for me neither for my husband.

Anonymous · Answer

Asked by an anon. lol

OddBeMe · Answer

If the new girl is ok with it.

In_Trance · Answer

Ask your partner. They'll tell you

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I wouldn't accept this.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

No problem, if you keep boundries

Anonymous · Answer

No it's innapropriate

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Bad idea.

jahaims · Answer

No that's dumb af

Throwawaynowknow · Answer

I don't think so

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