Guys, Question to men who feel they are conventionally unattractive, how did you manage to get a wife or a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

At what age did you first find a girlfriend? Describe the circumstances and story in general. Do you feel that you were valued for qualities other than your physical appearance?

[Wonderingguyy]

I’ll start off by saying that I felt that I was unattractive for years, but have been told by a range of people that I am conventionally attractive.. still it never seemed to convince me. My first girlfriend is the one I have now, we met about a year ago and we were just friends for a long time. I met her randomly one day on a train, and we hit it off. We have always connected on a deeper level and enjoy each others company, and I have never felt it was superficial or just about looks for either of us. Of course I thought she was absolutely STUNNING, but that’s not why I became her friend. It was because of how we got along so well. I’ve had pretty girls show interest in me before, but have never continued it because I didn’t like their personality.
When you find a decent girl who is interested in you, it will be the same. They’ll stick around for your personality rather than your looks. Even the most gorgeous appearance can turn ugly with a gross personality; and a below average appearance can turn into very attractive one with a good personality! Also, the right girl will end up boosting your confidence about yourself, and you’ll probably see yourself in a whole new light.
Just present yourself well, and be nice.

[Asker]

What made you feel that you are unattractive? A lot of people who look average or above average think they are unattractive. For example a man who has above average height and is lean may actually be average looking, but might still feel he is unattractive.

[Wonderingguyy]

For me personally it was just because of my weight. I’ve been overweight my whole life and it made me feel really bad about myself. If it wasn’t for my weight, I would’ve been perfectly happy with myself otherwise. I always thought i was just going to be unappealing to people because of it.
Turns out that’s not true, so that’s nice.

[Asker]

I feel that a lot of women (even above average looking women) don't mind overweight partners as long as they are tall enough. Even my sister once told me that she would prefer a tall overweight man over a short lean man. She is a very small person, only 5'1' but she dated a tall overweight man for many years. He was around 5'11" I think.

[Wonderingguyy]

Yeah I’m not sure if that’s how women feel or not, but I’m quite tall (6’2) so maybe that helped

[inhua]

height, money, social status, fighting skills, principle of preselection, toughness and luck are other qualities that are valued. personality is just political correctness

only way to find out if she's with you for who you are rather than what you are is by being at your lowest point and seeing how long she stays by your side

is she a ride or die like your bros or does she ditch you on the first sign of trouble i. e. another girl accuses you of rape. does your girlfriend side with her or side you with?

while for personal situations, you shouldn't want to be at your lowest point for very long, being there and seeing how long she stays and how she acts is a great indicator of whether she's a keeper or not