Really confused by what my girlfriend is saying?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend recently told me she feels like she's losing herself when she asks me to join her for events and I say yes to joining her... should I be telling her no I don't want to join her. I like to do these things with and don't mind her doing it alone.

[provokeesmokee]

Nah, that's confusing as fuck. But maybe ask if she'd prefer to do more things independently, and reassure her you're ok not going (and she doesn't need to feel pressured to include you if she doesn't want).

But your girlfriend needs to reflect on why she thinks she's losing herself. Unless she know how she wants to keep that from happening, you can't help.

If she's losing herself, she's the only one who can find herself again. She needs to communicate what she needs to help make that happen.

[Nikki1989]

Why would you not want to spend time with your girlfriend?

[Asker]

Yeah that's what I saying

[Anonymous]

I think she might need to go alone.