What's my girlfriend is thinking?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone!

I'm currently in the state of anxiousness and for 6 years I haven't visited this site because I handled our relationship well.

But this time I need help. We've been together for almost 7 years now and recently she's been posting her Cryptic My Day and I know something is up. Here are the example.

"Time had been so fast. Things went smoothly but then turbulence came in. Unanswered questions and doubts are about to invade my thought but I will let them. Without anger but pleasing welcome"

"I should let them know those things will be answered in the right time. Doubts may add conflict with my positivity but its normal to instate and realize it with good conviction."

"Tolerating love but keep asking your worth, how to handle that?"

"How to trust someone when you knew they're having a hard time trusting you?"

"I want to move forward but something pulling me back. Should I release the heaviness or be more patient?"

"So Weird, when you have a wide perspective about people's different personalities but you can't understand yourself. Why?"

These are the exact sequence of her latest My Day. I feel hurt coz I know there is something wrong and I want to talk to her, but we don't have the opportunity to have quality talk.

Can you give me some advice on this? I really want to be with her and don't want to lose her.
Thank you in advance for all the help.

[SueShe]

First things first, what is "My Day"? Is that some kind of personal diary? If yes, how did you gain access to it? Is your girlfriend aware that you did access it without her consent?

If you indeed gained access to it without her knowledge, then the most important source of information is lost to you because you will not be able to talk about it with your girlfriend as this would be equivalent to confessing a breach of trust.

She is obviously thinking about the relation and the path it has taken. She seems to be unhappy about the way it developed in the past years.

You will have to talk to her eventually but don't make any reference to her diary because all you will achieve is to make things much worse.

I would recommend that you prepare a list of issues that you see within your relation and to each issue, you bring up a solution to the problem. Ask your girlfriend to do a similar list, independent from yours. Thereafter, you sit together and go over both lists trying to find a consensus that is acceptable to both parties. The important thing is not to be angry or accusing because that would not only falsify the outcome but make things only worse. Good luck.

The essence of a relation is in communication.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Give her time alone to work through her issues. I don't mean just walk away and leave her, but tell her you read those messages and if or when she's ready to talk to you about them you're ready to listen.

After that? THEN give he space.

[Iron_Man]

You don’t seem very close with your girlfriend why bother after all these years

[Anonymous]

You need to talk to her sbout this

[Asker]

Thank you. I am planning to do this.

[In_Trance]

talk to her; make the opportunity