Is love enough if your values and goals don't match?

[hardboiledink]

Can love keep a relationship together if both people have different values and goals

She does what she feels like gets tattoos wants to skydive doesn't really want kids and doesn't work out. He has daily habits like working out and eating right and doesn't care for hedonistic random fun and wants kids

[Flatmanlewis]

I don’t think that’s a good fit - BUT it also depends if you two truly love each other and are willing to learn ways to grow together and support each other, then maybe it can work. The only real way to know is to talk and explore ideas, goals, and plans. If your core ideas are compatible then the little side hobbies don’t matter.


I’m into backpacking, SCUBA, and an adrenaline fueled career field. I like classical music, steak dinners, and reading. My wife is an ‘indoor girl’, vegetarian, and loves TV & club music. I’m social. She’s not. We have enough in common though that we have been going strong for over a decade and a half with no signs of slowing down. Sometimes the difference we have bring a part of the relationship that we can it provide ourselves.

[hardboiledink]

Cool! What things do you have in common? I need some ideas on how to connect and fit better with her

[inhua]

sometimes yes but in this particular case, it's a hard no

she only sees him as a beta provider to fund her lifestyle

[hardboiledink]

Thanks, yeah she's a bum

[Anemone978]

No.. don't do it.. when the person doesn't match with you it will become big problems later on.. and you don't want to get stuck with this person you don't belong with, say with a house, a marriage or kids when it is bound to fail.

[hardboiledink]

thanks. Women suck

[sheikalana]

I don't think so. When two people want two completely different things is just best to find someone who wants the same as them.

[Nxtawm]

no, those differences are gonna eat away at that love quickly

[HappyWoman34]

No as you want different things.

[LazerBean]

Nope, not even close.