I’m so sad and miserable with my own life and i’m struggling to find happiness?

[Anonymous]

hey guys, i’m a 32 year old female and my “boyfriend” is a 31 year old male. we have been together for 10 years and we don’t have any fun in the relationship. our hangouts is me going over to his house and just hanging out. we don’t go out on dates or go on vacation. he works hard. he is a carpenter so he works HARD! he has money, yet he doesn’t when it comes to me. he has money to buy beer, buy weed and food for himself or when he goes out with his friends. according to him, i’m not worth going out because all i do is complain. yes i complain because we don’t do anything and i complain because he was an absolute asshole when we got together. he tells me all the time that he has dreams to develop a company and that i deserve the world. however right now while we are young, we don’t do anything fun. it truly makes me sad. i don’t work, i quit my job a year ago so i can focus on school and get my degree. i finish in October :) i’ve become a huge homebody and i hate it. i don’t have friends so i don’t hangout with anyone, i don’t have money so i can’t do anything fun. i live in a huge city, but everything around me is crowded and traffic everywhere so i stay home. i hate my life and i don’t know how to fix it. I don't know how to make myself be happy without him. i feel like a huge part of arguing is i depend on him to do everything. that was my dream though, i wanted to do a lot of things with him, but i’ve come to realize that that’s not going to happen. i’ve sadly let my highschool friends go and now i don’t have anyone. mainly because one of them lives six hours away from me, the other one lives two hours away, the other one lives in my city but works has a child and a husband to take care of and the only one that’s single and is down to do anything only wants to go clubbing. clubbing is not my scene. i really have no idea what to do. i want a good group of girl friends, but since i’m a homebody that’s impossible to find.

[Summeroflove]

Then consider breaking up or seek couples therapy. Maybe you’re not meant to be. You need to be open and honest about how you feel with him. You’re not entitled to his money though especially if you’re not married. Why can’t you go out and do what you want to do? Does he HAVE to go with you? You’re a grown ass woman and he’s a grown ass man. You both can do what you want to do when you want to do it.

Please stop trying to make yourself this huge victim. Point blank. Be honest about how you feel. If he’s not want you want and you’re not happy. Then break off the relationship or seek couples therapy.

[TheSpaceGnome]

1. Why would you spend 10 years with an incompatible person? Thats insane, you're supposed to be with a person who shares your hobbies and interests.

2. If you don't have a job to cover half the bills with, you have no right to complain how he spends any of his money, and if you did have a job to pay half the bills with, you only would have the right to complain if he didn't pay his half of the bills. Complaining that he's not spoiling you is just childish.

3. I have friends on the other side of the country that I still make time for, If you can't be bothered to keep a friend thats 2 hours away, you aren't much of a friend.

[Honeysuckle12345]

You're miserable because you're with a loser that doesn't respect you. Do yourself a HUGE favor and break up

[Nikki1989]

You need to dump this guy and rebuild your life.

[exitseven]

You are incompatible with him. you both like different things.. Maybe you should think of breaking up with him. Start doing things on ypour own for a while.

[FunkyMonkee]

Join the club, darlin''!! My life just gets worse and worse as the days go by!!

[Asker]

omg. IT SUCKS

[FunkyMonkee]

He doesn't sound like much of a boyfriend but, if you an I got together to compare stories, I'd have you topped in a heartbeat!!

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆 I lost sympathy pretty fast for you when you started describing this gem

Why do you women do this? Why do you think other men should bad for YOUR poor choices?🙄

[jimmy2]

Time to move on dear he will not change you might go for a older man.
We know how to love a younger woman. It's a trade off for real lol ve for you and theayyer of time

[Iron_Man]

Go to therapy with him

[Asker]

he doesn’t believe in therapy. i do plan on going to therapy by myself once i get a job. since i don’t have money i can’t go at the moment

[Iron_Man]

You can go to a clinic they will give you real cheap therapy