Truthfully, is everyone a little narcissistic?

[dearryy]

Like we all can be selfish, entitled, prideful, grandiose etc I just think the full blown narcissist has fed their selfishness much more than the average person causing them never to see that they are in fact a narcissist. Even babies are narcissistic. They cry only for themselves, not for others.

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I think a lot of you guys confuse narcissistic with narcissist. Narcissistic is just some traits while a narcissists has all the traits. Yes I know there is a such thing called ego but our ego is in fact the most selfish thing about us. I don’t believe there is a such a thing as healthy narcissism and to think that is sort of narcissistic in its own way. Yes it’s a such thing as putting yourself first that’s healthy if not putting you’re off first damages you but we also, a lot of the times, do

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Things selfishly that has nothing to do with not destroying ourselves but just because. Naturally, we’re all wicked and will do anything to serve ourselves rather we admit to it or not. Everyone wants to be a good person but the truth of the matter is no one is good at their own will.

[DaveJord]

How Can I Tell If I'm a Narcissist? 21 Signs of NPD www.medicinenet.com/how_can_i_tell_if_im_a_narcissist/article.htm

So honestly, calling someone arrogant or self-absorbed or even selfish... I mean it's such an easy thing to do, and any bases for calling someone a narcissist or any of these things are rather easy to do.

Do we like confident people? The answer more times than not is that narcissists are extremely confident.

Do you like self-starting proactive people? Well, more times than not narcissists are extremely self-motivated and proactive... or at least that is how they present themselves.

Do you like accomplished people with goals and aspirations? Well narcissists can be extremely accomplished, arrogant and inspired.

So yes, are we all a little self-centered, self-absorbed, proud of our achievements... yes. Like I live with myself 24/7. I am aware of everything that happens around me, what is done to me, how I feel at all times... Yes, I live at the center of my universe, and I fully understand how I interact with my external environment and how that affects me. Does that make me arrogant, self-centered and a possible narcissist, sure... but is that a little true for everyone? YES.

Is narcissism on the rise, the answer is yes. Because for a true narcissist what's the alternative? Being someone lacking in confidence, having your life dominated by your insecurities? Battling anxiety on a daily basis, the effects of this could be even more traumatic then just being a narcissist.

You're an average looking woman or man, you post booty pics online and you get 1,000 likes and 100s of followers... you love the attention. Do you think these people start to develop and inflated sense of ego and self-worth? The answer is yes, when you post these things and get immediate positive reenforce from hundreds of men... you start really thinking you are a 10 of 10. Does that make you ten, I think not, I think it makes you someone that lacks a grasp on reality. When you expect the people, to treat you better then you treat them... then you might be a narcissist.

Just because you post half naked pics of yourself and get trolls on the internet like your posts by the thousands does not mean you are an actual attractive person. You are just someone that posts half-naked pics of yourself for attention, and you let that go to your head in an unhealthy way. They are not liking the pic, because they respect you as a person, they just like half naked pics of woman... even if you are no better than average looking.

A true narcists is someone that takes a level of healthy self-confidence and inflates it, and then expect others to treat them as if they are better than other people. So, they can say and do things with a sense of entitlement, because they are so much better than an average person, you should respect everything they say and do.

So truthy we are not all a little narcissistic. We all have some sense of self-worth, value and confidence. It only becomes narcissistic when you expect others to respect your value above theirs, when you honestly do not respect the value others bring into your life. They matter to you, because of what they do for you, and you value what they do, more then they value the person.

Narcissists usually look for or prey upon people with low self-esteem... they are not ever looking for an equal partnership, because a true narcissist could never love someone more than they love themselves.

[mobiusforniner]

I think this term gets thrown around a lot without having any clear understanding what it means.

Narcissists are people whose behaviors belittle or demean others for their benefit. If their selfishness hurts others, they are narcissists.

By virtue narcissists cannot have high self esteem. It's very much the opposite. They have LOW self esteem because their validation comes at the expense of others.

Being confident and living life does not make one a narcissist.

But the one complaining about how someone is living a confident and full life while wanting others to "validate" their sad life, is.

[provokeesmokee]

Nah.

There's a normal amount of self-interest that is healthy. It's actually more indicative of unhealthy mental state and self-esteem to put others ahead of yourself to the degree of harming your own well-being.

Narcissim is an actual personality disorder wherein the narcissist displays a (per DSM-5 definition) pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy.

A key part is that lack of empathy. Most people are empathetic, it's why humans are social animals. It's built into us.

[PrincessBunBuns]

narcissism is grounded in superiority and selfishness. while i do believe it is human nature for everyone to be a bit selfish — because in my opinion nothing is truly altruistic — i dont believe everyone is narcissistic.


i dont believe that everyone thinks that theyre superior over other people. true narcissists are frightening, and not everyone thinks highly of themselves. everyone might be a bit selfish, but those people might not be narcissists.

[Paris13]

My Sister. Who is All fro Her and Never About me. lol!!! Yes, I Think We All have Some. Many Overdo it. xxoo

[AviatorTom]

No, some are big narcissists

[dynamicyandere]

According to Oxford’s dictionary, narcissism is, “excessive interest in or admiration of oneself”



Keyword: excessive


So, I wouldn’t say everyone has an excessive interest in themselves.


But I would say that everyone IS self-interested to one degree or another.


It’s very normal for people to care more about themselves that other people, if they’re honest with themselves.


Even if they hate themselves, they are more preoccupied about their own problems and their own issues than the issues of others around them.


True selflessness and true altruism is really a rarity.


It’s human nature to be self-interested.


And that’s why it’s important to be aware of this and keep ourselves in check, so that our natural self-interest does not evolve into narcissistic behavior.

[dynamicyandere]

about themselves than*

[Meropatrick]

No, if u did deal with a psychopath or narcissists you WILL know. These people damage their victim totally. Yeah normal people will have Some jerk days. But they won't have enough malice to ruin someones reputation to the point where the person kill themselves. Normal people won't hold someone down and torture them with electricity or cut parts of them. Narcissists are a unique breed of people and Unfortunately they are not few. But u when u meet one i promise u you will never forget them and u will know they r not normal and thats not how others act

[normalice]

Everything in moderation. Narcissism can be a good thing if balanced out with empathy and social awareness. The problem is it is the nature of narcissism to maximize self indulgence, so the will to maintain balance can rapidly lose all oxygen and die after one has sank beneath some critical depth of narcissism.

[Finchie40]

Yes , everyone has some sort of narcissistic trait so if someone calls you a narcissist in most cases it means shit unless you have more then a couple narcissistic traits , A full blown narcissist is very rare so again if someone calls you a narcissist they are usually the one that is a narcissist period

[noemiii]

Everyone is narcissistic, that’s correct, but of course there are many levels to it and I realize that while I personally have a lot of narcissistic traits, one thing that separates me from a person with NPD is my ability to take accountability for my actions. Not having narcissistic traits is actually a weakness for people, you have to be narcissistic to some degree to move through life.

[Anonymous]

Yes but really you know a narcissist when you meet one and work with them.

They just lack something about seeing themselves at fault for anything it's always someone else's fault...

Also they never doubt why a date went wrong mean while I'm in my head wondering what I did wrong 😞 how could I try for another useless guy?

[Grond21]

You are confusing self interest, self focus, selfishness, and narcissism. When you lack the necessary distinctions between them it's easy to get confused and think everyone is a narcissist.

[Grond21]

I don't still don't see you making a distinction between narcissism and selfishness, or any of the others. Your distinction between narcissism and narcissistic is a good one. But the rest seems too negative and to condemning to be true.

[boggboss]

Everyone can display traits yes but being narcissistic is differnt as its classed as a mental health condition the issue is people online like to throw the term out at anyone that does them wrong

[dynamicyandere]

True.

People are not medically diagnosed with something unless it has actually reached an unhealthy level.

If they would be still considered healthy by a medical professional, then they don’t actually have a disorder yet.

If someone likes pizza for example, it would be technically incorrect for them to say they are ‘addicted’ to pizza, unless they truly suffer a diagnosable addiction which is harmful to themselves or others around them.

[Anonymous]

That word is so overused, especially by women. Everyone shows narcissistic traits at some point or another but to label them a narcissist is lazy and over reaching most of the time. Some people are selfish but not narcissistic, I also can't believe you referenced babies, it reads like a stand up bit. We're all so ready to diagnose people at the drop of a hat cause they want to do something that we don't want to do, it's quite silly.

[sheikalana]

Absolutly. You have to be a little narcissistic sometimes if you want to go places. If you don' believe in yourself, if you don't hype up yourself, if you don't think you're the best or greatest at something you will more likely get stuck.

[Wonderingguyy]

I feel like people definitely know how to think about and cater to their needs, which is fair a lot of the time, but I feel like a narcissist is on another level. Like not everyone has that superiority complex.

[Potteplante]

Narcissism is a personality that everyone possess in some degree - however that doesn't make everyone narcissistic and even fewer have an actual narcissistic disorder.

[jshm2]

It's called "ego", that everyone has, dumbass.

Should have spend more time in school learning biology, than behind the bike shed showing the boys your biology...

[Exterminatore]

No. Everyone is selfish at times. Not everyone is narcissistic, which refers to a cluster of “symptoms.” Babies are not narcissistic. Narcissists are engaged in self worship and self agrandization constantly.

[Exterminatore]

Also narcissists know they’re narcissists and are fine with it. This is why they seldom seek help.

[AngryCarl2]

Technically it's not possible to be "a little narcissistic" because it's a disorder characterized by extreme behaviours. So being ordinarily selfish (which we all are sometimes) wouldn't make you a narcissist.

[genericname85]

everyone should care for themself first and foremost. cause a life guard who can't swim won't safe anyone from drowning. that has nothing to do with narcissism.

[A_Bell]

Of course. If you weren't you wouldn't be human or sane.

[BunBun369]

I mean everyone is toxic 🤷🏽‍♀️😂😂 one way shape or form to one extent to another.

[Anonymous]

People diagnosed with narcissistic disorder have less activity in a region of the brain called the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex during a task that required empathy.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I think you're taking other behaviors and pointing towards narcissism. Attention is a better word for your attempt :)

[shades777]

its a word women use to describe men they couldn't use or control, men that dumped them, etc, they don't even know the correct words to use

[i_am_tbjxii]

Yeah I think narcissistic is the wrong word maybe a bit conceded perhaps? Yeah I think everyone might be to an extent.

[Anonymous]

Not possible, narcissism is a psychiatric disorder, you either have it or you don't.

[Staximus]

Most people. I've met a few really humble people

[Anonymous]

I reckon everyone who isn't Narcissistic or who hasn't got any Narcissistic Tendencies are seen as Unattractive by Most most People and Probably Society.

[Date_a_Snob]

hedonistic would be a better word

[dynamicyandere]

True. Who doesn’t seek pleasure at least to SOME degree, right?

[ProbablyClueless]

Definitely not.

[Blueeyes81]

Everyone is self serving.

[Ava1993]

I say so could be to keep vigilant.

[BLP11520]

Maybe a little

[Anonymous]

No don’t think so

[CallmeTheKnight]

No they aren’t.