I need advice about my relationship , my boyfriend told me if he can return back to time he wouldn’t choose me?

[Anonymous]

Its been 2 years being with this guy.. im 23 he is 26.. yesterday i asked him some questions that made me lost, I told him” if u make a sequence of ur all lovers u had in the past and me where i sit in the scale he had like 10 ex ‘s so like which one is best he said u r 1 like im better than them

i told him what about love he said u r 3 rd one.. bcz he loved his two other exs more than me one bcz they were together for longer period and the other girl bcz he liked her personality but she died

told him if he ever had a chance to go past which relationship he would make it work
He said the other two one and that he would not choose me if he could return to past, and i told him so its like he loved something but the destiny was someone else he said exactly, its more like he just had to accept me he really didn’t chose me but it was the destiny.. I don't know how to feel what to do.. he never supported me or be there for me or loved me I wouldn’t sleep at nights helping him with his studies and a lot of struggles i still stayed with him..
i feel so lonely
I need ur advice bcz i can't think right now..

[caring__1]

Comparisons in relationships never lead to positive results, because you'll always believe you don't measure up. Instead, ask your partner to share what drew him to you and what he sees as unique and special about you. Focus on what is and what can be rather than what was and how you don't measure up. It appears you are fishing for information you can use to fuel your low self-esteem. Believe in yourself and what you bring to the relationship. Learn what he appreciates in a relationship and do your best to address those areas.

[Asker]

Wow that was different perspective thanks.. he wants freedom in relationship , to be able to have a lot of female friends and be a social star he jokes with others and stuff and im jealous in nature, like im just not ok with our mutual friends bcz they get so close to him.. but his other friends old ones before me im ok with them, so when i get mad at him for these things he doesn’t like that about me he thinks i make his life prison so we have different view about relationship and I don't know if i will be able to trust him enough with other girls since he tells me im not his priority its more like im an option

[caring__1]

Choose a partner based on who he already is, not for the potential he can become. He just uses girls for his own purposes, and that's unlikely to change in the near future. It sounds like he wants to get what he can while he still can. He doesn't respect anyone he's with. Show respect for yourself. I don't care how he looks or what he has to offer, being with him will only destroy your self-esteem. He is not what you believe is his potential; he is what he chooses to be.

[Anonymous]

I think your value can't be seen because of your presence like more than what's needed. You are more present than he had asked you for and so the other person could not feel actually your presence because he has barely made any efforts for what all he is getting from you. Whatever you are doing for you it's because of your good nature but it can't be seen.

Actually I don't know how this situation could be fixed because I find myself often in similar situation always because of my kind nature.

But I see always not my presence but my absence always make that person realise my value but it's too late then.

Sorry i really don't know what's solution if anyone knows even i would like to learn that.

[HelpfulWoman]

Well this is easy. Give him a "second chance" at the life without you he wants.

And also grow the feck up for next time with dumb questions like "compare me to your exes"

[Anonymous]

You need to move on without him. It is not a healthy situation.

[slatyb]

Dump him so he can choose someone else.

[riverrat3]

Should be an ex by now

[In_Trance]

Time to move on