I've been friends with these two guys from work for the past two years. They are really nice and funny at times and I have fun being around them but they can also be extremely toxic and misogynistic at times.
Let's call these guys A and B.
Both guy A and B are in a group on friends I hang around with at work so it's kinda hard to ditch them or it means I'm cursing a rift I'm the friendship group.
Guy A was dating a friend of mine and they had a baby together. She was definitely no angle but he was pretty bad to her and has a drinking problem and is a shit dad. He's pretty selfish and immature. He does drugs too which I'm really against and he's just a total loser to put it kindly. He made out my friend he had a baby with to be the monster in the relationship but I see it was him not her and he's turned everyone against her.
Guy B is really funny and fun to be around, he has one of them addictive personalities that you just wanna be around him because he's a exciting person to be around but he's also a massive lefty and a creep.
He has a girlfriend and I'm getting married next year but he's not hid his feelings for me and even been physically inappropriate with me. He admitted to guy A he wants to cheat with me and I found out today. It really upset me but I don't know if I can trust guy A on what he says because he's a big lair at time but the fact I can slightly believe he's could be telling the truth is worrying enough.
They both feel intitled to come to my wedding which is next year and I've lied and said I'm really not sure as my parents are paying for it and it's a lot per person.
All my good friends have said they completely understand if they can't come to my wedding but I'd actually like them there it's the guys A and B I feel uncomfortable with being there because they are so embarrassing I don't want my nana around them.
I hate confronting and upsetting others.
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Discuss it with you partner and come up with a solution
They are colleagues and not friends. Your best bet is steer clear from them and if it's regarding business just give a one word answer
What’s a massive lefty?
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My mind went all kinds of directions with that one. I don’t see the big deal. Invite the people you want. Invite others you don’t. You’ll have to put up with their shit if you don’t call them on it. It probably won’t be just once either. Will likely have to be done repeatedly. Tough row to hoe.