I developed a good relationship with my mentor for my thesis. He is about 20 years older than me, I am 28. He is not married. After graduation (I will not be returning to school, I also have a job), I talked to him in a hallway, and I mentioned to him that I would want to talk to him again sometimes since I generally like talking to him. He said sure, we can go on a drink or dinner sometime, but he want to wait for all formalities to be behind us first and then we can talk more.
We also sent an article in one journal few months ago and are still waiting for it to be accepted. So with formalities he meant, let's wait for that article to be accepted first. (Getting article accepted in a journal can take up to one year or even more.)
I am just curious, is this article still considered a formality even though we are not in a student-professor relationship anymore? I want to continue talking with him because I really like him as a person and I want to develop some sort of friendship relationship with him. Maybe he confused it with dating and that is why he wants everything to be behind us?
Thanks for your opinion!
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are you sure he's even actually in to you? relationship is a no. friendship, yes that can most likely be perfectly fine and you shouldn't have to wait.
Thank you for your answer! I am not saying he is into me, but we both got out of our ways to talk to each other more than necessary. For me, it is because I enjoy his good mood, positivism, and how supportive he is. But we do talk mostly about projects. I am not sure how he understood my wish to keep in touch/talk sometimes, but do believe he probably didn't think I meant it in a romantic way. I just don't get why a year or more needs to pass now because of this article :)
i understand. yes i think he wouldn't mind a friendship at all. and yeah i don't get why a year or more needs to pass just to be friends... seems odd
It's really not clear
I think he is being safe.
Thanks for your answer! You mean safe in a way that others wouldn't have weird opinion if they knew we talk/hang out?
yes, there are many people looking to start trouble!