If they met someone before you on a dating app and insisted that they were purely platonic friends as they had no spark on the initial date. However they kept in contact with eachother, and texted once in a while. Now your partner is saying they’re going to meet up for a drink with them. What would your reaction be?
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If partner told you they met someone on a dating app before you, became platonic friends and now want to meet for a drink would you accept?
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I would think wow how much time does someone have to just meet up with some random person they met on a dating app just as friends? Why don't they have established friends by now and if they do why aren't they making time for them? Lot's of questions would go through my mind but the one thing I know from being a dating coach is most are meeting up to explore some feeling that they had in disguise of BS platonic rhetoric.
This question is about trust. I trust my partner. If I didn't, she wouldn't be my partner. I'd tell her to have a good time... but not too good. She'd understand that.
I would think that if I was the new girl in his life, why does he need to meet someone new, even platonically? That's what a girlfriend is for. You're also a friend in that word 'girlfriend'. Besides, the dating app culture is meant for finding love. That's its initial purpose. If it's some meetup app meant for bringing people together for activities, different situation. But this was a dating app. They connected because of potential interest. It didn't happen, but the intent was there, which is why they were on the app to being with.
And let's get real for a second. Everyone starts out platonic on these apps, and occasionally texts before meeting. That's how just about everyone starts out!
When someone is so in to someone else, interest in others of the opposite sex usually falls away. Lots of people decide that the person they're with fulfills them in so many ways, especially in the early stages of that honeymoon phase.
Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I also try to be as easy going as I can. I don't mind existing long-term female friends who I know about, but to go out of one's way to meet someone new? I don't care for the idea. I doubt he'd like it too much if you presented the same idea on him -- and I'm sure you have many guys in your old inbox on that app who would love to still meet you even if it was for a friendship only meeting. The question is would be be alright with that? Likely not.
What are you, nutso? Giving them your permission to maybe cheat? They are in the past, leave them there as there is no room for them in the future.
I have a friend like this. My girl has met her and we have had dinner together the 3 of us. Now if my friend wanted to meet with me privately my girl would be ok with that.
A platonic friend is a platonic friend. What's the issue with this?
I have to say that in my dating age group, that sort of stuff just wouldn't happen. When you find someone you're interested in and you're in the late thirties, you don't waste time doing that.
I would be okay but I would show up with baseball cap and sunglasses to check up on them.
I wouldn't accept that under any circumstances.
Some fools voted "yes".