Am I overthinking or not about this guy who is married at work ?

[Anonymous]

Usually always nice to me like will always say good morning to me first, always asks me for gum, notice him watching me here and there, asked me one morning if I was going to get a doughnut that someone brought he came up said good morning we had our little small chat than asked you not going to get a doughnut for yourself? Than every time I be talking to my friend in another language he will try copying by interrupting us and like the other day I was walking out and some how he caught up with me and start asking me where I’m going for lunch and he keeps telling his friend to pass on to me that he said “hi” when he really can just pass by and say hi if he wanted too so am I overthinking everything or he just messing like I don't know

[Yolodolo27]

Well do you like this guy? & knowing that he is married doesn’t bother you? As in you want to have a fling with him or a serious relationship? With guys sometimes we just like the attention and at times we are just genuinely bieng nice but even then we know what we are doing. I mean you are young and beautiful there are a lot of good guys out there and I think you’re just over thinking this situation too much and just focus on your work and yourself.

[AmeerX]

Hey, you are young. Don't be a homewrecker. If you like him tell him but don't let him cheat on his wife with you. I think he might be unhappy with his wife.

[Asker]

Is that what it sounds like? And I’ve had told him that hey I don’t like you like that and his reply was what do you want me to do about it

[AmeerX]

He fancied you that's why he told you that. Don't let him use you. Be a good girl and find someone else.
Chances are when you go out with someone else he will brush off

[Asker]

Yea I think he just using me to forget his problems in marriage that he probably has just doesn’t want to talk about

[Asker]

And I don’t understand bc he told
Everyone about stuff his wife did it’s some
Fruit and he told few people yet never mentioned to me and pretends like nothing happened bc I clearly seen and know that he was bringing the fruits with his wife on the day he was off but didn’t tell me a word yet he always talks to me and stuff like why

[AmeerX]

What has fruit anything to do with the problem?
And yes, you should not be rude but tell him firmly you are not interested. Otherwise you will create problems for yourself and that man's wife too. Oh and instead of telling her anything try to find out the cause of his behavior

[Asker]

I’m saying he didn’t tell me a thing about the fruits

[AmeerX]

Ohh, that's nothing to overthink

[Asker]

Yeaa didn’t tell me a word smh

[riverrat3]

How do you feel about him

[Asker]

Weird tbh

[riverrat3]

weird in a good or bad way

[Asker]

Bad! His married

[riverrat3]

then just avoid him as best you can

[Asker]

It’s hard bc he always gets in my face

[riverrat3]

is he the boss

[Asker]

I he he is quite new here been about 6
Months now he used to be like a manager at the other job but he works here now

[Asker]

Works like a normal worker

[Asker]

I don't know what he wants maybe he just friendly dude who knows

[riverrat3]

take a trusted coworker and talk to him, tell him he makes you uncomfortable and you want him to leave you alone. if he does not you will report him. you will have a witness and have given a warning