My new boyfriend is a very good looking doctor who many girls like, how can I feel more secure?

[Anonymous]

He is a very good looking, hardworking doctor. He has been very sweet to me so far and I really like him.

However I feel like he has a lot of women orbiting him and a lot that like him. He has quite a lot of female friends too. He told me he used to live with his girlfriend turned to ex and recently he moved out into a new place as she was becoming obsessed with him.

So I feel a little intimidated, how can I feel more secure?

[Finchie40]

Good luck with that relationship sadly to say , if you are already experiencing insecurities with him then you really need to ask yourself , if you want to continue being in a relationship like that? because sadly you will never fully be happy and you will not feel safe and secure in that relationship , if you constantly feel insecurities by thinking he will cheat on you or leave you for someone else , you will never be happy. Sadly most Doctors have a bad reputation for being players because of all the attention they receive , the same goes for Nurses as well , I am not saying they are all cheaters, but a majority of them can be , mainly from all the attention they receive from others. The only way you will be happy with someone in a relationship is if you are happy with yourself and you accept yourself for who you are , We can’ not force someone to love us , or to be loyal to us , we can only treat someone , the same way we want to be treated in return , we can not control what someone else chooses to do , that’s their problem , not yours. So my advice to you is to treat him the way you want to be treated in return , cuz that’s all you can really do. If he is giving a lot of attention to these other girls’ then you have every right to dump his ass and walk away. If he truly wants you by his side, he will distance himself from those other girls’ and make it clear to those other girls that he is already in a relationship with you. And make it clear to you , that he adores you and wants you by his side , If he doesn’t do that for you , then dump him and kick him to the curb where he belongs. Love only grows between 2 people that choose to prioritize each other over every one else , so if he can’t prioritize you, then you will not be able to prioritize him what so ever , unless you like being controlled and told what to do? Sadly a lot of doctors have the mind set that their shit don’t stink and act like they are this prize possession on this planet , so if that is the case , you are best to walk away from him. Sadly , Most girls’ are attracted to men that she feels has status , that she feels has his shit together , so ask yourself what really attracted you to him on the first place? , If it’s because he is a doctor , then sadly you are setting yourself up for disaster , Take him out of the doctor role and put him a janitor outfit , Are you still going to want to be with him? Ask yourself that question. Most men are attracted to girls’ mainly for her beauty and personality and the way she presents herself that she comes off as having good heart and morals , that understands what it means to be in a relationship. Most men have Ego’s and sometimes his ego can be a little too extreme to the point where he feels his shit doesn’t stink , If your boyfriend has a extreme Ego , then you are probably best not to continue dating him, because he will never admit he was wrong , he will always be right and accuse you for being the problem. Sadly this occurs from a lot of Guy’s and girl’s. When someone has a hard time admitting they were wrong , that person is usually a selfish person that only cares about themselves , they never see things from their partner’s perspective , those are the type of people you are best to stay away from period. Most people don’t get into relationships with someone that receives a lot of attention , mainly for the same reason that you are experiencing now. People that seek attention and validation constantly by others are people that can not be easily trusted , because that person feels their shit don’t stink and that they can easily replace you if things don’t go their way. I hope my advice helps you out ,

[Asker]

It helped me, I feel I don’t know him enough yet to judge a lot of these thing, so I guess time will tell but if he acts badly I will call it off

[Finchie40]

No problem , glad I could help , always remember the infatuation period in the beginning is usually always good , when the infatuation period starts to fade that’s when you will see someone’s true colors

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice! I’ll bear it in mind

[sheikalana]

Let him know about your insecurities maybe he will reassure you.

[In_Trance]

You need to believe in yourself