Can having a snoring problem ruin a relationship?

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So I started to stay the night at my boyfriend’s place since we’ve been together for a year and 2 months. But every time I would sleep there he would complain in the morning about my snoring. He would get really irritated and mean saying I sound like a grown man, a cow, mack truck, and a lawn mower. It really hurts my feelings and it’s really embarrassing for me as a woman. Eventually he told me he didn’t want me to stay the night anymore and he’s started to become more distant. I don’t understand how he could be so pissed about something like that despite everything else going good in our relationship. It’s honestly just snoring and I can’t help it! Shouldn’t he be more understanding? Idk…

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

It sounds like we have two insensitive people here. He is critical of you for snoring (which will only make you defensive and resistant to change), and you are legitimizing your snoring rather than seeking professional help to eliminate the snoring. We're at an impasse, and everyone will lose. Maintaining dysfunctional patterns will never lead to positive results. Take a lesson from Shakespeare.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

See I answered this on another question and got a lashing from a couple pink accounts because I suggested that they sleep in separate rooms. And I was told "no, he has to sleep with me this in non-negotiable". Look I get wanting your partner close. But wanting your partner close, and being close enough with you Emre partner to do what's best for him, and him for you is what it's all about. A good compromise would be with him laying with you till you fall asleep then him getting up and going to sleep in another room. Cause you ain't going to know he's not thier when you're sawing logs. And he gets a good quality sleep not being interrupted by your snoring. I can tell you my parents sort of did this. My dad was a light sleeper and my mother's always moving around would wake him up. So she would always get up and go sleep in another room. Because she knew my father needed quality sleep to work the next day.

So the answer is can snoring ruin a relationship? It can! But it doesn't have to. It's times like this where you learn how uncaring amd selfish your partner is.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend snores really badly to the point it makes it hard for me to sleep (even when I’m in a separate room) and it wakes me up if I’m not dead tired when I go to sleep. It’s bad. He sounds like he is trying to start a lawn mower on full blast. Snoring can legitimately ruin a relationship. However with us he will try different things to help with his snoring so it is more manageable. He snores through his mouth guard and other aids but it muffles it enough that I can sleep. I feel bad because I snore too but it isn’t as bad as his and it doesn’t interfere with his sleep where he will wake himself up sometimes. He is going to try other tools to see if it might make more of a difference. I think if your snoring is interfering with the other person’s sleep it may unfortunately fall on you to find ways to manage it. Just talk to him about it and research different things you can do to manage it. It is just unfortunate because for you it is embarrassing and out of your control, where for him it may legitimately be preventing him from sleeping. Best of luck

SueShe · Accepted Answer

According to your account, it seems that snoring can indeed ruin a relationship. However, this relationship is not really built on steady foundations since your boyfriend seems to take your snoring as a reason to slowly distance himself from him. Your best option here is to let him go because if it is not your snoring, he will find another excuse to distance himself from you. Guaranteed.

If snoring would really be the problem, then he would come up with a solution and this solution could not be simpler. Simply sleep in a different room and the problem is solved. Since he did not suggest that option, I analyze it that he has lost interest in you and that he needs to find an excuse and blame you for the problems in your relationship.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The test of a relationship is how the partners handle conflict. This relationship has not passed the test. This is a sign to you, a glimpse of the future if you remain together.

You know what this means.

Nifrayu · Answer

Snoring is not okay. My sleep is very important to me as it directly impacts a great many aspects of health. Nothing has ever disrupted my sleep like the ceaseless sound of unhealthy airways. My partner developed a snoring problem once and I refused to sleep in the same room until she fixed the issue.

A lot of people act like their snoring just can't be helped. This is just laziness because information on the causes of and solutions for the problem are just a Google search away. There are exercises that can address the route of the problem and there are products that can help until the snoring is cured.

The thing about your snoring condition is that it hurts your partner more than it does you. So take responsibility for it and find a way to fix it.

Hinaaaaa · Answer

🙂you know what I'll never marry a man who'll snores... like it is irritating cause I have insomnia... I know the person who snores has nothing to do with it but if you think you are actually disturbing him unintentionally... You can try several things maybe sleeping on your side or some tea to overcome it but tbh I don't really like people who are like ok I'm snoring it's not really my fault I'll not do anything about it.. like really!

sheikalana · Answer

This can be an issue for someone who has problems falling sleep or for people who have very light sleep.

boggboss · Answer

Ofc it can if someone snores loud enough to wake their partner it can easly cause massive issues whybdo u think so many products exist on the market to combat snoring

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah, it certainly can. In fact, some couples have to sleep in separate bedrooms if they don’t do anything about the root of the snoring problem because people can be very mean if they don’t get sleep. I’ve been told I sound like a freight train but it’s also not good if you are snoring that bad because you’re losing oxygen to the brain when you sleep so it would be good to actually try to take care of the problem.

A_Bell · Answer

Spoiler alert: yes, yes it can. ‐ experience

aquamarine321 · Answer

In this generation anything and the simplest thing can ruin most relationships

scooogy · Answer

I used to know an older couple in whose apartment I wondered about seperated beds and no marriage bed. Might be that they decided to not sleep in the same room since one of them snored at night.

exitseven · Answer

My wife used to complain that I snore. She made me get a CPAP machine. I no longer snore but I don't sleep much either.

HateyouxD · Answer

I'm looking into a c pap machine you should too

Anonymous · Answer

It bothered me at first but now my boyfriend’s snoring is like white noise to me.

Radiate143 · Answer

It can really put a strain on it.

boobliker · Answer

O yes in the starting out stage

Z1pTD · Answer

LMAO he gives off single child energy

Anonymous · Answer

I would hope not.

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