Do guys have to be abusive to get ahead?

[Anonymous]

So my relationship of 2 years recently ended everyone in her family commented how great of a guy I was. So one of her reasons for breaking up was that she likes guys who get physical with her. I’m simply not like that I’m a gentleman I defend the woman I’m with I wouldn’t put my hands on her but she wanted that kind of relationship. The guy she dated before me sexually abused her and forced her to perform sexual acts. So they broke up as well but she begged to go back to him. How is any of this normal. For everything that he did she remained friends with him on all her social media’s

[slatyb]

Not at all. "So one of her reasons for breaking up was that she likes guys who get physical with her." Did she tell you what she liked? If not, that's on her. You can't read her mind. It's possible to get physical with a partner without being abusive.

[inhua]

apparently so but the guy has to be physically attractive for her to let that shit slide

and often girls do let "abusive" shit slide as long as they're sexually attracted to the guy

[LazerBean]

No, they just have to be intelligent about their choices.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't care if I get head.

[Slim57]

Lol no