Is a guy a fool for staying in an abusive relationship?

[Anonymous]

Maybe it’s due to being on the autism spectrum maybe it’s part of my personality but I always somehow can find good in people and it led to me staying in a relationship where I was getting beat on and called horrible names like a bitch , stupid motherfucker, nuisance My disability mocked and made fun of because along with my autism I have ocd one time I bought her a gingerbread house and she hung out with her friend and the whole time building it they trashed and talked bad about me. Somehow through it all I believed there was good in her and stayed

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the heart of the matter, love should never feel like you're in a boxing ring, especially not with the one who's supposed to be in your corner. No one, absolutely no one, deserves to be on the receiving end of abuse, whether it's physical, emotional, or verbal. Spotting the good in someone while getting clobbered with negativity isn't foolishness—it's a testament to your strength and empathy. That said, your worth and well-being are paramount, love.

Being on the autism spectrum adds layers of complexity to how you navigate relations, but it should never be a reason for someone to mistreat you. Your kindness and ability to see the good in folks are superpowers, but it's crucial to guard your heart with a bit of savvy. Recognizing lovebombing, ghosting, and, most importantly, red flags, is essential.

It's time to don your cape, summon your inner superhero, and make a daring escape to where you're celebrated, not tolerated. And remember, seeking a relationship coach or therapist can offer tailored guidance to soar over these hurdles. You've got this; your story's just beginning!

[BetaBucks]

You're not a fool, you just lack self esteem. The 'tism doesn't exactly help with self esteem issues, and abusive relationships wreck your self esteem further. Once you build up the will to leave this girl, you'll be stronger and happier. And will find someone better.

Don't forget to keep your body in great shape and to have perfect hygiene. For the next relationship. You can't win this one.

[Asker]

I sure hope I find someone better cause after that I just don’t have much hope I have never seen someone pretend so well she was friendly and cheerful in public everyone liked her and she was hitting me calling me names beating on our dog behind doors

[Asker]

Trauma was always her go to excuse for her behaviors

[BetaBucks]

Yeah, I had the abusive ex that had the childhood SA trauma. Sure, it fucks them up, but how does that justify taking it out on other people? Of course, they figure out how to frame it to be well-deserved and not abusive, but that's all part of the game. But after I cut that psychopath out of my life, everything got better. And every single girl, even the scumbag town whore, was better than that bitch. So, yeah, you'll do better. It's impossible to do worse.

Self improvement time, my friend.

[Asker]

The absolute crazy part is I have had trauma after trauma as a kid and as an adult and I never once have taken it out on anyone

[BetaBucks]

Exactly bro

[HelpfulWoman]

anyone is a fool for staying in a abusive relationship when they know it is that. but i get why they sometimes stay