Would u divorce over a lap dance and a love bite?

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i am struggling to forget the fact that my husband went to a strip club while in a trip with his friends, got drunk, went to a strip club, paid for a private lap dance and got a love bite. He claims he didn’t have sex. I am considering divorce, am I overreacting? Thank you!

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Not at all , how would he react if you went to a male strip club and got a lap dance and a love bite from another guy? So you have every right to be pissed off and upset and wanting a divorce , it’s stuff like this that causes a lot of relationships to fail because it’s selfish behavior period , people should not get into relationships with anyone until they learn how to remove selfishness for each other , if someone truly loves you and values you , especially your spouse , they wouldn’t be putting themselves into situations like this , i don’t care what anyone says , it’s clearly disrespectful and it shows someone’s actual true colors , of who they really are , and it shows how they look and think about you. Your husband looks at you like you are just a convenience to him , because if he truly loved you and valued you , he wouldn’t of put himself in that situation period , He will try to sugarcoat his actions all he wants , but the truth is he doesn’t fully value you and love you , So you are probably best to end it with him , I ended it with my wife for similar reasons , her selfish behavior eventually shined to the point it was her way or no way , so if something isn’t alright for your partner to do then the same needs to go for you as well or it just turns one sided and double standards and resentments will come into play , why it’s important to set boundaries with each other before committing into a relationship with someone , if someone can’t follow boundaries in a relationship then they shouldn’t be in a relationship period. Because what someone can do to you , you can do the same to them as well , for a relationship to survive and for love to grow between 2 people , both people have to remove selfishness for each other period , or it’s just a waste of time , So by your husband going to that strip club shows he only cares about himself ,

DannyUk2017 · Accepted Answer

I have been married, and never crossed my mind to step off this "boundaries" always thought if i want something like that i should ask my wife, even if she would think "we are married and feel stupid", i would think that will "open her eyes and open her horisons" , then she can realise that EVERY THING that i want, every fetish that i have... i have it AT HOME!,
Aways i put my Responsabilities first and Pleasures second.
Still wasn't enough so... i don't know... guess i was wrong maybe, i should have become a money/life/time waster maybe was better. 🤷‍♂️

HelpfulWoman · Accepted Answer

Honestly, that would be a deal breaker to me. Getting a private lap dance would be a boundary crossed for me. So its not over reacting.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

1000% would divorce over that

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What is "love bite?" From what cultures do you and he come?

Jersey2 · Answer

Let him be, he is still in his 20s and figuring things out related to marriage. We took my favorite cousin’s fiancée to his bachelor party at a strip club and bought him a lapdance and probably a handjob (we gave her $200 and it looked like it but it was very dark and we were more focused on the stage dancer, you know to be polite and give them space). I love my cousin and he was our friend although we didn’t know him prior to his dating her. I was married at the time as were I think most the other guys of which half were family. I wouldn’t do that today but being younger, drunk and still a bit wild… it happens.

OddBeMe · Answer

Ehh no. If my wife went to a male strip club or a bridal party thing, got tipsy and did that, I’d be mad, but understanding.

A lot of it is peer pressure. Some may get a sexual thing from it. I don’t. I tried it. Told my wife after and she was mad. But I also said it was gross af.

Nirmroth · Answer

I mean you have boundaries and he broke them. Trust is hard to repair. If you can't feel like you can forgive him, file for a divorce.

Red_Arrow · Answer

I can understand going to a strip club with his friends while on a trip, but a lap dance is beyond that and asking for trouble. I can see divorce being reasonable.

Nifrayu · Answer

No. Lol personally I think that silly reason to end a committed relationship. That wouldn't even bother me. Then again I might be upset if it was intentionally kept secret from me.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Yes. The love bite is a bit much but the rest isn't that big a deal.  Big step with strippers from a private show to sex.

boggboss · Answer

How did u end up finding out and did he know how u felt about stripclubs before this point

Sabretooth · Answer

no but he should avoid in the future and think of others.

noohair · Answer

Is there a perfect human when they are sober? I know that you are unhappy but it was a mistake, unless you know about more information.

Pudsmucker · Answer

Has he been faithful to you up to the time he went on the trip? If he was faithful for give him.

shades777 · Answer

is a love bite code for blowjob? if not chillax mary sue

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Thats cheating, dump him.

Anonymous · Answer

Then i would be divorced🙂

jahaims · Answer

That's cheating

BLP11520 · Answer

You probably are is he sorry?

David6668 · Answer

Yes you are...

eagle1951 · Answer

nooo

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