What would you do if ur partner didn't wanna do it at all?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

So I've been in a relationship for 14 years 10 of those married, my wife never seems to want me sexualy and I'll be honest it's made me want to reach out and cheat (I haven't, I've been good even had opertunity [further more she has told me to go find someone else to "%^&@" but i think it was more in frustration of me trying to encorage her to which was just a cuddle) but it's usually somewhere between 6 and 12 months between any sexual activities, and what winds me up the most is that even though she tries to hide things I know she's very regularly masterbating and when we do have "FUN" she has a good time.

Whats somewhat worse is that I dont even get cuddles or kisses from her, she barely talks to me and she mopes around the house and expects me to sit with her watching TV and also do all of the house work and child care even after completing a full work day. She has even held that against me and said no to sex unless I do x&y.

She has been a bit down for the last month or so but genraly she's fairly up beat.

I did miss several red flags before we were married that in retrospect should have put me off. She did cheat (before we were married, hasn't since) and she was a horder and her room was always a tip. She still is a horder to be honest. And even back then we weren't as active as I'd have liked and I'd presumed that it would change once we were wed it actually went down not up.

I feel like she's pushing me away and I love her and I know she loves me and I'm not sure if she knows that's what's going on. But I'm trying to hold things together and bare with her. But for me sex isn't just sex it's emotional it's the connection that should hold us together unify us and build us up, not to mention the thing that should be holding me back from doing things I shouldn't by satisfying my needs and vice versa. I do sometimes feel like I'm just a paycheck.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Do what? Depends on what you’re talking about but you cannot make someone do something against their will. First thing is to figure out what it is, hopefully your partner and you can have good communication.

The next thing is you just drop it. Move on. Find something else to do.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

i'd try to figure out why they dont want to and see if it's something we could fix somewhat easily. if it's because of a deeper issue that can't be fixed easily or it's like something like they want to wait for marriage, then i'd break up with them. i'm not a huge hoe or anything but i can't date a guy if we're not going to sleep together

RubyFrench · Accepted Answer

Communicate with him or her.
(Spice it up maybe with something he/she can't resist. If your together and he or she still doesn't want to sleep with you then somethings probably wrong. ^ which is when communication would come in

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Aiming to sprinkle some love wisdom here! 😘 When it comes to intimacy, it's crucial to have open communication with your partner. Not wanting to engage in physical affection can stem from a myriad of reasons—stress, physical discomfort, or maybe personal boundaries. The key? Talk it out, lovebirds! Approach the conversation with empathy and patience, rather than frustration. Understand their feelings, and share yours too. It's all about teamwork. Falling in love with the process of understanding each other can actually strengthen your bond. Remember, it's not just about getting what you want, but about nurturing a relationship where both feel heard and respected. 😍 Keep the lines of love and communication open, and you'll navigate through this together!

Apple1996 · Answer

I'd go buy more toys 😝

MrOracle · Answer

I'm an adult and sex is a normal and reasonable expectation in a romantic relationship. But I vet my partners before I commit to them, because I want to know about critical differences in morals, values, and life goals before we get too attached.

The only way for me to have gotten to this point would be if she outright lied to me at the beginning, which is more than enough grounds to end the relationship.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Any straight guy I am around... if i want him and i let him know, he will give me what I want.  If a guy is in a relationship and refusing sex, something is VERY wrong.

morganherrel · Answer

At first I would wonder if I'm failing to do my job and she would want to leave because of it lol.

But if she was happy with a relationship like that, then I would be happy with it also, provided that everything else was great between us.

I wouldn't masturbate unless it was with her help.

MisterWack · Answer

I’d be torn….
Sex & love is a great combination with just love, hard to lose the sexual attraction toward them. You are their soulmate, feels like you aren’t as close as you used to / no one to fill that horny void.

katiesmuff · Answer

Wouldn't be much of a reason to keep them as a partner!

Hsisjwbwbjsjd · Answer

Depends on what my relationship meant to me. If it's about the emotional connection, than nothing.

Billlewis · Answer

The same thing I'm doing now -- masturbate constantly... lol

Anonymous · Answer

talk to them. because obviously something is bothering them.

Iron_Man · Answer

She’s Asexual that’s not a partner that’s bro buddy’s

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

I would have a talk. There's no rush but most partners expect intimacy eventually 😊

MrGSpotHer · Answer

Lose her in the woods near night then stalk her in the dark like pray 🙏🏻

Anonymous · Answer

If I were to stay with that person I would have to get sex on a fairly regular basis somewhere else.

miamooree · Answer

Break up. Cause either he's gay or not attracted to me. Either option is fucked up.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Then he won't be my partner for long lol

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’d be disappointed but I’d ask why

Smashingdoozy · Answer

I don't know watch a movie and cuddle or something

chrissykerdock · Answer

he'd have to at least want blowjoba

Agape93 · Answer

I'd get it elsewhere. Open relationship.

eagle1951 · Answer

just what I did not have it

Myspacepr1ncess · Answer

Euh, je sais pas.. Erm, I dunno..

Anonymous · Answer

Id be very suspicious if he’s not asexual.

Maybeyoutoo · Answer

She would not be my partner anymore

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Leave.

Anonymous · Answer

Do what?

gatixek710 · Answer

do what

AshleyJarrett · Answer

Leave them…

CubaPirate · Answer

Do what

Anonymous · Answer

Like, ever?

TheCaller · Answer

What?

guyinterested · Answer

dump her

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