How do you heal from emotional abuse, my heart hurts?

[Anonymous]

I’ve had a lot of abuse in my life. I walked away from most of my family as I couldn’t take it anymore. And recently my now ex boyfriend. I just wanted to share on here because my head is everywhere. I am hurting so much from everything that has happened. I’m terrified that someone else will come along to insult, degrade or hurt me. I am still coming to terms with walking away from family but I just walked away from my now ex boyfriend today and I just feel really hurt. I feel like a shell of a person, like a deer in headlights. I eat well, I exercise etc but it doesn’t change how I feel about myself. How did you overcome abuse?

[Tfeltner84]

Been there my whole life, only way to overcome is to become the heartless one.. wash ur hands don't take no crap from no one no more. Too many took my kindness for weakness and I moved and washed my hands of em. Go out do u. Find new Friends, find a play toy don't date till u have known the real them for at least a year and if they are for u give it a try but I've learned when a man comes to u they will lie and put on a front to get u then a year later is when the true them comes out so don't date just play till u find what ur looking for. Don't let that abuse hold u back u already freed urself now just get up go out and have fun as often as u can. Do u chic. I'll be 40 in a couple months and feel I've lost out and my time is over but if u still have it don't Wait.

[provokeesmokee]

It'll take time.

I've been no contact with my abusive mother for 5 years and only in the last few years have I felt much better about it. I also left a bad relationship in the last three or so years, and also felt that hollow and empty feeling.

Keeping myself active, forcing myself to seek out social groups and friends, and just giving myself permission to feel hurt and bad for a while was necessary.

I have found a lot of positives from regular psychology sessions. I would strongly encourage you to do the same. Therapy helped me unpack the abuse, identify what I needed and wanted, and helped guide me forward in a healthy way.

[John_Cobretti]

I am really sorry for what happened to you

Keep fighting , you are tough, you will make it one day

If it helps I can give you some virtual hugs!🫂

[Emanon25]

Aww I’m sorry to hear that, simple, just be strong and keep saying that

[Asker]

Thank you 🙏

[Emanon25]

You’re welcome
Pm me please, can we be friends?

[Emanon25]

I hope you get over it and heal quickly.

[worldscolide]

It never really goes away.. I have been both physically abused and emotionally abused. I would take the physical over the emotional any day.