Interested in online friend that I met in person. Any suggestion on proceeding?

[Anonymous]

I have an online friend that I have feelings for. I've known her for about 6 months.

I realized fairly early on that I had feelings for her, but I've never said anything about it. The main reason for not saying anything to her about it is because I know she has feelings for another friend from our group that she originally met irl. He doesn't share those feelings with her.

Our friend group got to meet up in person and I got to see how great she is in person too. It was phenomenal.

Since we met up, she's been talking to me more often and she told me that us meeting makes her want us to become closer as friends.

I guess I just don't know where to go from here. I've never been good at these things. I also don't know if her message saying she wants us to be closer as friends is because she does want to get closer, but also recognizes that I do like her and she's setting the boundary as friends.

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Got an update. She didn't tell me herself, but one of our mutual friends mentioned today that she has a huge crush on someone else.

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We spent about 8 hours on a call yesterday watching a pretty graphic show on Netflix. It was cute how flustered she got when the first sex scene came up unexpectedly.

I'm honestly still confused on where things are going, but I think I'm going to start making some comments to test the water while we spend time together.

[Anonymous]

For the update, it could be an a false flag. Make sure it is really the truth. ﾠ

[BοοbSlayer]

Let me be your trusty guide through the twists and turns of this complicated situation. Matters of the heart can be as perplexing as a riddle wrapped in an enigma, but fear not, for I shall assist you on your journey of romantic exploration!

So, you have this wonderful online friend, and over the course of six months, you've developed feelings for her. Ah, the joys and complexities of virtual connections! Now, my friend, let's unpack this situation and strategize on how to proceed.

First and foremost, it's crucial to acknowledge and respect the fact that your friend has feelings for someone else within your group. It can be quite challenging when the heart yearns for someone who may not reciprocate those feelings. However, this doesn't mean that all hope is lost, my dear friend! Love is a mysterious dance, and sometimes the steps we take lead us down unexpected paths.

Now, let's delve into the magical moment when your friend group met in person. Ah, the excitement of finally meeting those digital companions face-to-face! It sounds like this encounter only deepened your admiration for her. The connection you felt in person was nothing short of phenomenal. Isn't it amazing how meeting someone in real life can add a whole new layer of enchantment to a budding friendship?

Since your in-person rendezvous, you've noticed that she has been reaching out to you more frequently. She even mentioned that meeting up made her desire a closer friendship with you. This, my friend, is a promising sign! It shows that she values your connection and cherishes the bond you both share. However, it's important to approach this situation with caution and respect for her boundaries.

Now, let's address the message she sent, expressing her desire for a closer friendship. It's possible that she genuinely wants to strengthen your bond as friends, independent of any romantic intentions. However, it's also plausible that she's aware of your feelings and is subtly setting boundaries. It's essential to interpret her words with an open mind and consider the broader context of your relationship.

But wait, my dear friend, there's an update! One of your mutual friends has spilled the beans and revealed that she has a massive crush on someone else. Oh, the complexities of the human heart! It seems like the plot thickens even further. But fret not, my friend, for this revelation doesn't necessarily mean that all hope is lost. It simply means that the path to romance may have a few detours along the way.

So, where do we go from here? How do we navigate this labyrinth of emotions and friendships? Allow me to offer you some gentle guidance, my dear anonymous friend. Communication is the key to unraveling the mysteries of the heart. Find a quiet moment, preferably in person or through heartfelt messages, and express your feelings honestly and respectfully.

However, it's crucial to approach this conversation with an open mind and realistic expectations. Understand that she may not reciprocate your feelings, and that's okay. Rejection is not a reflection of your worth or value as an individual. It simply means that the puzzle pieces of your hearts may not fit together in the way you initially imagined.

If she does not share the same romantic feelings, it's essential to respect her decision and continue cherishing the friendship you both have. Love comes in various forms, and a deep and meaningful friendship can be just as fulfilling as a romantic relationship. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

Remember, my dear anonymous friend, life's journey is filled with twists and turns, and matters of the heart can be as unpredictable as a roller coaster ride. Embrace the uncertainty, be brave in expressing your feelings. Pray to Lord Orgasmos.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I'd do man - first ask her to hang out again, just you two. See how the solo vibes are - if she seems into it that's usually a good sign!

While you're out compliment her looks for real. Like, not too much but drop little comments like "you have a nice smile." Make eye contact too when you do. She'll start thinkin you mean it as more than friends.

During the hang out, find any excuse to touch her - bump her arm playfully when you make a joke, high five if she wins something small. Get used to being in her space a bit.

The key is going slow. Don't rush to kiss her unless the moment feels perfect. But these moves will let her get the hint you're tryna be more than friends - all while seeming chill about it too in case she's not ready yet.

She already told you she wants to be close, so she's open to the possibility at least. Now you just gotta reel her in subtly. Keep flirting low key and build up the chemistry. See where things go man! Got this.

[Asker]

The meeting up part is hard. She lives about 13 hours away. We spent a few hours alone last night playing games. We did some today too, but a few others were with us.

Distance is definitely a factor in this.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah yeah, the distance definitely makes things tougher man. A few thoughts on that:

- Cherish the time you do get to spend together, even if just online gaming. Make the most of those opportunities to bond.

- Set up more regular online stuff you guys can do - maybe a weekly game night or movie night or something. Helps maintain that connection between visits.

- Find little ways to show you're thinking of her even when apart, like sending funny memes or screenshots from your games. Small gestures go a long way.

- Start saving up now so you have the means to visit again soon, even if just for a weekend. Shows you're willing to make the effort.

- Video chat can help too, even if just talking while doing other things. FaceTime feels more personal than just texting.

- Don't come on too strong with declarations of feelings yet since an actual relationship would be super long distance. But she may warm up over time if you make an effort.

Distance is obstacle but not insurmountable if you're both willing to work at it. Keep being a good friend, make the most of your time together, and see how it develops. Stay positive - you never know what could happen!

[Tharithi]

Why do u like her

[Asker]

She's caring, likes to joke around and have fun, competitive, wants to be the best person she can be.

[Tharithi]

Is that why u like her?

[Tharithi]

How old are u both

[Asker]

It is. Those qualities together make me incredibly happy when I'm doing things her. I'm happy knowing she had a great day and had fun.

[Asker]

I'm 30 and she is 26.

[Tharithi]

Ohhh. What was phenomenal about her

[Asker]

I already knew her personality from online, but being in person it was more real. Seeing and hearing her laugh right in front of me instead of through a headset. Seeing her smile in person instead of a Webcam. It was so just phenomenal.

[Tharithi]

How did u meet?

[Tharithi]

How do u both look

[Asker]

We met online. As to how we but look, I don't quite know how exactly that matters in all this

[Tharithi]

U never met in real life? Lol

[Asker]

We initially met online. We met in person a few weeks ago.

[Tharithi]

How does she look

[exitseven]

Sounds like you got the green light to me.