That's a tough situation. With the arguing and trust issues, I can understand you feeling insecure in the relationship. A few thoughts:
- Ignoring your calls/texts is never okay. You both need to communicate better instead of stonewalling eachother.
- Liking other girls' photos is disrespectful at best. You told him it hurts you and he kept doing it, so I get why you're upset.
- But you also have to take responsibility for contributing to the arguments. No one fights alone. Constant accusations will only push him away more over time.
My advice would be to have an honest talk when you're both calm. Compromise - you work on not reacting harshly, and he listens without getting defensive. See if there's willingness on both sides to rebuild trust.
If not, you may need some time apart to gain perspective. A counselor could also help. But avoidance and resentment will only make things worse long run. Staying friends might be healthiest if you really can't work it out. Just some thoughts, good luck!
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So honestly, I was married for 24 years... and you just know when she was calling that it would be an argument so you just let her simmer on the back burning because you are literally exhausted with the drama and bull shit.
I mean you disagree; she made her points you listened, you made yours and you assume she listened to you as well. Like we do not have to agree, and I do not have to argue about it. Do what you want but quick arguing with me over it.
But that was my mind set, so maybe he has a different mindset then me... but this just one of many other possibilities.
I don't think it's okay to like bikini photos of other girls. If my guy doing the same, i would confront him about it. But that's it. As a girl, if a guy is pulling away, my advice is to withdraw, and don't chase after him. Let him make the effort, withdraw completely to make him realize what he did wrong.
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He is tired of bearing the burden of you being so insecure. You are making someone you love suffer just because you don't work on yourself enough to have self esteem. The irony of all of this is being insecure is what is going to drive him away. You found someone willing to put up with you. Realize that and stop ruining it. You aren't even mature enough to be in a relationship let alone engaged.
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