How do I approach my girlfriend about couple swapping?

[Anonymous]

So I've had this fantasy of seeing my girlfriend with another guy and asked for opinions on here... I met this amazing married lady and she's been encouraging me to ask my girlfriend if she'd like to couple swap

Now I am a bit embarrassed to bring this up to my girlfriend but I think it'd be fun to try it, and this lady I met told me she was willing to comfort me when my girlfriend and her husband have fun together

So what are some ways I can get my girlfriend used to the idea? Should I just straight up ask her out of the blue or should I build up to it?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, slowwww down. Couple swapping is some serious next-level stuff that could really mess things up with your girlfriend if you're not careful.

I'd definitely not mention this other lady you've been talking to - that'll just make your girl super jealous and suspicious. And definitely don't bring it up out of the blue. Girls need to ease into things like this gently.

My advice would be start by just having an open conversation about fantasies and what you're each curious to try. See what kinds of things she's open to exploring between just the two of you first. Compliment her a lot so she knows you think she's the hottest. Then maybe bring up the idea of a threesome down the road just to test the waters.

Go slow and make sure she always feels totally comfortable and listened to. If she seems unsure at all, don't push it. The last thing you want is her feeling pressured or like you value other people's pleasure more than hers. Couples swapping can definitely strengthen things for some people, but it has to be the right time when you're both 100% on the same page. Her comfort should be the top priority here.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome

[Guardian45]

I agree with another guy that polyplay or swinging is "Advanced Sex", not for the faint of heart or 'beginners'! Most people are not open to it.

I think your key is to get your girlfriend used to the idea. Start by just exploring conversation. If it goes well, try watching swinging porn together and solicit her opinions. If your girlfriend is the jealous type or not openminded, you could fail. The key would be to keep it within her boundaries.

Although I'm poly, very very few of my GFs were open to the idea!

I hope that helps

[Asker]

Yeah I'm thinking she'd get jealous if I was with another woman, but I would be more ok with her getting with another dude, so it's not completely balanced yet

[Guardian45]

That maybe the sacrifice you'll have to make!

[Asker]

I think I'd accept that, the couple I'm thinking of are way more experienced and kinky than we are, the wife was saying that her husband could definitely engage with my girlfriend while us two watch (we both want to see) and because it'd be my first time seeing something like that she'd be able to comfort me and help me control my feelings as it all goes down

[Jasmin01]

If your girlfriend knows that you're making out with another woman, you can just ask her. Otherwise, think about whether your behavior is right.

[Lara_Croft]

It shall end in tears bruv. God is Good-don't let your lust lead u

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

So this is a scenario that you would likely regret, but if you want to approach her about it, be straightforward, and be prepared to have some reasons as to why you think this is a good idea.

[Asker]

Why would I regret it? And yeah I'd think about some

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Some people will experience jealousy and wonder where their place in the relationship is moving forward.

[Asker]

Yeah I wouldn't want my girlfriend to feel jealous, maybe I could have a safe word?

On my side the married lady I'm talking to said she'd comfort me and I think that would help in the moment

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I suppose that might help. The other half of the equation is whether or not that lady is actually the man's wife, and they're not just con artists after a lot of sex with multiple people.

[Asker]

I'm sure they're married, but I guess I'll know more when I get to know them better

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

They certainly are plenty of married couples who are part of swinger groups. Best of luck to you and your lady.

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[strateguy632]

ooh i just saw that in a video. ask her if she expected exclusive if not, then you have an opportunity

[Asker]

That's a good start but she might just think I want an fmf

[Gent207-2]

The important thing is to respect her boundaries

[Asker]

Yeah I want to respect that as much as I can, last thing I want is to ruin the relationship

[Gent207-2]

Then be up front and agree to an understanding and rules.
Example
No affairs - no sex with others without her presence or consent

[Asker]

That is wise, I'd definitely want it to be a thing we do as a couple and for it to be fun and not turn into something jealousy inducing

[DextroShade]

She won't ever respect you again, and honestly she shouldn't because you are a pathetic cuck.