What's your deal breaker for a potential partner? Do you have certain details that you care about?
Okeyyy alright, let’s get even more down-to-earth and casual about this:
Trust? Non-negotiable: If I feel like I need to play detective in my own relationship, count me out. I need that rock-solid trust where I don't have to question every text or late night out (maybe?)
Talking in Circles: Ever feel like you're chatting but getting nowhere? If we can't reallyyy talk and understand each other, it's like hitting a brick wall. Super frustrating!
Future Plans Totally Off Track: Picture this: I'm dreaming of a cozy home with kids, and they're planning a nomadic life traveling the globe. That's a recipe for a heartache, right?
Cheating – Just No: This one cuts deep. It's like the ultimate betrayal. If that trust is shattered, it’s pretty much game over for me totallyyy
Abuse? That’s the Exit Door: This one's black and white. Any form of abuse, and I'm out. No second chances. It's about self-respect and safety.
Feeling Undervalued: We all want to feel cherished, right? If I'm feeling like I'm taken for granted or just not valued, it’s a sign things aren’t right.
Living on Different Planets, Lifestyle-wise: It's cool to have different hobbies, but if our whole lifestyles are worlds apart, it's like we're just not in sync.
The 'My Way or the Highway' Attitude: Ever met someone who just won't budge on anything? Yeah, that’s a hard pass. A little give-and-take is key.
This is all hypothetical, coming from me, but it’s kinda like what you might hear if we were just hanging out and chatting about life and relationships. Everyone’s got their own deal breakers, and that’s totally okay. It’s all about what works for you! xoxoxoxo
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Gaslighting, manipulator, narcissistic, misogynistic, lack of emotional control-(anger, overly jealous). Bad hygiene, lack of ambition, commitment issues, self centered, ruffian, weak that can’t defends his partner and family, mama’s boy, empty ego attach to vanities, what then when all are gone - one who think money, and prestige can get them anyone-some women yes, but not all. Low self confidence -(like rejection change the whole person) not financially literate is a turnoff too.
Said a lot..!
Dishonesty, pathological lying, addictions, lack of being accountable of his actions, being a pushover, not having his own strong opinions, not being ambitious or hard-working.
Someone who is addicted or dependent on drugs. I mean alcohol as well even if it's just for partying at my age, as people easily influence those they're with a lot.
If it's an occasional thing, then I do not care, but I will not be with someone who consistently does drugs. It is not a self-righteous thing, but I want them to have healthy coping methods for life.
This is due to that I date people who I want to be compatible with long-term, which could mean children one day. A parent's ability to deal with life and how they cope with it is often rubbed off on their kid (s).
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- racism (hate... if you hate others, you hate yourself)
- heavy smokers/drinkers (lack of care for themselves)
- selfishness (lack of care for others)
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Addiction is big red ink. Someone who's an overdrinker or drug abuser is a no-go. Someone who doesn't care about their body. This doesn't simply mean weight. They dress poorly, have poor hygiene, dirty nails, hair is unkempt.
You go to their home and THEIR BATHROOM IS FILTHY! This is the giant red marker.
I don't care if your house is messy. But if your bathroom is clean, this is a BIG indicator you were raised right and you care.
Also, if you have animals, your house shouldn't stink of cat or dog pee or pooh.
I recently picked up some cookies from a house that reeked of urine. The cats were walking on the dining table. Look I had cats for 25 years. They were never on counters or tables.
Please! These are animals whose paws dig in pee and pooh boxes, or after they go elsewhere outside! UNSANITARY!
I like a CLEAN man. Like Irish Spring! No. More like Canoe or YSL... No dishes in the sink either...
Oddly enough, debt.
I can overlook some Leo components but I cannot get past debt. Especially if it’s a lot racked up quickly. I’m not talking student debt, mortgage. I mean debt from overspending, living a lifestyle out of the taxpayer bracket and hoping to magically ‘bounce back’I could make a list but it pretty much comes down to when you can see the writing on the wall that she's going to just tear apart your world. Young men are attracted to women. But the problem is they're just hormone driven. Men generally think much more logically as we age. We think much longer down the line. For 2 people to work they both have to respect eachother and the both have to get their needs met or over time it will fail. If I see no future with her then that is a deal breaker. I don't want to waste her time, and I certainly don't want her wasting mine.
Smoking / Drug use
Dishonest
Lives in fantasy land ,
Mental illness ,
Zero financial literacy
Poor diet / exercise routine
Sloppy presentation
Incapable of making a rational decision.
No independence
Lazy
Unemployed.
Hurting my babies (furry or human), sexual attraction to my babies, emotionally cheating, STDs, and putting another woman equally or ahead of me in priorities. Also, dragging me down in life instead of boosting me up. They have to be contributing to making my life better or I'm gone.
smoking, drugs, narcissistic, look at me I'm so pretty, glued to the phone and having no clue what is happening around you, endless selfies, looking for someone to take care of you, not independent, not having a clue/aka not very bright, not kind to animals, lazy, that pretty much is about everything.
Smoke of any kind
Drugs
Overuse of the drinking
Lack of charisma /hardly smiles
Swearing a lot, yelling, lying etc
Pushing for sex too much
Doesn't ask about my lifeIf he has an ego complex and NEEDS to brag about any tiny win in his life so that he can feel better than others. It's both pathetic, and tells me he will share it with everyone if we hookup 💀
Drug addict and alcoholic. Cheated on an ex or exes. I believe once a cheater always a cheater.
Somebody that just lies all the time. She lies about where she was. She lies about what she was doing. She just cannot be trusted.
Being psychotic lack of self-respect and being racist I will drop people like a bad habit
No trust
Lies
Too different preferences, interests, opinionsjudgmental. I've been judged enough in my life and it does nothing positive. I want someone whom I can be my true self without being judged or scolded.
Personality disorders, especially cluster B, psychosis, dislike of animals, drug use/addiction, lack of education, parasitic behavior, feminism.
I don't want to date a smoker, a drug addict or an abusive man.
Misogyny and similar personality disorders.
Any history of sex work would be the biggest one, that includes OF or sugaring.
Smoking
Lies
Being religious
Snooping
Conspiracy theorist
Lies, no trust, personality disorders, cheating, gaslighting, manipulation
Trust issues, Lies, Broken promises. 🤷♂️
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