What is a DEAL BREAKER for you in a relationship?

[yourbabygirl921]

What characteristics or attitude or behavior that you don't like in a partner or with your partner?

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ToxicBeing possessivePassive agressiveGaslightingLyingUsing meNot communicatingNot listening to meNot being open about issueLack of trust with meArrogantPridefulEgoist Anger issueNot a Christian like meControllingAlways getting jealousWant a lot of kidsIs not emotionally availableHave abusive tendencies

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Cannot take responsibility, blames others, manipulative, selfish, unhygienic, no ambition, rude or disrespectful to people overrall, being racist , sexiest or misogynistic, doing illegal stuff, doing parties or drugs, doesn't like working out, being lazy, dishonest, is not affectionate or loving, can take a joke or have sense of humor, if he have "hoes",

[zed-789]

I have a couple but the main one is poor money management skills. If I’m going to spend the rest of my life with 1 person it’s going to be because that person adds to us building a life together not takes away from it. Having poor money management skills leads to struggling, which leads to arguments, which leads to added stress, which leads off to directly and indirectly causing other problems such as health issues, or dabbling in old bad habits. Which leads to resentment. Apart from cheating most people get divorced because of financial issues. Poor money management skills is a habit hard to kick because if u came from generations of family managing money poorly, u’ve literally been taught ur whole life the wrong way of doing something and a lot of people find it extremely difficult to change such a long term learned bad behavior. So even the person that wants to change will have a very difficult and miserable time doing so. Their is no telling how long it would take for a person to unlearn such a bad habit, so once I see that someone has poor money management skills, I’m out if u can’t get it together in 3 months. Then there is the people that let others opinions dictate their relationships. That is tied with poor money management skills for me. If I’m in a relationship with a person and u start letting ur friends or social media dictate things, because John’s girlfriend does this and this for him and now u want to know why I’ve never done that... I’m breaking up with u on the spot.

[Elsa143]

Cheaters or abusers possess these traits :
Lying asshole, selfish but shows it like he's doing things for you, emotionally detached, not consistent with texting and calls while also trying to sell made up excuses, keeps secrets, addicted to p**n, checks other women out, ego issues, hot tempered, easily attracted to other women, flirty or attempts to flirt with different women even if not in a relationship (I mean just love one person at a time, why leading on multiple women? It only shows that he's not loyal).

[yourbabygirl921]

I love that it's specific

[Elsa143]

:) also always trying to tell you what to do for his own interests.

[MCheetah]

Here are my big absolute dealbreakers:

1. Feminist/far-left/woke.
2. Bisexual (gay).
3. Open relationship type/polyamorous (an adulterer).
4. Abusive in any way, physical or verbally (a bitch).
5. Was born/is male (transwoman).
6. Isn't single/is a cheater.

The rest are highly undesirable traits, but not as bad as the ones above.

1. Shallow/superficial.
2. Closed-minded/stupid.
3. Arrogant/conceited.
4. Lazy/entitled.
5. Has kids.
6. Smokes/does drugs.
7. High maintenance/gold-digger.
8. (Physically) "Social justice warrior colored" hair (Green, blue, purple, or pink).
9. (Physically) Looks or dresses too masculine/butch.
10. (Physically) Body/face piercings.

Anyone with hair, tattoos, piercings, and fashion sense like this...

Ugh. Cringey AF! Surprisingly patriotic, though.

[yourbabygirl921]

I agree with them it's highly unattractive for me too

[Dchrls78104]

Immediate dealbreakers for me are:
1. Smoking, drinking, or drugs.
2. Any abusive, controlling, or violent behaviour including the use of profanity.
3. Not being a natural born and fully heterosexual adult female.
4. Being a racist or feminist or supporting abortion.
5. The wearing of thongs or any such "underwear".
6. Tattoos and body piercings.
7. Not being transparent (lying or keeping secrets).
8. Already having an SO or an ex she is not completely over.
9. Being high maintenance or a golddigger.
10. Mixing with criminals or with people described in #3 above.

[yourbabygirl921]

I totally agree mixing with criminals and like that people have a chance she maybe like then

[etexbearkat]

On number 7, for me, it would depend on why she's keeping the secret. If she was sexually or physically abused as a child, I would understand her not telling me that and keeping it a secret.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Repetitive lyingCheatingCan't take responsibility for their actions/always blames others Constant ManipulationSelfish all the time

[jennifer_bloom]

A man who does not treat me like I’m equal to him - Like he will ask me for money but not give me money or expect me to listen to him but not listen to me, or criticize me when he’s angry but not let me criticize him back etc...

[theshewolf]

someone who engages in illegal activities, i dated a guy while i worked at a check cashing place and long story short he asked me if i could hook his friend up with cashing a check that he had no id for. I told him no we had to have id's , his friend came to the check cashing counter and the i. d was not of him and the check was not in his name , the system flagged his id and the check number (once flagged a manager has to override the flag) broke up with dude for asking me to do that and the fact he engages in activities or involve himself in that stuff turned me off. He had a great job as a ups driver making well over 96 k a year so im not sure why he felt the need to make 100 dollars off his buddy needing a illegal service.

[Ripper_E]

Trying to control me and be dominant. Being lazy. Lying to me. Talking to her friends about personal shit. I understand you talk to your friends about issues, but I would never go to my friends and be like "My girlfriend has a loose pussy and it's a real problem for me" That stays between her and I. Smoking. Drugs. Gaining too much weight. I don't mind her being fat, but at a certain point, it's too much.

[yourbabygirl921]

I agree

[Ripper_E]

with what part?

[yourbabygirl921]

Talking about personal stuff, and gaining too much weight, and being lazy and lying

[DizzyDesii]

That loose pussy shit made me laugh 😂😭 That is so HS but it still happens. It can be seen on GaG posts that people still discuss private matters about themselves and significant others. Me included. Gossiping is horrible but sometimes you wanna see who else can relate. So i respect that you wouldn't want to date someone who does that

[yourbabygirl921]

Gurl it's either it's loose or the dck ain't it 😂

[DizzyDesii]

No i wasn't talking about my privates 😂 i was just saying i do gossip with the gurls about our dudes like that 🤣🙈

[Ripper_E]

Well you can talk with people because I've been able to get advice without putting someone out there. There are ways to go about that but if there is an issue with me, I'm the one she needs to talk to, not her friends. If not, then there is no reason for us to be together.

[scott04sa22]

I only date / sleep with black guys 🖕😑

I only date people who is 100% healthy. Meaning I won't date people with disabilities or health issues 🖕😑

I only date older man or man at their grandpa age ranges

I only date or sleep with 18M - 20M aka studs

I only date people with big penis size above 8 inches.

she dated local law enforcements because the last girl who like me made her ex cop boyfriend extremely jealous and he brought his service weapon to the fight to win her back and he successfully win her back and they both reconcile soon after.

I got quite a bit of jailbreakers though.

[Ditto626]

My deal breakers are:
1. If they start doing drugs.
2. If they cheat on me. (I have a strict one and done policy)
3. If they have a queen bee attitude and think the world revolves around them.
4. If she's rude to people in the service industry.
5. If she doesn't respect me and it becomes clear that she's just using me.

[etexbearkat]

Here are a few for me:

1. Dishonesty
2. Not being trustworthy
3. Bad hygiene
4. She doesn't care of herself (goes back to number 3, but it includes regular grooming)
5. She's disrespectful to other people, especially her parents
6. She's controlling

The list could go on and on. This list can also be for friendships as well.

[doopayo]

Selfish, unhygienic, overly unconfident (meaning, they are the type to always be a downer and talk about the a thousand things they dislike about themselves 24/7

[DizzyDesii]

If he's cocky/arrogant in general, rude to others, overly uses sarcasm, has a hoeish or cheating past, smokes/drinks/parties, doesn't believe in God or marriage

[DizzyDesii]

And like someone else mentioned, if they cuss too much, MAJOR TURNOFF

[exitseven]

I knw this girl in college who had a real potty mouth. She was a real city kid but she was really nice and she was intelligent and pretty. The two of us were having breakfast one morning and as usual she was swearing up a storm. Every other work out of her mouth began with F. I just looked at her and told her what a nice kid I thought she was but when she opened her mouth and all the F words cam out it made her sound ignorant. She just told me to F#@! Off.

[DizzyDesii]

@exitseven yea its really annoying. people see it as a shallow reason to reject them but i see it as a good reason to

[This_is_my_username]

Snippy behavior and the silent treatment. I absolutely cannot stand it! Everyone has bad days, but don't make your bad day someone else's burden. It's okay to talk, and vent but to be rude and abrasive is just wrong.

[AdithyaR]

Cheating
Manipulative
Playes mind games
Doesn't communicate properly
Gaslighting
Sexist, racist, homophobic or basically an had unfair bias against a group
Tries to change me as a person

Theses are a few.

[Agape93]

Being toxic
Bad hygiene
Controlling
Not open minded
Sexist, racist or other form of bigot
Not liking animals or the outdoors
Etc

[Leavesbound]

There are not many deal breakers for me but some are I don't date smokers or recently ex smokers, drug users or heavy drinkers. I also don't date very religious people or people who are political extremists.

[susie22]

Smoking. First impressions mean a lot, and a non-smoker can smell it on a smoker's clothing, big turn-off for me.

[ChattyGuy43]

A job, part-time or full-time is what I'm after.
If she drives, sweet, even better.
She has to have a sense of humour and can just be silly, I h8 serious girls, so moring.
A good kisser goes a long way as well.

[Captaincrunch2215]

A woman who can’t do a 360 mid air triple back flip. Jk, I would say someone who is disrespectful

[yourbabygirl921]

Lmao you got me at the first 😅

[kkirk4442]

Smoking, being rude to others, selfish, inconsiderate, dishonest.

[JayLiche]

Violence.

My ex asked me to do something very violent once, & I agreed.
It was to someone’s property.

I realized I couldn’t do it & Backed out.
She got mad & that’s what started the end of our relationship.

She said we weren’t compatible

[ChrisMaster69]

Toxic personality that suddenly appears out of the blue.
Jealousy
Lack of trust
not being open
Lying
Uncalled for attitude towards friends or especially my daughter.

[ChrisMaster69]

@yourbabygirl921 what are yours?

[yourbabygirl921]

Toxic
Being possessive
Passive agressive
Gaslighting
Lying
Using me
Not communicating
Not listening to me
Not being open about issue
Lack of trust with me
Arrogant
Prideful
Egoist
Anger issue
Not a Christian like me
Controlling
Always getting jealous
Want a lot of kids
Is not emotionally available
Have abusive tendencies

[ChrisMaster69]

That’s a long list I agree with all of them except really the Christian one, while I am a Christian, I have a fair level of acceptance for others.

But yeah gaslighting covers a large number

[yourbabygirl921]

I totally understand

[ChloeStarlight]

This is going to sound really stupid and probably shallow but as cuber which is someone who can solve Rubik's cube i can’t date someone who isn’t a cuber. It’s either he’s already a cuber or willing to become one or I won’t date him

[yourbabygirl921]

😂😂😂

[ChloeStarlight]

In my head I can see the relationship going wrong if the guy is a not a cuber which is why I’ve only crushed on cubers ever since I started in 2018

[yourbabygirl921]

Well it's totally on your preference and who you like it's ok

[ChloeStarlight]

I know, but I know a lot of people are gonna find that shallow