How do you know if you are in an unhealthy or toxic relationship?

[boomerang]

I know signs of toxic relationship; lack of support, frequent arguments but what else?

[lexus]

in my opinion;

Always Being Criticized: Like, if they're always on your case about stuff.
Zero Respect: They're rude or they diss you a lot.
Too Controlling: If they're all like "do this, don't do that."
Lying: When they're not straight up with you.
Shying Away from Serious Stuff: Like, if you can't even talk about where things are going.
Crazy Jealous: You know, when they get all jealous for no good reason.
Crossing Lines: Not cool with your personal space.
Flaky: Always bailing on you or super late.
Doesn't Get You: They just don't seem to care about how you feel.
Bad Vibes: Any kind of mean or hurtful behavior is a total no-go.

Basically, if it feels off, it probably is. Trust your gut, you know?

[kitsachie]

There needs to be total communication from all parties in a relationship. If your partner is unable to recognize their faults or listen to your advice, it's never going to work. A relationship is toxic whenever there are feelings of mistreatment. I believe that everyone is by default, selfish. We have to learn to break down our egos and be able to make compromises to make our partners happy, but things turn toxic and unhealthy if there's clashing.

It's up to you up decide what exactly you can put up with and if you should put up with it, no one is perfect but also no one should "complete" someone else. When you use a relationship to mask insecurities you possess, it will turn toxic fast.

[Married_mature]

Your partner being too busy with themselves, not caring about your time. No efforts to resolve fights, lack of text or calls, taking you for granted

[Valdemort]

Condescending behaviour.
Making you feel bad about your feelings.
Mansplaining everything you say.
Questioning your honesty.
Not respecting your (different) view.
Keeping you from exploring who you are without them.
Telling you how to dress 'properly' (making you feel like you're either unattractive or asking for attention, regardless of what you're actually wearing).
Him/her setting boundaries and expectations for you, but you not being allowed to have the same boundaries and expectations.


Honestly, anything that isn't build on respect, mutuality, understanding and safety would be toxic to me.

[Valdemort]

And also: when they touch you against your will. Whether it's to hurt you, this one speaks for itself. But even when it's meant romantically.
No one should ever be allowed to touch you, when you don't want them to.

[wolfcat87]

When it's an emotional roller coaster in a bad way. You spend days crying, depressed, sad, angry, hurt, etc. instead of pleasant, safe, and content. When you feel stressed and tense about being around them instead of excited and happy. When nothing is ever resolved. When you begin feeling resentful towards each other. When one or both partners is too selfish or uncaring. If they are risking your health or safety, not respecting your boundaries, not considering how their actions will effect you before they do something. When they are not making your life better instead of worse.

[FreyaRed]

Lack of respect. When your partner makes connotations that you aren't worthy to be with and it's a great favor from them they are together with you. Steady provocations which lead to escalations. Disregard of your red lines which should have been clearly defined before...

There are many signs, but Lack of respect is included in all of them.

[Moumits]

When someone minimizes your feelings, it’s a profound sign. I recall a past relationship that’s a great example of this. my ex-boyfriend would downplay my emotions whenever I brought up the fact that something he had said had upset me, he created an illusion that I was overreacting or being overly sensitive. My attempts to explain why the statements were upsetting were received with allegations of exaggerations.

[Ms_Facesitter]

When everyone says you should run, especially when it comes from that very honest and logical friend.
And you are being unhappy more often than you are happy.

[Billlewis]

The only way a relationship can be unhealthy is if the woman isn't completely satisfied at all times, in my opinion.

[sheikalana]

Manipulation, passive aggressive behavior, abuse/bullying.

[OddBeMe]

If you feel bad most of the time. Or even half the time.

[Anonymous]

To me it simply breaks down to 1 thing. Does this person make you feel more pain or more joy?

[wiltingrosepetal]

If you feel scared to leave

[MemeSupreme]

feeling bad after most interactions

[bededazzle]

a feeling like addiction, for some (me)

[Anonymous]

If you don't know that, nobody knows.

[Unit1]

Pain!

[Unit1]

A good example is when you feel better without their presence.