Is there any way to make friends without them crushing on you which leads to the friendship falling apart?

[Anonymous]

It has happened too many time and I want it to stop. I made so many amazing friends and then they say I really like you, but then the other people in the group say they like you too and then they stop talking to you and stop being your friend. How do I make friends without this happening again?

I think some of them were just using me to be honest though.

(I am a girl and all of the people saying they like me are boys)

[MrOracle]

Not with men (single, straight men, anyway). Men can't be "just friends" unless they already have a happy, healthy relationship with someone else - and in that case, they will rarely have a friend of the opposite sex anyway.

Unless the guy is gay or asexual, you should NEVER assume that you can be "just friends" with him, because HE will not be able to be "just friends" with you. That's like asking liquid water to be dry - it just isn't possible.

[Asker]

Thanks for telling me, it is kind of a shame though but I understand

[Tim2nice]

If you’re pretty people will be romantically attracted to you and one can’t help falling in love with you. So, to answer your question, it’s very difficult to just be friends with you when your beauty melts people’s hearts

[Asker]

Oh okay thank you for letting me know at least I can know I am some what pretty since it keeps happening so much haha

[Nikki1989]

Not really. Some people will fall for you no matter how you approach it.

[Asker]

Thanks for the reply and I guess, that is a little sad though I miss spending time like we used to with those people so much

[Worst]

If you're pretty, it's probably very hard

[Asker]

I guess but at least people find me pretty? (I am just trying to find some sort of positive in all of this)

[Worst]

yeah, i would imagine it sucks; but tbf, i think for girls at that age it's hard to get a genuine relationship with a guy anyways

[Asker]

yeah that is true but again it seems either an unserious relationship or just losing their friendship all together, so far still never had a boyfriend so I've just lost many friends i guess

[Worst]

Aye, it's better to weed out the shitty ones rather than having the fake ones stick around

[Asker]

that is very true haha

[Worst]

Best of luck on your endeavors

[Asker]

haha thanks hopefully i will get used to it and stop crying so much over it all

[Worst]

:(ㅤㅤ

[Asker]

kind of a shame but oh well :(

[Worst]

Hey, if you ever wanna vent; I'll listen to ya

[Asker]

thank you so much only thing I've got to say now is that i think its going to happen again soon, made a friend and theyre getting way too attached and I've tried saying just friends but theyre not listening and its scaring me but oh well

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes. You let them know your boundaries

[Asker]

Even if I tell them they just don't listen and ignore me whatever I say

[Joker_]

it's easy if you're pretty

[Asker]

What is easy?

[Joker_]

weird you respond to @Worst with an understanding of what is hard despite him not stating what exactly was hard, but here you suddenly have no clue what is easy even though the circumstances are the same between our answers

[Worst]

Quit harassing the poor girl buddy go back to reading books lol

[Joker_]

@Worst ok lol

[Worst]

Thanks lol

[Joker_]

@Worst you're welcome lol

[Asker]

im sorry i just wanted to clarify i didn't mean to seem rude at all

[Joker_]

no worries you weren't, I was just evading your question because I couldn't be bothered to read your post and actually figure out what in this context was easy/hard lol

[Asker]

oh lol okay