How do I end a toxic friendship without hurting them?

Question

I know this friend is toxic, she bullied me last year and this year was sneaky behind my back. There was a lot of jealousy and toxicity. Sometimes she does nice things but it’s overruled by the toxicity. I want to end the friendship, but I still have some love for her and don’t want to hurt her feelings. How do I do it? She keeps texting me and trying to do favours for me and I don’t really want to reply, but I feel ghosting is really hurtful to do to anyone. I kinda want to love her form a distance, What should I do?

Guccigabbana18 · Accepted Answer

Two options:

1. slowly phase her out. If you think she won’t respond well to confrontation (if she’s toxic, this might be the case) just start replying less and less to her and say how “busy” you’ve been. You have a right to protect yourself against toxicity.

2. You could confront her gently. No need for big accusations. The only prob with this option is that toxic people usually don’t respond well to confrontation and they don’t self-introspect well. So it likely will just make her angry. But if you don’t care then you can confront her about how you feel. Use lots of “I” statements.

Good luck. X

1stranger · Accepted Answer

Ending friendship is not the solution. This is the easiest way.

teacher · Accepted Answer

How to End a Friendship Without Hurting Their Feelings

Ending a friendship is never easy, but there are ways to do it without hurting their feelings too much:

First, try to have a conversation with the person and explain why you want to end the friendship.
If they don't take the news well, you can always say that you're sorry but you need to end the friendship
You can also try to end the friendship gradually by spending less time with the person and hanging out with other friends more.
If you need to, you can also block the person on social media or delete their number from your phone.

Just remember to be respectful and honest when you end a friendship.

Pinay_ako · Answer

End it. Before you lose yourself in a one sided toxic relationship that brings nothing but misery. A good and true friend got your back, will be brutally honest but with good intentions and will stand by you through thick and thin. She sounds like the opposite. Just be honest with her and if parting ways is the best solution, then so be it. You gotta love yourself first always. Sorry 😣

Sandeeppingping · Answer

Wow wow wow, definitely end it, however you can, sounds like an ex best friend I had, jealousy and bad energy then suddenly he does something good to me and the cycle keeps going, dude ended up fucking me over in a bad way, don't wait till then because that's the eventuality of it

raven6933 · Answer

First off do you feel that you deserve to be treated like that? You can try explaining what she's doing and how it makes you feel. In my opinion she sounds like she's jealous of you. If after you let her know how she makes you feel and still doesn't change then time to move on. You shouldn't subject yourself to her immaturity. Also make sure you have receipts so she can't say that she doesn't do that. Good luck.

petitedollbabee · Answer

If it’s a toxic friendship and they’ve hurt you, then who cares if you hurt them back. That kind of mentality of “I want to end the friendship but I don’t want to hurt them” will only make things harder for you, and turn you into a people pleaser. Just end the friendship, rip the Band-Aid off so to speak, and move on with your life.

melanieeeB · Answer

I already ended a few toxic friendships and I always sat down and talked to them, but I didn't try to explain, cause I knew she wouldn't understand and turn my words, so I just said I don't see us being friends anymore and that it's cause of me and how I changed and I just wanna end the friendship and that I'm sorry

dustybiker · Answer

“I just don’t think this is healthy anymore.” Be a grown up. Don’t ghost.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Tell her how you feel? Express to her how you feel mistreated by her and making you want to end the friendship and that you think it's better to go separate ways.

20yearsolder · Answer

Why do you care about hurting them? It didn't bother them to hurt you. Tell them that you no longer want to be friends. It's a toxic relationship that you no longer want to be in.

Missgingles · Answer

Tell her we can't be friends anymore. You are too low to reach the standars I have. Thats what I say

es20490446e · Answer

Being that they are the ones being toxic, not hurting them isn't the priority. Just do the best you can.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

You don't. Those toxic friends just either they choose to get to manipulate you or they're just big babies who can't take a hint. It's you who need to be strong and stop worrying about them.

Staximus · Answer

Just say "you're toxic, you need to work on that."

Anonymous · Answer

I had to do this to a long time friend last year. It wasn’t easy but it was for the better

Anonymous · Answer

just rip the bandaid off and cut all strings from it just end things point blank no other way of doing it

Ashash11 · Answer

Hate to say this.. But ghosting them one of the best solutions..

Anonymous · Answer

I guess you can try being nice, but that might not work.

erin_ireland · Answer

You ghost them. Works everytime

darkoflights · Answer

talking to em rarely

cootjuhh · Answer

find another friend

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