Do you prefer older or younger for a partner? And Why?

[Anonymous]

[petitedollbabee]

Older. Main reasoning being emotional maturity and life experience, and knowing who you are as a person. From my own experience with trying to date people my age, people in their early 20’s still have the mindset and lifestyle of a teenager, and majority of them haven’t been through much hardship - so they haven’t reached the type of emotional maturity that I’m talking about. I’ve also noticed that some people my age don’t have the life experience that I have, and I don’t want to be with someone who’s only just experiencing those things now, as I’ve moved well past them. And a lot of people my age are still figuring out who they are as a person, which there’s nothing wrong with that and it’s normal, but I already know who I am and I don’t think that I could be with someone who’s still figuring themselves out.

[petitedollbabee]

Ofcourse there are people in their early 20’s who have all of these things that I’m seeking in an older partner, but it’s somewhat rare, and I haven’t come across anyone like that irl. I’ve found it to be much more common in older people.

[Asker]

Yep that's completely understandable, older people most of the time have good maturity, I can definitely understand wanting someone that's at least matching the same maturity as you.

[Dinklex3]

I prefer dating someone the same age. 2 years younger max, 3 years older max.

I have more in common with people my age and it’s nice to grow old together.

Just a preference though. If I like someone, then I like them 🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

Fair enough lol

[NathanDavis]

I don't really have a preference... I've met both older and younger than me, also my very same age...

the girlfriends I had, just happened to be either younger or my same age (4 years younger at most)

other aspects will be much more important to me, not an specific age, lol

[AviatorTom]

I prefer someone old enough to know what they are doing... but not so old that they can no longer do it

[Apple1996]

Slightly younger. I just like gen z men

[Asker]

Really? That is quite... interesting I guess ha

[Apple1996]

Yess they are more mature. Millennial men still act like childern

[Asker]

Really? Cause with women it's the opposite, I'm more into older women even cause they are more mature, the women my age act like teenagers, that's crazy, some opposite day type shit 😆

[Apple1996]

Yeah I've noticed that gen z women are very immature

[Asker]

Yea that is strange, older dudes are less mature when younger are more mature and older women are more mature when younger women are less mature, mindblown

[MissStrawberry912]

Preferably older or around my age. But at the end of the day, it’s about who’s emotionally mature, respectful, loyal, makes me laugh/happy, protective, and compatible with me.

[MissStrawberry912]

Well that’s my opinion for men. But for women, I’m more selective. Definitely someone who needs to be in their mid to late 20s or in early to mid 30s haha.

[Asker]

Fair enough

That's quite a summary lol

[MissStrawberry912]

I just know what I like and want 😏 wbu?

[Asker]

Well I respect your mentality and I like where your head is at cause I actually have a similiar situation as yours but I look for maturity in older women because the women my age just don't seem to see relationships in a maturity manner, how I believe it should.

[MissStrawberry912]

You are 22 right? Well I appreciate you being open minded and respecting me. They probably have to learn somehow in your age group lol. Maybe you can teach them? 😅 in general, it’s hard to find mature people and emotionally maturity too. It’s why I prefer women in the age group I listed lol.

[Asker]

Yep I'm 22, I unfortunately don't have the patience to be teaching people maturity lol

Yep it's understandable, it's just hard out here when it comes to maturity nowadays ha

[IslaTheWitch]

I prefer a partner with matching experience, intellect and wit :D

It mostly means my age or older

[Asker]

Nothing wrong with that, sounds like you know exactly what you want Isla, I respect that 💯

[Lisia]

Idc lol just not underaged. I'm personally older than my boyfriend so I could go both ways.

[Asker]

Oh Lisa, you simple little creature 😆

[Lisia]

Preferably around my age tho.. I don't think I would date anyone from a different generation lol

[Asker]

From what I heard older generation dudes are more childish, yet their women are more mature I was surprised to hear this but ill take their word for it lol

[Lisia]

Almost every 30+ person from Belgium is childish to me ngl. But the women are indeed still more mature than the men. Like my Russian mom is 50 and so mature but my Belgian dad is 60 and acts like a literal adult toddler. But tbh he has mental health issues.

[Asker]

Well however much their maturity levels are, they raised you hella right, it all worked out Well, it's said that people reflect their parents on the way they are, you make your parents look good, I can't say I don't wonder why the older generations seem less mature tho, a mystery lol

[Lisia]

I think because most of them have mental health issues lol. Mental health was taboo in the past and no one wanted to talk about it. Or they just don't have morals and think because they're old, they know better.

[Asker]

This mental health stuff is getting out of hand, everyone is getting mental problems it's crazy, it's wild how mental health issues is just being normalized, I think it's quite uncommon to find someone that doesn't know anyone with a mental health issue lol

[Lisia]

Yeah exactly but people need to get diagnosed without throwing it around lol. I had friends who were all depressed but none of them were actually depressed fr. They were just sad for a day or 2. But it's better now than in the past tbh. Rather have everyone being diagnosed than people not getting help. People who don't get help are susceptible to getting worse disorders like NPD.

[Asker]

Yea help 😶😶😶

They felt a small glimpse of sadness and was like "I AM DEPRESSION 😭"

I didn't know mental issues evolve without help, I thought you'd have to go through worse experiences that makes it worse for it to get worse, I thought you could just sleep it off every night until you get used to it and then ehh

[Lisia]

Well it depends on what you have ofc. Usually (talking ab depression rn) it starts with just being tired all the time, then you start laying in bed more 'cause you don't have the energy to do anything, then because you don't really do anything or take care of yourself anymore and self-isolate it becomes even worse and worse and worse. But going through worse experiences can always speed up the process or give you an extra mental disorder if one wasn't enough already 😃 I've noticed it with people that have addictions. They try to for ex. drink their sorrow away but then again it doesn't fix their problems and their brain cells are dying off in the meantime so it gets worse and worse again

[Asker]

Yea them addictions are no joke, I don't know how depression is cause I've never struggled with it but some people even lead to suicide so it surely sounds like a terrible time, the thing that always has me wondering is that some people develope it for absolutely no reason at all, I've personally ran through a week of it before with no actual reason to and I'm sure some go through longer so it's quite fascinating to me to know how that happens and why it happens, now I know some go through stuff and it's completely understandable but other have it for no reason and I believe it cause I've personally experienced it before, weird stuff

[Lisia]

I have diagnosed depression lol and it's because of my toxic empathy that I developed since my grandma died.. weird stuff.

[Tstrbrainer]

What is toxic empathy?

[Asker]

I with this brain dude, what's toxic empathy? 😶👂

[Asker]

Im**

[Lisia]

I basically empathize so much that it takes a toll on my own emotions and life. I also sometimes empathize with bad people or people that did something bad to me.

[Tstrbrainer]

Sounds like Jesus

[Lisia]

@Tstrbrainer lmao what 😭 I'm not religious so idc really

[Asker]

Doesn't sound toxic to me, sounds like just an extreme case of empathy which isn't bad, it means you aren't bias and it says you put yourself in people's shoes even when it comes to negativity and you don't let your emotions get in the way of it, it can be a good thing just how it can be bad and I wouldn't call it toxic, because toxic only means poison and thats only bad, with the proper analyzing this is a gift not a curse, it can help make good decisions, most of the time nothing good comes from reacting on only emotions, I think you should change that to 'enhanced empathy' it fits better.

[Lisia]

Yeah it's more of a gift and a curse. It would've been more helpful if I became a psychologist or something.

[Asker]

The option is always on the table Lisa

[Lisia]

True but I don't know I think I'd take it to heart what my patients would be going through

[Tstrbrainer]

It can definitely harm her if she isn't careful.

[Asker]

Yea that's... true, why did you think becoming a psychologist would be more helpful? 😂

[Lisia]

Imagine being a lawyer with empathy 😭

[Tstrbrainer]

That's actually more beneficial for the society.

[Lisia]

@Tstrbrainer wdym

[Tstrbrainer]

You may not make a lot of money, but you can passionately represent a lot of ordinary people in matters that affect their lives.

[Lisia]

@Tstrbrainer I don't know if that will mix well with what I originally wanted to do tbh

[Tstrbrainer]

What do you originally wanted to do?

[Asker]

Bruh with all honesty fuck society, id rather this girl stay in one piece then her trying to help society, destroy her mental state and not even make a dent in society's void.

[Lisia]

I wanted to become a ROUGLY TRANSLATED research judge if that even is a thing in English 😭 in crime preferably

[Tstrbrainer]

Research judge? Never heard of it.

Are you from a civil law country?

[Lisia]

@Tstrbrainer maybe an investigating judge then? And yes

[Tstrbrainer]

Ohh okay.
A judge, I was hoping you won't say that lol.

By the way, I'm from a common law country, so never really heard of it

[Lisia]

@Tstrbrainer It's not really a judge judge. I do more of the investigating part then y'know

[Tstrbrainer]

Like a judicial inquiry commission?

[sheikalana]

Older or similar age but a few years older.

[Asker]

Very valid indeed Lana 👍

[syncheart]

Younger or at least the same age as me. I think it's more for the physical looks.

[Asker]

Fair enough

[Yannae]

I don't really have a preference. Just be around my age.

[Asker]

Fair enough lol

[Beckybooboo]

I never dated anyone younger. My preference is a little older. Maybe 2-4, maybe 5 years.

[JacobJordan]

a bit older I wasn't attracted to people my age when I was in my 20s I also don't like younger people for the most part.

[menina]

Older or closer in age. I feel that I would have more common with someone who is also 31 or in his early 30's than with someone younger. It would make me more comfortable too.

[exitseven]

Younger because if somebody is older than me they could be on Medicare.

[Iron_Man]

Younger, we have more in common older women, are more mature than men and it’s a long story we’re not compatible

[bededazzle]

younger, because i am not emotionally my age

[RealMarek]

I prefer 3-10 years younger.

[Bricealan]

No specific preference for me?

[OddBeMe]

Similar age. I prefer equavalent convos.