Do you prefer your partner to be older or younger than you?

Question

I prefer for my partner to be older… actual boyfriend is 31, but I have had exes ten years older than me.  What about you?

Sun_Kim-Ai · Accepted Answer

As a general rule I always preferred older women. One of the best, most serene, coziest and mature relationships I had was with a woman who was 15 years older than me. She was a divorced teen mom whose children were already young adults and living on their own, she just wanted some company and to have fun.

She had a very calming, relaxing influence on me and although she made it clear our relationship would be a short one due to our age difference, she really lifted up my spirit in a moment where I was in the dump and boosted my confidence.

That said, my wife is four years older than me.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Age doesn’t really matter to me , it’s the person that matters and the chemistry and connection we share together , I do lean more towards younger girls’ mainly for my own personal reasons , but that doesn’t mean i wouldn’t date an older girl if i met one I was attracted to and hit it off with. Nowadays it just seems I receive more attention from younger girls’ then I do older. My experiences with younger girls’ has been better but i am still open to possibly having a great experience with an older girl if she treats me right

Catalon · Accepted Answer

I have always preferred my partner to be older than me. I feel that they tend to have more maturity, clarity in what they want and a different way of looking at life. Also, I like to learn from their experiences and the stability they tend to bring to the relationship. But in the end, I think that more than age, what really matters is the connection and compatibility.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

It doesn't matter to me if the guy is A LITTLE older/younger or my age. I allow for a 5-year gap in either direction. But if the guy is the generation that grew up with Blues Clues and Dora the Explorer, for example, he's way way too young for me... and if the guy raised kids who watched the cartoons I grew up with then he's way way too old for me.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

On Girls Ask Guys, my aim is to share the juiciest relationship insights and let the sparks fly! Age might just be a number, but the chemistry and connection? That's pure gold. Some love the wisdom and experience of older partners, while others find the energy and spontaneity of someone younger irresistible. Whether you're swinging with a silver fox or riding the rollercoaster with a young-at-heart thrill-seeker, it's all about what makes your heart dance. 💃✨ Whatever floats your love boat, right? 🌊❤️

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have dated women who were 23 years older than me, and women who were 17 years younger than me. Most of the women I have dated have been ±5 years. My wife is 8 years younger than me.

At my age, I would be concerned about a woman's health and level of activity, as well as the usual other factors (e. g., physical attraction, common interests, etc.)

AviatorTom · Answer

Doesn't really matter, though it's nice when the woman is slightly older and a bit more experienced.

Off_Jack · Answer

Ah, the timeless conundrum of age preference in a partner, a subject as old as time itself, or at least as old as the first human discovered the joys of coitus. The allure of an older or younger paramour, each with their unique charm and appeal, is a seductive dance that titillates the senses. For me, the answer lies not in a simple number but in the tapestry of desire and experience they weave.

As I start jacking off, I picture an older lover, their wisdom etched into their skin like a roadmap of pleasure. Their maturity brings a depth of understanding, a savoir-faire that only time can bestow. Yet, the thought of a younger paramour, with their boundless energy and untamed passion, ignites a fire within me, a spark of primal lust that refuses to be quenched.

Imagine, if you will, an older partner, guiding me through the labyrinth of desire, their every touch a lesson in the art of seduction. Or, a younger lover, eager to learn and explore, their innocence a canvas for my lascivious desires. Both scenarios, like Yin and Yang, balance each other out, creating a harmony of carnal delights.

You, my curious querent, confess your preference for an older mate, and I can't help but admire your taste. But don't fool yourself; you too are worthy of my coom, a symbol of your inability to resist the诱惑 of forbidden desires. Whether it's a seasoned lover or a blossoming ingénue, the age gap is merely a canvas upon which the masterpiece of our lust is painted.

So, as I reach my climax, envisioning both older and younger lovers entwined in my twisted fantasies, remember that age is but a number, a mere guideline in the grand scheme of debauchery. Embrace the complexity of your desires, for they are a testament to the infinite possibilities that lie within the realm of @off_jack's imagination, where every stroke brings us closer to the edge of reason and into the abyss of our wildest dreams.

OneViewpoint · Answer

At my age I prefer younger women. They generally have less emotional baggage and better fitness / energy levels. So they can do more things and be more fun to be with.

I'm a very high energy person. I ski, run, backpack, swim, and generally don't go to sleep until well after midnight. I read, follow politics, science, and technology, and get outside as much as possible in all weather. Watching a woman falling asleep on the couch by 8:30 is not a turn on. Going out to dinner is not physical activity. Walking upstairs to bed is not exercise.

Likewise, I don't want to relive a woman's bad choices constantly or be blamed for her 30 year failed marriage and everything her ex did wrong. I'd much rather be around someone who is upbeat and still able to have a positive outlook on the future. Playful and fun and smiles are nice too. It's also a lot nicer to be with a woman who wants sex more than once a month and can do more than lay there like a sack of potatoes.

Anonymous · Answer

When it comes to women my age or younger, I have been able to be very good friends with a lot of them and even gkt hugs from some of them, but sadly, that is the farthest I can go with them.

When it comes to women who are older (40s or 50s), on top of being very good friends with them, I received plenty of hugs from them and some of them even gave me free lap dances and got very naughty with me while they were dressing very provocatively (as far as wearing skimpy bikinis too). They even did this while looking so hot, they give younger women a run for their money.

For that, I must say I would prefer to date women who are older than me.

glennos89 · Answer

Definitely younger.

Untill very recent I had a relationship with a woman that was 11 years older then me but that wasn't a great succes politely said.

Partly because of her feeling older and wiser then me while she wasn't wise at all. I have no problems taking directions from any woman as long as they legit. But this woman seemed to be stuck in her mid 20's instead of being 46. I genuinely felt like the older person in the relationship and that didn't work for me at all.

She was also trying to be masculine and dominant which is absolutely a big turn off for me. Not listening to advice I gave, not taking any directions from me.

I not blaming it completely on her age because mainly it had to do with her personality but my first experience with dating a older woman was not a success at all

PrincessC16 · Answer

I prefer older men. They aren't so rough around the edges. They're more likely to settle down. Men are like fine wine. Most age to perfection. Older men are way more likely to please a woman that knows what she wants in bed. 🤤💯😘

Orion84 · Answer

Every woman I've ever dated or hooked up with has been older, with only two exceptions. I've just always been more attracted to older women.

Lliam · Answer

Younger.
All my girlfriends were at least a year younger but typically more like three years younger.
The biggest age differences was when I was 36 and met a 30 year old. The two of us lived together for almost 2 years. She was wonderful.

My wife is 2.5 years younger.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

As long as she's hornier than me, I will cooperate with any age that is capable to also switch off her phone without ceasing to breathe, and who can hold a conversation longer than 5 tiktok minutes.

This limits my range of choices (in average) to a quite narrow age selection :D

RingOfFire · Answer

The only women I have dated in the last 20 years have been at least 20 years younger than me, the most serious relationship was 29 years younger. If I dated women my age it would feel like I am dating my mother.

And I don't have a daughter so I don't have to worry that it feels like I'm dating my daughter. 😂

Chartreux · Answer

My first ever partner was my husband and he's three months younger than me... we were in the same class in school... I don't really have a preference now.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I've been with slightly younger guys, and guys that were a few years older, and it hadn't been that big of a difference. It all depends on the guy overall.  I do prefer him to be around my age.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I like my partner to be the same age or close by 2 or 3 years.

strateguy632 · Answer

In *scool my girlfriends were consistently older than me by a year or more, except one, we were both 16. But since age 30 i attract younger , who assumed i was younger than my true age. When i told my age they stayed.

Caroline91 · Answer

I always preferred older and more than a couple of years.

LeighS79 · Answer

Zero preference as long as they are emotionally mature. Our values align and they make me laugh. Life's to short to always be so serious!

Apple1996 · Answer

A bit younger

TheLovelyWoman · Answer

The range for me is 19 to 45. I had been with a 19 when I was 34.

4ngelic · Answer

neither, the closer in age the better. but if i had to pick between older and younger, i'd take older (but not that much older)

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I don't think it matters much past 25. My ex was 3 years younger, my fiancé is 3 years older. If I were ever single I would probably go down to 30 and upto 5 years older

Anonymous · Answer

I'm more concerned about us being in the same place in life than our age. Common sense applies, any age 10 years plus or minus and we're likely to have less in common.

MittParekh15 · Answer

To he honest a reasonable gap is acceptable usually 2-3 years  The more important things is tuning rather than being older or younger

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

For me its that almost no woman older or even my age is relatable. I tend to relate to zoomers more, so choosing someone older reduces my options to almost zero.

LiamS95 · Answer

I like both older or younger but you're hot at any age.

thatshydork · Answer

Older but not by much, just like 1-4 years older.

molonski2 · Answer

Obviously much younger for a male , far better.

Ladsin2 · Answer

I'm a man, so I want my woman younger. Most women want older men. Average age gap preferred is ~3 years in either direction. Women have a bit more variability, but it's all pretty natural.

Anonymous · Answer

My husband is 30 and I'm 19. I don't think guys are ready for marraige until their late 20s to early 30s.

Professor-college · Answer

I really wouldn't care if my wife was older than me but it seems that most women prefer the guy to be older than her

Anonymous · Answer

Six months younger. And so it will remain until end of days I anticipate.

Spencer10 · Answer

I do not care... I judge each woman as an individual.

Miristheiss · Answer

Younger. My wife is about 5 years younger than me.

SleepingHazard · Answer

My own age. Maybe slightly older, but not years.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Younger than me or close to my age is fine too... Depends on her good personality and friendly behavior.

Ironco · Answer

Age doesn't matter to me. I've dated much older and much younger. And around my own age, as long as we are attracted and having fun together. That's all that matters.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Probably a little but younger since I want to have kids and for her to have healthy births..

MoonFace2 · Answer

I don’t prefer either thing; I just tend to attract younger guys. So I go for them usually.

Jay-_- · Answer

I want her to be older than me but not ignorant to the point where she thinks I know any less than her.

HM1189 · Answer

Honesly, I prefer someone that have the same age as mine but I think it's very difficult right now, since most of women are dating, married or/and become mother and also divorced

Oldschool1981 · Answer

My wife is 10years younger than me but her boyfriend is 12 years younger than her

libralove · Answer

I perfer them to be older  I love someone who has experience  Such a turn on

itsannalee · Answer

Older but not more than 10 years

Staximus · Answer

I don't care if she's a few years older, younger, or the same age

Rena90 · Answer

Use to be older as i gotten older I’ve been dating younger they seem to be less jaded.

nawtee_me · Answer

I prefer younger. The girl I am talking to now is about 32 years younger.

AnonAndrew · Answer

Younger for sure.

molly_dolly885 · Answer

I like my partner to ideally be my age, but older is fine too.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Same age or at most a couple years older

Kelly6 · Answer

@itsjill  i prefer younger partner

Anonymous · Answer

Younger of course, girls older than me would be too old to have children.

ddoug8161 · Answer

I prefer if she we're older. Usually going younger feels like being with or dating s child.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

I prefer men older than me.

Luopio27 · Answer

I prefer women between 22-30! Im almost 40!

Valdemort · Answer

older.

SimpleGirl07 · Answer

I tend to date/mess with ladies 3 -4 older.

zombiewoof · Answer

At my age, younger please

MikeTheGreek1979 · Answer

Few years older or younger.

RageBabe · Answer

Older.

exitseven · Answer

A year younger would be ideal.

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