How long is too long without sex in a relationship?

[surgent]

I just want to see your experiences from your personal relationships... I could probably last 1 month at most.

[nurse]

This is one of those things that's super subjective and varies wildly from couple to couple.

First off, what's "too long" for one couple might be just fine for another. Some couples are perfectly content with having sex less frequently, while others might feel a stronger need for more regular physical intimacy.

The key here isn't about hitting a specific number or following some societal standard. If one person feels like it's been too long, but the other doesn't, that's where the heart of the matter lies.

Stress, health issues, work, kids, and a million other things can affect a person's libido. It's not always about losing interest in your partner. Sometimes external factors play a big role.

In short, there isn't a definitive timeline for "too long" without sex in a relationship. If both people in the relationship are happy and fulfilled, whether they're having a lot of sex or a little, then they've found the right balance for them.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I need some time to trust enough to open myself up.

I don’t want to have sex with them right away and then regret.

I know that sex gives me the biggest pleasure when it’s with someone I have feelings for and who has feelings for me too.

I’d like him to give me some time, I don’t feel comfortable getting intimate right away.

Some level of trust and affection is necessary for me.

I also know sex causes me to catch deeper feelings, and I’d not like to catch feelings for someone I don’t trust.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Oh, I was thinking the question meant how soon should you start having sex while dating.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

In case of relationships, it would be very stressful for me to be in a relationship and to go for a long time without sex.

When I had a partner we had sex daily and sometimes a few times a day, then during long distance of pandemic I was in a relationship for two years and we didn’t have sex for 2 years.

It was very stressful and difficult.

Imagine, loving someone, being loved back, loving every inch of their body, only wanting him in the world and not being able to touch him. It’s like a dream that gets unfulfilled and frustrated every day.

That’s very difficult. I’d never want to experience something like that again.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Im the same way as u🥰

[BadApple69]

Let’s put it this way…. I was married to a sexless wife. I went for 5 years without sex. Without masturbation i would have been dead (or people around me would have). We fought a lot and it was mostly because of sexual frustration.

[Unknown8264]

Why did she want sex?

[Unknown8264]

Didn’t *

[BrooklynLB]

5 years! What was her reasoning?

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Did you talk to her? what reasons she gives?

[BadApple69]

The reality was… she just hated sex. When we dated she tolerated sex. Even on our wedding night she didn’t want to have sex. She wanted a child so for the first year we had some sex. She got pregnant and that was it. In her mind no more reason to have sex.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Very low libido
Happens to me sometimes when i only want sex day before period
Once a month

[Drumlin2001]

Dependsin the reason for not having sex. During pregnancy my other half had medical issues, I think we had sex once in over 6 months. If there's a clear reason for it I think it's easier to deal with then not being clear why

[IslaTheWitch]

I think it's very individual :D

There are no good or bad answers, just different needs and preferences.

For some people, emotional connection and stability are the most important parts, and they can go quite a long time without intimate contact. For others, the loss of physical closeness is quite challenging and can affect them rather quickly.

[Unknown8264]

I would want everyday or at least 3-4 times a week.
First time I had sex was after marriage and the guy would want sex only on weekends or he would be “tired” and not interested.
It was a torture that I wanted it more than him and plus he had ED. So the whole thing was awful. I wish I can get married asap and get laid everyday

[Tim2nice]

You know you don’t have to be married to have sex. You just need a boyfriend or a friend with benefits

[Unknown8264]

Doesn’t work that for me. My religion doesn’t allow that and I follow it

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

We had 4 month break

And last time it was 2 month and 2 weeks

My libido goes into hibernation when there are some personal problems , health issues, depresssion or we had a huge argument

Like last time we nearly break up i was very pissed at him

At one point i couldnt even kiss him, but times and communication cures everything

[AaronKrieger]

I don't care that much about sex 90% of the time, so I mainly just do it for whoever I am with. That means I can go on without it for a long time and be fine.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I think we were intimate within a few weeks of dating, now, as a married couple, who have been together for over 20 years, I can't imagine going more than a couple of weeks.

[A_Bell]

Before my first kid, one day, lol..

Now, three to four days start to seem like torture.

[ArrowheadSW]

Also for me, 1 month would be stretching it.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've gone 15 months while deployed. If we're both at home and it's more than a couple days there's a problem that needs to be talked about

[MissStrawberry912]

1-3 days is starting to get too long if you asked me… 🫢 1 week will feel off.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Once the couple has had sex, I guess a month would be 'too long'

[ManhattanMan1212]

Can I ask you a question

[Samantha36]

A week without penetrative sex. A couple days without an orgasm

[Anonymous]

I'm going on a month... Due to us having a bad fight and not talking for two weeks. Then when we start talking again. She had to take meds and a side effects was she had really bad itching pain inside her vagina. Then once she was finished with that, her time of the month hit!! Currently dealing with it.

[Boomchakalaca]

2 - 3 weeks. I can go awhile but he cannot. He’d get angry with me wanting sex

[RedInnocent68]

If we’re not apart, like one of us is travelling for work, four days tops, and even then only if one or both of us are sick.

[Joshydavid25]

Anytime one starts to feel deprived of their desires..

[sheikalana]

In my relationship more than five days without sex is too much for us.

[MikeyObrien]

It depends on the couple. Personally I wanna do it everyday but if it wasn't happening at least twice a week I'd leave.

[ThrillSeeker01]

I would want to have sex at least several times a week.

[Anonymous]

A month is too long but I went years without it when I was married, now it’s years again, without masturbation I would be really frustrated and maybe find prostitutes

[LunarEclipse433]

I am going on 8 years