If you make a promise while in a relationship and that relationship breaks up, Do you think you should keep the promise?

[LemiaOfThunder]

For example I made a promoise to my ex while I was with her that I would buy her something but our relationship ended and she made a song and dance about me breaking the promise, I said "I said If I was still with you in that I would buy you it, the fact we NOT together makes it none in void, Its hardly fair on your boyfriend if your ex who you had no feels for bought you something"

Yes

No

[BeeNee]

Promises I will keep post break-up.

1. Promises to pay back any money that was not gifted to me
2. Promises made to any children and/or dying relatives made within that relationship that don't involve me marrying said ex or bringing new life into this world or that infringe on future relationships.
3. Promises involving legal matters as long as they are legally done to the letter, and I am protected should he decide to be a jerk and say back out of business deal because he's bitter/angry.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Depends. I take my promises seriously, so I rarely make promises but when I do, I try my best to keep them.

I might be the last one to give up on that promise, but if another party has given it up, I’d be a fool to keep being loyal to that promise.

[AviatorTom]

It depends on what you promised. Every case is unique and needs to be evaluated. Some promises should be kept after a relationship ends, some don't. There's no simple rule.

[Paris13]

Breakup Means NO TIES. You are OFF THE HOOKED TO THE HIP. xxoo

[sawno]

Depends on what that promise is and how much sense it makes. If you promise to do something out of partnership you have no reason to continue that promise. For example I told her i'd happily want to contribute and pay my fair share, obviously that was off the table once she left me. Any promised activities we'd do in the future are of course also off the table because thats not the situation anymore.

But other things I promised to her and even her father that i'd do in general I stick to, because those weren't really promises of something I would be doing, it was reassurance I genuinely wanted those things. So me promising not to give up on a hard situation I am going trough is obviously going to be kept since I want to beat that situation myself.

[FriendlyCanadianGuy]

My girlfriend of 4 years who I proposed to dumped me a week before my birthday. She was super toxic. Only promise I made was to open my bday gift on my bday since it arrived early. It also came with a huge paragraph of how I was the best and how we'd have so many more bdays to come etc.

If you have honor then follow through on your promises.

If they somehow expect a present from you that you promised, Forget about that lol.

What did you promise to get her by the way? Like are u still friends? Wtf

[libsaretards]

No. A BREAK-up means EVERYTHING related to the relationship is broken. Any promises made are null and void. The only exception is when it comes to children from the relationship.

My first girlfriend and I made a silly bet once where the loser of a bowling match had to cook something for the winner. I ended up losing that bowling match and had promised to make one of my homemade pizzas, which are better than ANY I have ever had at a restaurant.

However, between school and work I was extremely busy and the limited time we had together the opportunity never came up. Once she graduated high school (she was a senior and I a junior), I had planned to surprise her with it, but the very day we met with me intended to keep that promise was the day she broke up with me lol

[wolfcat87]

This is why you should always make promises conditional on staying together. If not, I would hold you to it. In your case, why did you break up? What did you promise? If she dumped you or something, then no you have no obligation. And, some promises would just be weird like promising she could move in but she's with another guy...

[HawkPerception]

No. Once the relationship is over, you're not obligated to do anything for her. And it really depends on what the promise is. If it's to take her out on a luxurious vacation, no. If it's to be her plus one at a wedding, sure... if she has no one to go with and she's okay with you coming and only if you want to. If it's an expensive dinner, no. If it's to be a workout partner for a period of time, sure if you're both comfortable with it and not seeing anyone.

[JacobJordan]

verbal contract. you made a promise that you would buy her something in the future provided you 2 were still together. she (I presume) dumped you thus violating that contract. meaning you are no longer bound by that promise

[IslaTheWitch]

It depends. Some promises don't make sense to be held when the relationship no longer exists.

And in my opinion, a promise to buy something belongs to this category.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

A breakup VOIDS the deal unless the promise was made to someone other then the person you broke up with.

[modeunae]

My promises to a woman only stand as long as I'm with that woman. After that?

You can forget.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would say no, but you could give her a friendly card, say just letting you know, I'm thinking of you and just be kind.

[Likes2drive]

No that’s ridiculous if you’re not with them anymore, I guess she wants things for free even when they’re not with you

[CassandraSpender]

If it is an amicable break, you are honorbound to do as you promised... if they've made themselves am enemy, things are different

[Nikki1989]

No, if you break up, all bets are off.

[litty736]

Your situation is fair. You're no longer entitled to buy her anything.

[90000]

I don't think I can continue keeping it because we no longer in a relationship.

[NewHopeGir33]

Its none invoid as she broke. up with you

[NathanDavis]

some I would, sure... others no need to

[RavVid]

Your ex was on the make